Im 21 she is 19 and we have a 6 month old we live with my dad and sister, our relationship is horrible its physical and mentally painful for both of us. I want her to move back home but she doesnt want to she doesnt get alon with my dad who owns the house nor me. She is probably a nice person and would be better offwith someone else but it just doesnt work with us. Do i need to hire a a lawyer or seomthing or what do i do? I never been so depressed. thanks
2007-10-12 11:43:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yeah i told her several times I dont love her but she just wont belive it. Then I lie to her to make her feel better saying i do love you but I only say it so she wont do anything drastic because i really think she will hurt someone.
2007-10-12 11:51:33 · update #1
We really never get along. I overdosed on ambien cr and vicoden because of her it just sucks.
2007-10-12 11:58:31 · update #2
Hire a lawyer and make sure you get to see your baby again!
2007-10-12 11:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by pugloverk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time right after a baby is born is extremely stressful for any couple, regardless of their age! Caring for a newborn is very demanding and it takes a toll on relationships. You wouldn't be the first couple that didn't survive the first couple of years of a new baby! It's pretty overwhelming.
It mighth be a good idea to get someone to babysit for the baby, so the two of you can go out on the town. Have some dates with each other. At least try it. Don't stay cooped up in the house, getting on each others' nerves and ending up hating each other. Get out there. Just because you had a baby doesn't mean that life stops.
You're both young and, if you ask me, you should try to have someone babysit so you two can go out and have fun. Be yourselves again and enjoy life. You might want to try that. I think, at the very least, because you're the guy, you should take charge and try everything before you're leaving for good. I mean, at some point the two of you had a spark. Otherwise there wouldn't be a baby.
It's a whole new and stressful world with a baby. But there is no reason you two can't have fun in life too. It's all how you approach this. At least give it a try?
Good luck!
PS: I just read your comment about your overdose. This is quite serious. Please don't do stuff like that. Your baby really needs you.
2007-10-12 12:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about your predicament, it must be very hard for both of you.
Are you really sure that you no longer love her and that you don't want to be with her?
If you are, then I think it is only fair that you tell her, even though it'll break her heart now. It'll still be better for you all in the long time. You could offer to help set her up with her own flat or move home if that would ease the seperation a bit.
If you still have feelings for her, please go to the family counselling or mediation. You may both just need you own place together, but within that structure, you may also need to branch out and do some things for yourselves and not as a couple.
I'm sure things will improve for you both. You're very young and having a baby is probably quite a strain on you both. You both have lots of your life to live yet, and it is better to be happy than sad. best of luck.
2007-10-12 11:49:46 · answer #3 · answered by Smokeabella 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel and that you would like to break up because sticking with someone just because you have a baby is not fair to either of you or the child. My parent's stayed together because of my brother and I and I think we would have been better off if they had split because we got to witness them fighting all the time and learned way to many bad things that they had done to eachother that we shouldn't have been exposed to. You may need a lawyer to discuss custody issues. Hopefully she will be mature about the situation and move out without causing any problems.
2007-10-12 12:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't! I know your relationship isn't the best, but you should stay around, so atlest your kid could see you and be able to say he/she has met him/her dad! I mean i guess if you will still keep in touch with your childs mother so you can see the kid, then you could have your dad tell her that she has to leave. I mean it is his house, so just have him tell her that she needs to find a new place to live, and that you just can't be with her anymore because of all the problems you've been having that you just don't think you can work. But if you really can find some way of dealing with your girlfriend, then you should so your child can have a father. No kid deserves to not be able to see its both parents. So if she does leave, then make sure you atleast keep in touch with the child.
2007-10-12 11:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by Ballin! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try relationship counseling if you think there is any hope of working things out. Your child deserves to have two parents who are married to each other and love each other, if possible. If it's not possible, then you probably should consult a lawyer to work out custody issues. I wish all of you all the best.
2007-10-12 11:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
" its physical and mentally painful for both of us "
Oh realy! was that before of after you brought that little
life in this world? . . .
" She is probably a nice person and would be better off
with someone else " . . .
I have a feeling even the baby would agree with you
on that one . . .
2007-10-12 12:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by Ben 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling!!! NOW!!! TOGETHER!!!
Not to be rude or anything, but it seems like you both have issues that need to be dealt with by a professional.
2007-10-12 12:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have a kid and now your leaving!!!! that kid will never meet his real father if u leave....dont think about wats best 4 u think of your child...
2007-10-12 11:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by ♪♥§♫Arizona Chick♫§♥♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋