I'm 36 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend hasn't touched me in 5 weeks. We usually would have sex once a week but now it is like impossible to get him to want it. I'm not going to say it is impossible for him to be cheating but someone mentioned that some men just get weirded out by the whole baby growing inside you thing. Anyone else had this happen?
2007-10-12 11:00:22 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't worry about it to much, I went through the same thing with both of my pregnancies. My husbands excuse was that he didn't want to hurt the baby(which could never happen), even after i explained to him that it was impossible he always seemed uncomfortable with the whole idea. It was hard for me to deal with but after the pregnancies were over everything went back to normal. In my case, i think my husband just didn't think he had a right to my body while the baby was in there. Other men are just turned off by the change of your body, or think that you are to delicate to have sex . If your man refuses to have sex, don't worry its always safe to please yourself :) maybe he will want to join you in the end.
2007-10-12 11:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the old days it was considered wrong for a man to have sex with a pregnant woman because it was considered to be harmful to the little one. Thank goodness we don't live in those days as it could be a whole lot different for all of us.
Unless a doctor tell you that you cannot have sex for medical reasons then there is no reason to stop. The next time you see your physician ask him if there is any reason medically that you and your boyfriend are not able to have sex. Relay the message to him if he still refuses I certainly wouldn't jump to any conclusions about cheating, as you stated some men just think that it's time to quit until the baby is born and unfortunately no matter what you say or do that is the way he thinks and that is that. Hopefully the doctor can change his mind but chances are if he is this adament he won't. You don't have too long to wait so I wouldn't make a big deal out of it either you could end up messing up your marriage just because of rediculous fantasies of infidelity.
Good luck to all three of you and remember the baby has a say in all this too.
Been a mama too, three times and never had a problem even up to the last week.
CH
2007-10-13 19:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by Yarborough51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy i havent had anything for the past 4 months. It has a lot to do with the fact that in february of this year i had a miscarriage and i was bleeding one day and then stopped and then we had sex and i started bleeding again. Well 2 days later i go to the doctor a 12 weeks and was told that my baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks. So now my bf thinks that sex will harm this baby because of what happened last time. I am 27 weeks and i take him to my prenatal visit so he knows how things are going. I have asked the doc if my placenta is high enough for us to have sex and she says we are safe. That still didnt matter to him. When i get frustrated and ask him why he says that he just cant that if we do anything all he can see is his mind is his private hitting the baby or something. He said to just give him some time, which i have been trying to be very patient. I dont think your bf is doing anything wrong, probably just scared that since the baby is so big now that he might do something wrong to the baby.
2007-10-12 11:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really doubt he's cheating on you. My husband feels a little funny about having sex with me nowadays. He knows it won't hurt the baby, but the thought of having sex while I have a baby inside me is a little too much for him. So we do other stuff besides actual sex.
Have you talked to your boyfriend about it? That would be the best way to find out what's going on. Just don't be confrontational about it.
2007-10-14 13:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by ciela109 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24 weeks along and in the beginning of my pregnancy things were the same...we've always had a great sex life...had sex 3/4 times a week sometimes more. But as soon as I started to show..around 16 weeks I noticed we were only having sex once a week if even that. Now at 24 weeks and I'm showing a lot more I'm lucky to have sex every 10 days and I practically have to BEG for it. With my hormones going nuts I just burst into tears one night and started going off on him asking what was wrong with me, was he cheating on me, am I just not attractive anymore and telling him that it took the two of us to do this and that he needed to man up and not treat me differently lol. Looking back on it now I was just being silly. We had a good talk and he reassured me he wasn't cheating...the way he put it how could he be cheating on me when his day consists of sleeping in bed next to me unitl the alarm goes off at 7:30 going to work, coming home to have lunch with me, going back to work until 5, walks in the door at 5:15 and then we cook dinner together and eat and then around 6:30 we go over to our friends house and he and his buddy work on the boat, one of the cars or play an xbox game while me and his buddies wife work on their weddings plans and play with their 3 year old. And the nights we don't go over there we are at home watching a moving and then going to bed early because he works hard all day. So I realized there was no way he could be cheating on me. He admitted though that once I started to show it was weird for him because he was worried about hurting the baby or the baby knowing what was going on. I got him a book for expecting daddy's and he read up on it and read about the sex part and how its actually really good for pregnant woman and now we're back to about 2 maybe 3 times a week. He just needed some reassurance and to know that it was really making me feel unattractive when he wouldn't touch me. So sit him down an dlet him know how you feel! Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, congrats on the baby and I wish you a safe and healthy delivery!
2007-10-12 12:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 39 weeks and it's been over 6 weeks since we've have sex. He's wierded out by it. But is still very affectionate. I miss it so much, haha. But what he doesn't realize is that there will be a 6 week wait after baby arrives. I'll need to heal.
2007-10-12 11:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Darling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby was definentaly weirded out by the whole thing we stopped having sex completely after about 3 months he said he felt that he was going to crush the baby! Just talk to your boyfriend and see what he's feeling open communication is key you two are about to be parents! Better start now!
2007-10-12 11:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband still wants to he doesnt "say " anything to me cuz he knows ill get agitated with him. but i would automatically think hes cheating.. i get woken up in the middle of the night is how i find out my husband was a lil "sumn sumn" and by then im like FINE... lol but like when i want something he doenst when he wants somehting i dont.. and i think its been about 5 weeks for us too.. i dont really pay attention to it honestly i just dont feel the need or want to have sex right now other things going through my head
2007-10-12 11:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Serenity*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOO! lol he does not want to have sex at allllll ... he told me 3 months into my pregnancy that he felt wierd having sex with me because the idea of "a growing baby inside me" scared him. soo u should be lucky u made it as long as u did cuz i havent had sex in 6 MONTHS!
and dont even worry its normal for a guy to feel this way. when i tell ppl about this they automatically think my bf is up to something .. but i kno him better than that!
its like the movie "knocked up" if u havent seen it .. GO SEE IT! lol
2007-10-12 11:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by oosmellymeli 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some guys are different than others. i am not pregnant yet but even if iw as my bf would still love havieng sex no matter how big i was . it wont hurt the baby and theres different ways to do it comfortably. its his baby inside you just as much as yours i dont see why hes weirded out by it. some guys are afraid to hurt the baby.
2007-10-12 11:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋