What should I do?

Question

2 years ago my husbadn cheated on me with another women he had a son with her and the way i found out is becuase he video tapes it and showed to me. I was not with him at the time I was having my baby in the hospitol and he was in the hospitol I forgave him and we got back together. Then I got him papers and he treats me really bad, I have four kids with him I do everything for him I cook everyniht clean and iron his clothes make his lunch everything and I still have sex with him even though I am tired. He calls me fat when I only weigh 145 I just had a baby in april he says I am a good for nothing and that he can get a better women. What should I do my head tells me to stay becuase of our kids and that I did not get married to get divorced I have been suffering for some many years and know I feel that no one will ever want me that is why I need him.

Answer 1

Why do you CONTINUE to have children with someone who abuses you?????

You are teaching your children that this is OKAY.

GET THE FREAK OUT IMMEDIATELY. You don't need him. Even if no one ever wanted you for the rest of your life, that doesn't justify letting someone abuse you and your kids (if he abuses you, he abuses them).

Answer 2

the worst thing u can do is stay with a man because of the kids. Its not healthy for you or them, especially if its not working. I think you should break up with him, give each other some space, then maybe when yall are good friends, platonically i mean, u wont have any baby daddy issues. Dont let a man bring you down no matter what the case is. Find a man that will be good to u and your kids, and he if he loves u truly he will accept u and the kids in his life. TRUTH

Answer 3

Your suffering should end!. If you leave him he will find another slave. Think about it if he wasnt there your work load would be cut big time. There would also be no abuse. Good for nothing is what he is NOT you... Get out now while the getting is good and your kids are small, if you have boys they will see his behavior and do the same thing when they are older. YOU deserve better than that.

Answer 4

i understand that ur thinking about ur kids, but let me tell you. Its worse for the kids when u can see how unhappy the parents are together and with the fighting. If he is treating u this way and has been then you shouldnt be with him at all. no one deserves that emotional/mental abuse. And if hes capable of treating u like that then he can easily turn around and treat ur kids the same way. He will never stop if ur still there pampering him...drop him and do urself and ur kids a favor.

Answer 5

None of us gets married to get divorced, sometimes it just happens. My experience taught me age, maturity & believing it's the right thing to do (depending on your "up-raising", what you've been taught & lived in.
I was a lucky one, I only got cheated on once, but we divorced. Having a baby at 19 I grew up, his father didn't. We lasted 5 yrs, but in the end.....my thoughts were, what are we showing our child with no love in the house. He never spoke to me the way your husband has to you. I hate you ever had to hear that. Did your chiuldren hear it too? Can they sense tension in the house? You would think he would never treat one of his children as such, but who's to say.
Marriage & divorce of a way of life now, sad to say, but I'd much rather see people apart and happy than together and miserable. I told that to my own parents at one time. They are still together, but like I said, "What do you want for you & your children?" "What are you willing to do for them?"

Answer 6

honey. GET out. Yes it will be hard for you, and you MUST first make a plan. Get your hands on some money, scrimp and save from the grocery bills and any where else you can get it. Put it in a bank account where he can't get to it. When you have enough to get you through a few months , rent, money food money and enough to pay a babysitter. then move out while he's at work,get as far away as you can from this worthless piece of male meat and start to rebuild your own life. you don't NEED him for you to survive. but you may have to get out of his life so that you CAN survive.. If you have relatives who would be willing to help you, that's even better. Ask them for help. And let's see if that jerk CAN get a better woman. I THINK NOT> Good luck

Answer 7

He must participate in counseling in order to iron out the problems. Otherwise you can be severely burnt out in this marriage with a selfish *** like that . Look at the bright side if their is a divorce , you can always make him pay child support .

Answer 8

Don't...stop..get out! Staying for the kids seems like the right thing to do, but it's not. Your kids will end up growing up in a broken and tension filled home. They will see how he treats you and think that that is acceptable behavior in a relationship- and it's not!!!!! Do something for yourself. exercise, eat healthy. you are a beautiful person who needs to take care of herself in order to take care of others. Stand up to him. Stand up to him and it might be scary at first but in the end you will be better off. Stay with a family member or kick his lame *** out. You deserve someone who will be there for you!

Answer 9

Leave. No one needs to be treated like that. And for one thing, you don't want your kids growing up in that kind of an environment, or they will act just like him when they get older. Enough is enough. You have to stand up for yourself. Everyone deserves to be happy and if he isn't making you happy then get out.

Answer 10

why are you waisting your time with a loser like this ? Omg and you had a kid with this loser . Pick that baby up and get your things together and say bye -bye with divorce papers in the mail . I would have divorced him so quick it would have made his head spin. do it now before it gets harder to leave !!!