my boss is much older then me (i'm 27) but he is sooo handsome. He always has women hitting on him. well, i'm attracted to him ..and i know he digs me too cuz he'll make comments here and there. the thing is....we are both married. he has an open marriage. idont. i'm really attracted to him...and want him soooo bad. but I know its VERY wrong. what do i do?
oh, couple days ago...we had drinks after work. i was really tipsy. when he walked me to my car. he gave me a kiss on the lips...a little peck. the next day everytying was a blur to me. when i came into work i asked him if we had kissed cuz i thought we had. he said yes. but it was innocent....just a good bye kiss.
does he want more?
2007-10-12 09:57:45 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm not sure if it matters...but he's an attorney. so when he comes to work all dressed up...looking good. its so hard to hold back
2007-10-12 10:02:36 · update #1
You are messing with fire. Losing you job is minor compared to losing the marriage your in. If you get tipsy and let him kiss you, then you are wrong, and you have wronged your husband. Back up and stop this before it's to late.
2007-10-12 10:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why would you care if he wants more???
First of all, it's not professional to go out with your boss. It will hurt your career and you might lose your job eventually. Secondly, you are married!! Who cares whether he has an open marriage, it is his life. You are married and it's end of the story. Have respect to your husband. Divorce him first and then sleep with anyone who want.
By the way, you should ask your boss' wife about their marriage. I bet she thinks that they are happily married.
He must be a very bad attorney. Or a very good one for that matter. He either got you around his finger and is sure to win a case if you bring a sexual harassment against him. Or he hasn't got laid in years and is pretty desperate to ruin his career.
2007-10-12 10:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question before you take this any further. Is this crush worth losing my husband over? Do the right thing and just stop this thing right here and now. This guy has an open marriage in which I don't agree with anyway so basically he's got a free pass to screw around, you don't. And in reality why would you want to put your marriage on the line?
2007-10-12 10:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys are scum, and a boss that would knowingly pursue a relationship with one of his subordinates is definitely up on that list. Think about what pursuing a relationship with your boss would mean, cheating on your husband, jeopardizing you working relationship, not only with your boss but also you co-workers. Chances are your husband will find out. What if you really fall in love with him? Do you think he would leave his wife? If he does how do you know he wouldn't do the same to you. Just a bad idea in general
2007-10-12 10:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Tim S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, he doesn't and he probably doesn't have an "open marriage" either. I was duped with that line when I was 19, and its usually NEVER true. If you are married and kissing other men, please seek a divorce immediately. It is not fair to you or your husband (especially). And think about this: If he was able to openly date, why would he be married to his wife in the first place?? He will never leave you for her, and you WILL wind up heartbroken, with other possible problems in the future. Good luck, if this is a road your taking, you will need it.
2007-10-12 10:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
please stay away from him. you are married and have a husband who loves you, dont hurt him. for all you know, this is just a fling. after a few months, you might like a co-worker, etc... you need to ask yourself, do you love your husband? maybe theres some problems at home?? i dont know. you are still young, 27. maybe you rushed into this first marriage? if you dont love him, maybe you two werent ment to be and its better to end it sooner than years down the road when you have kids, etc... last thing you want, is to have a fling and do something you will regret for the rest of your life, like sleeping with him and then your husband finding out.
2007-10-12 10:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by kerrdog_96 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay ladies, let's stop holding back with the 'ummm, check your feelings' BS and start answering this as if a MAN asked it.
You'd be tearing him a new one, so be just as harsh with this broad.
Gawd the double standard makes me want to throw up on all of your shoes.
2007-10-12 11:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I exactly know how you felt about him but HELLO.... you guys are married!!! Force yourself to focus on your husband. Find him more handsome than your boss. One reason could be that you might be attracted and want him because he is your boss. How could he kiss you on your lips? He is married. Well, yes he wants more because he already cheated on his wife.
2007-10-12 10:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by GirlYgIRL 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he wants more. He wants to pull you into his open lifestyle. You need to ask yourself...is this worth risking my marriage over? You are playing with fire. I'd suggest cooling it at the office or changing jobs.
2007-10-12 10:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care if he wants more? You are married! You are not only flirting with him...but you are flirting with disaster....do you think your husband would enjoy knowing that his wife has the "hots" for her boss? There is nothing wrong acknowledging that your boss is attractive...but leave it at that....or you will screw up your own marriage....
2007-10-12 10:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋