i was looking on the computer and saw in the search window adult friend finder, girl on girl action and alot of other things. well i asked my husband and he said that he didnt know about the friend finder but he typed in the other sites to look at different positions and learn how to do oral. i was disgusted and long story short threw his clothes outside slapped him and threatened divorce. it hurts so bad. what should i do, should i believe him?
2007-10-12 09:32:22 · 20 answers · asked by neli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I personally agree w/ you. Why should he be looking at porn when he's married to you! Porn is for old perverted men & teenagers... Me & my man fight ALL the time over the porn issue. I've given ultamatiems(spl?) before.
2007-10-12 09:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 6⤋
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2016-07-20 03:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to think and feel what you want to about this. The important thing is that the two of you talk about it and define the boundaries in your relationship. I would say the biggest issue is that he lied to you and is continuing to do so. If adult friend finder was on the computer, he was there. And that is the one site I would be worried about, is he looking for an adult friend? In the end you have to do what is right for you, not what everyone else tells you is right.
2007-10-12 11:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by wannabhppy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well for the most part he is lying. He is looking at those things because that is what he likes sexually. You are wrong to throw him out and threaten divorce though. You should talk to him and find out why he is looking at those things. Was he looking just because he likes to see pictures of naked women? More than likely that is the case. The appeal of adultfriendfinder for most guys is trying to see someone they know and looking at pictures of girls that you could find on the street. Not that they would pursue them, but just to know they are there. Childish and perverted? Yes, but true. Just because he was looking at those websites doesn't mean he is or will cheat on you, but it also doesn't mean he won't either. Talk to him, because if you married him you obviously love him and I am willing to bet that this is something he did before he even met you. Which means it has nothing to do with you. He is a sexual person and if you talk to him you guys may be able to open up a little more about your own sex lives together. Make this a good thing instead of letting it turn you guys into a statistic.
2007-10-12 09:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by No one 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your husband was looking at porn.....and he was on the adult friend finder sight....how else would it show up in the search window? Now I am not a fan of porn...but I think you need to talk about your feelings and distaste for porn before you throw away your marriage....
2007-10-12 09:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but true that at one time or another all guys look at porn. Those that say they don't are liars. So if you want to live with a guy who isn't a liar....
Ending a marriage over him looking at pictures is absurd. I know you're upset and you feel that he's done something bad but trust me it's not about you. When you're a guy you just have to look. It's just a guy thing. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or think the world of you.
2007-10-12 09:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You are just over-reacting. Porn has existed for centuries and men just love looking at it. Recently, on Oprah, women finally had the courage to admit to enjoying porn ( they referred to it as erotica ). When my husband looks at porn, I ask him if he'd like for me to do that to him. I also give him some pleasures that I don't particulary like for ocasions such as his birthday. It excites me to know what turns him on and I most definitely do it better than those porn babes. But, they do give you ideas and increase the imagination. I gave my husband a porn DVD for our anniversary this year.
2007-10-12 12:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by black57 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you took it to the limit there, didn't you?? You confronted him about that, and he sounded like he was honest, and his reason sounded honest also, he was trying to make your married life more exciting, with your actions, I am suprised he did not file spousal abuse on you after that slap, and after you just went off on him and had his head.
I would not be suprised if he files papers before you do, you just abused your husband, people get on men about abusing their wives, but you are one of the wives that beat and abuse their husbands, I hope for his safety, that he files first!!!!!
Geesh, don't you get it girl?? He was trying to make your married life more exciting, and he told you the truth, what is going on in your mind???
Maby he was telling you in his own way that "dear, I am doing this for us, because I find our sex life soooooo boring, and I am trying to save our marriage by doing this".
Instead you thank him with a slap???
Bad call, girlfriend.
2007-10-12 09:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You are overreacting GREATLY! He just needs it kinky. Perhaps you didn't know that about him. And it's not like he can just announce it.
If he hasn't cheated on you then you have no reason to do the things you said you did to him.
Me personally, I would already be considering fleeing from you if you had done those things to me.
2007-10-12 09:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by Avatar 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is he is doing it because you don't pleasure him in bed once in a while then do divorce him. If you truly love and believe your husband then just stay in your relationship. If you decide to stay in your relationship then go under History on the top of your screen when using the internet. If it keeps on happening then just break up. If a man only uses you for sex its not the right man for you!
2007-10-12 09:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by Alex 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Are you serious? He checked out some naked women on a website and you threw his clothes outside. What gives?
2007-10-12 10:07:47 · answer #11 · answered by ahedou2 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋