2007-10-12 09:07:13 · 13 answers · asked by Holiday Magic 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Some people are in pain and they need to fill that pain with another person. Most of this is subconsciouses some do it to please others, some for economic, and the worst is they think that is the best they can do.
They are to scared or to anxious to wait or explore healthy relationships. They are blind to their partner and their way of functioning and have a poor judgment that something will change in them self or the other person to make things better.
I say if your not in Love make them your friend for life and keep on searching. It be lots of pain to do that but the future pain is nothing like what breaking up is like. Tust me I married some one who really did not love me.
I hope some day that she be my friend again, now I found some one who really loves me. It is not a picknick but it is Love. We both are happy and feel the care for each other and feel compassion for the other.
Good luck to Lovers and God Bless
2007-10-12 09:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Panda Lover 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off, I thought that Gecko's answer was absolutely sensational. He is dead on. My opinion? 1. Most people who *settle* for someone they don't really love do not value THEMSELVES. They're under the false impression that if THEY don't love themselves, no one else will, so why try to find someone better? 2. Monetary issues. 3. Sex. (but having sex with someone you don't love or at least have a connection with is about as exciting as flossing your teeth, in my opinion.) I just got out of an emotionally abusive relationship ( I kicked him out and moved away to be near my elderly parents.) I was with him for a year. For about three months, we were happy, or I thought I was until I came to the magical conclusion that we had practically nothing in common. Then I found out that he was stealing from me to buy meth. (that was the last straw.) I have spent the entire year alone and I still struggle with loneliness ( I'm 45) but 2007 has been one of the happiest years of my life! I will NEVER settle...EVER. It was like a Lifetime movie.. I wish that more people would learn to value and respect themselves more and never settle for second best. Everyone deserves to experience REAL LOVE. I am working on my self esteem issues, and I will NEVER make this mistake ever again. There was sexual attraction between us from the start, but I deserve more than that. I want a best friend AND a lover. And if I never find this person, so be it. But I know now that I'm worth it! Life is too short to waste your time on a person who is toxic and where there is no love involved. *Settling* for someone is just a cop out. Don't be lazy. Get off of that couch and meet people. I'm not giving up. And neither should any of you.
2007-10-12 17:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by PURR GIRL TORI 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They dont think they can find anyone better they are forced to love them because they may get hurt from that person. They love someone else who their family doesnt love. They had a child to soon and dont want the child to be without both parents
2007-10-13 12:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by donielle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
easier to pay rent w/ 2 paychecks: more money 4 beer
finally a dependable (sex) partner
pregnancy or a good step parent to previous child
control over someone
her uncle has a great hunting cabin
his father is rich
for the fun of getting married in Vegas on a weekend.
2007-10-12 16:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because it's too hard to start the process of getting to know someone else.
Because they would have to leave the person they are with and they are scared of being alone.
Because they worry that they cannot to better and will regret the decision when they end up worse off than before.
2007-10-12 16:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by shaneallen04 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It would appear Dune and I have had similar problems, although some of the others have touched on the other aspects.
2007-10-13 01:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they are comfortable and dont want to play the dating game again.
Babies
Money
Abusive
Family and Friend influence
2007-10-12 16:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sherie D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fear of being alone! is the common factor i can think of
silly
2007-10-12 16:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They don't want to be alone, they are embarrassed to be alone, just want someone to be there.....its a recipe for disaster I think....
2007-10-12 16:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by ~~~Tara~~~ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i agree with shaneall. I add sense of guilt.
2007-10-12 16:17:15 · answer #10 · answered by Psychological Moment 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋