i didnt know she was a professor when i first saw her. she was beautiful and i felt her smartness and confidence...then i found out shes a teacher with a phD degree...she's about in her late 20s or early 30s...ive always been this smart and hardworking student and prefer to have intellectual conversation....we have similar interests..her achievements and interests make me more attracted to her..but im only 19 (always drawn to older women and cant stand girls my age who like mind games )im not in her class......how do women like her see me as?
2007-10-12 08:21:49 · 7 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sorry son if you speak like you write they probably see you as someone who needs more education. I am not trying to be rude but maybe you need to reword your question. How do women like her see me as???? Come on old chap, how does that really sound to you?
2007-10-12 08:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by teresa m 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u kinda answered ur own ? she's older and out of ur league!
Peeps can't help who they're attracted to but the idea of u still being a student on the same campus that she's a professor at will possibly jepordize her career and cause problems for both of u. That's like tredding on thin ice... I don't think I'd pursue it. The older woman thing isn't so much an issue as her being a professor at the same college u r attending even if u don't have her in any of ur classes i think they have a policy about stuff like that. u have to wonder is it really worth it! pay attention to your studies and go for an older woman whose not a professor there or is single and available!
2007-10-12 08:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Detroiter1967is outa here! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but she will see you as a kid. Ask yourself what you would have to offer to her. Do yourself and her a favor and stay away from her. Also, if she is your teacher it is very unlikely that she would do anything, even if she were interested, which most likely she is not, because the school frowns upon it and it would get her fired.
Maybe you are not looking for the right women in your age group. There are many who are ambitious, goal oriented, interesting and expect more in life. These girls/women are just harder to find as they do not hang out in the obvious places.
2007-10-12 08:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by Llani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an individual thing, different for every women and different with each man, regardless of his age. Aside from the risk to her professional reputation in the controversial academic arena of teacher/student relationships, women her age also perceive an element of risk in a younger man's probable immaturity and developmental instabilities that could manifest in behaviors that could embarrass her somehow, such as a jilted 19 year old storming into her classroom to confront her, as opposed to a 32 year old jilted lover who would be far less likely to act out in that way. If you are interested in this women, let her know in clear, emotionally stable and upbeat ways, publicly. Start out public and then that issue can be assessed and eliminated right away, or not. But, make your approach as clean and healthy and wholesome and honest as possible. No plots. No games. No buddies in on the deal kinda adolescent stuff.
Do NOT be put off by her education. Do NOT focus on that in discussions with her. Most women do not consider their degrees as public trophies of accumulative power as do most men. They see them as private fundamentals to their own wholesomeness and balance, like sturdier shoes. Degrees make us feel not "superior" but more balanced and competent within ourselves, an achievement toward self-sufficiency. It's a personal issue uninvolved with our social relationships.
2007-10-12 08:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all in how you present yourself. I'm 36 and I will say that it's pretty typical to see a 19 year old and think specific things about guys in that age group. I think you have to just be yourself and let her know that you are not just about say, sex and partying. If you're an intellectual guy, let her know that. If you are truly attracted to her intelligence and confience, let her know that too. We love guys who can be honest--truly honest--and who are attracted to more than just a bra size or whatever. I say go for it, and be who you really are.
2007-10-12 08:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by christabelskylark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she probably is out of your league. But what you have discovered is the image of the women you are attracted to. She's not the one, but maybe as you mature you can find someone on your path who has those qualities; maturity, intelligence, elegance, charm, grace. Did I leave anything out?
2007-10-12 09:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by birdman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wont hurt to try but it probably wont happen..
2007-10-12 08:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋