Hi I' a straight 14year old guy but i prefer to be thought of as a girl and at my local youth club there's a poster for a Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Club for teenagers age 13-18 and I'd like to go there so I can just be amoung people like me and just to have a good time and maybe do things I've never had the guts to do in public like wearing girls clothin but I'm worried that if I join my family might find out.
What can I do?
2007-10-12 08:01:40 · 15 answers · asked by Lily R 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just go. If people cant accept you for who you are, thats their problem, not yours.
As for your parents, well I expect that they will be shocked, hurt, angry, upset etc, but once the initial shock has died down, and you explain that this is who you are and what makes you happy, I am sure they will accept you. They may be uneasy about it, but never try and be something you arent.
You cant live a lie the whole of your life, if behaving and dressing female is what makes you happy, then do it.
By going to this club you are going to find friends, and most importantly support. These people will be going through the same doubts and uncertainties you are, some will have come out, some wont, but whatever it is they are, gay, transgender or whatever, they will be able to help you through talking to your parents.
2007-10-12 08:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by lozzielaws 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you feel like a girl trapped in a guy's body. I can't even begin to imagine what that must be like. It might be an idea to go just to suss out the place but not say that you want to wear girls clothing just yet. People of this age group can be very cruel and I would hate to think of you going through that. But go along and if there are other people your age there that feel like you then you can help each other and will be with likeminded people. It may also give you the strength to tel your family how you feel. I hope they are understanding. Good luck!
2007-10-12 08:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the club sound like a great idea I wish there had been one when I was 14. If you want to go then I think you should go. However I do think that if you are serious about dressing as a girl you should discuss it with at least one of your parents probably your mother would be best. Explain to her that you cant help how you feel and you hope that even if she cant help you she can try to understand
2007-10-12 11:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a fifteen year old female, somewhat in the same spot you are. I go to my high school Gay Straight Alliance meetings, but my mother told me I could not.
Well, you have a couple of options.
1) You could just gain the guts to tell your parents, and see what they say.
or
2) Find someone who goes to that club, and have them bring you there and back and just say you're going out to do other things. That's what I do really...
Good luck.
2007-10-12 11:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by Kayla 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All groups of this type fully understand the need for confidentiality, and it is the ideal place for you to go and get advice as well as make friends who will hopefully be more understanding than most.
By going along it should also help you build confidence in who you are, equip you with the right answers when you choose to tell others, and help you to build a support network should things go wrong when you do tell them.
Go for it, be happy, you have that right!
2007-10-12 08:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mike B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any LGB&T club that accepts minors understands the need for confidentiality.
The only way your family are likely to find out is if (a) you ask one of them for a lift to the club, or (b) someone who knows you and your family sees you there (although in that case, it seems likely that they would have as much to lose as you)
2007-10-12 08:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've described your parents as intolerant, so you might want to wait until you're 18. If you go out, they'll want to know where you went. If you lie to them about it, they'll know, and they'll ground you.
I'm sorry to tell you, but you're a prisoner. You'll be free in 4 years. In the meantime, try online hangouts--and make sure it's at a computer where your parents won't see where you've been!
Or you can go ahead and risk the consequences.
2007-10-12 11:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by GirlInside 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how about if you call the club and ask who gets copies of the membership records?
and under what circumstances they would release that information?
Would they mail things to your house?
Do they verify the membership if someone just call s on the phone and asks?
Chances are they have thought all this out and have some good answers.
2007-10-12 08:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you feel uncomfortable with the idea of joining that club, try http://www.beaumontsociety.org.uk for support until you feel ready to come out.
2007-10-12 23:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell your parents eventually right? Why not tell them now before you join this club so that if you join and they find out they won't freak out.
2007-10-12 17:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋