First off I’m 18 and when I dated him I was 16/17. He did not treat me right, he was the type of guy that would sit there and scream and yell at me in front of his friends and make me upset in front of everyone. He lied to me about who he was, what girls he has been with, and what type of guy he was, he basically used me to make him better. We are from two different towns so he doesn’t know my friends and I didn’t know his friends ( so it was easier of him to lie to me) well he left me because. A. I gained weight and b. he was talking to another girl ( after a year of dating) well I left his stuff on his door step and that same night his car got keyed, I did not do it! They blamed me, he spread rumors about me, and now two years later he still spreads horrible rumors about me, I got pregnant and had a miscarriage that was the final straw why won’t he tell people the truth, I’m so hurt by all of this, now I’m losing friends to him still I feel like he is out to get me, he is also 20 dating a 15 year old, 20,0 dollars in debt, got his car reposed, I mean I can go on and on.. Help me I’m thinking about moving away from this!! What do you think?
2007-10-12 07:35:06 · 18 answers · asked by lauren j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2007-10-12 07:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by Rhonda & Cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds Bad!
The guy sounds like a jerk! If it was me, the car would have been keyed my me! Making up rumors about him, although they might make you feel better momentarily, won't in the long run as he may do something to retaliate. Tell the truth and ignore the vicious rumors as best you can. Keep your friends close, and if your friends decide they don't like you because of what he's been saying, they weren't very good friends to you. Talk to your friends and think hard... do you really want to move? If still yes then maybe that's the best move for you to take.
2007-10-12 07:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, a guy like that is not worth worrying over. He must have some major mental health issues if he is 20 and dating a 15 year old. He sound to me like he is the type of person who has to better himself by trying to make others look bad. If you had similiar friends and they choose him over you then they were never your friends anyway. Just keep yourself far away from him and the group he hangs with. Focus on yourself and making your life better. No man is worth this kind of trouble....trust me I know. I went through sort of the same stuff. Don't move away, this lets him think he has won...and you don't want to feed his ego anymore.
2007-10-12 07:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by gail w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop ALL contact with him. Do not talk to him or go anywhere that he is. People like that have a screw loose and you never know what he might do. You said you were from different towns. Stay out of his town and away from his friends. If you have to, build a whole new network of friends on your own. Try really hard to just forget about him and not think or talk about him. Make your life as pleasant as you can. You don't need anything from him, expecially harassment.
2007-10-12 07:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Trisch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you could stop acting like you still care. Big deal, why do you care if he is in debt, dating younger girls or has had his car repossessed? It was obviously stupid to date him from the beginning, now you say he is an EX, so start acting like it. Start to live you own life and quit trying to figure out why he does what he does. If you feel physically threatened, get a restraining order against him. It won't stop him from doing anything, but looks good in court if you have to have him arrested.
2007-10-12 07:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa!! That's alot to take in. That's also a lot to deal with at your age. It sounds as though you are headed down a very slippery slope as I did when I was the same age.
My advice to you......don't worry about who he is dating, how much money he has ect etc. Be thankful you are not part of his downward spiral. Surround yourself with careing loving people. If you already live in two different towns consider yourself lucky, but if getting farther away will give you what you need to make your life better all the power to you.
Don't make the same mistake twice!!
2007-10-12 07:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Thats tough. He sounds like a complete loser and it's a good thing you're not with him anymore. He is very immature for spreading rumors and for the people who believe him, eff them. They aren't your real friends if they believe his lies. Guys like this are immature little boys who have nothing better to do then try and destroy you. Don't let him get to you or he will win. If possible move away to avoid the distress and drama. I think you have the ability to be a tough cookie and stick it through and be above all his crap. Good luck dear, hope I helped a little.
2007-10-12 07:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by hi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not going to tell the truth so he looks bad. my ex did the same thing he would lie to me and to other people to make himself look good and to make me look like the bad person. and if your losing your friends because of it, im sorry but they arent much of a friend that they cant come and talk to you about it. you might have to tell him to leave you alone or talk to someone and tell them whats going on see what they think you should do. you dont deserve to be going through that. also if hes 20 and hes dating a 15 yr, hes an adult, shes a minor. people get put in jail for that.
2007-10-12 07:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by markieshoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the guy is in debt like that and dating a 15yr old then you are obviously a far better person and better off. The supposed friends that you lost to this looser were not your real friends anyway so who cares. They're probably loosers just like him. Sit back and laugh at how his life is falling apart.
2007-10-12 07:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Aron 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was 20 when i met him. he was like yours. he physicaly abused me. try to leave him but he knows what to say to keep me around so it last on and off for about 6-7 years. first time, at 21 and so. second time. after i moved out from quebec to ontario. 12 hrs. away. ( i don`t have a family) but he does. so, new town, peoples, life, new everything. he took adventage of the fact that i wasn`t known by anyone and he was a 2 faces. he gave me a terrible reputation around. but. today, after 20 years, people know by now who i am and who they didn`t think he was. he still the same guy that he was then. he never grew up. and hardly worked throughout his life. went to jail for beating up his girl-friend. and me, well i ended-up with a life. i had to believe in me, not into them. and i walked my way and i think that it`s what you should do. walk the sidewalk and keep your chin up.
2007-10-12 08:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋