In the beginning of our relationship I was the one who didn't care about us being together long term. Now it's almost 6 years later.. I have to innitiate everything.. sex, After we fight, I am the peace maker, I'm trying to make it work but it just seems so one sided. I am just tired of playing games, I'm ready to settle down and get married, start a family and he is just beating around the bush I'm 25 and he's 29. I think I'm going let him go.
2007-10-12 07:34:25 · 12 answers · asked by Tiffani 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good idea!
2007-10-12 07:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please read the book The Rules by Fein and Schneider. Really READ this book.
Never chase any man. They will grow to resent you. Also, don't get down on one knee and ask a man to marry you with a ring in your hand. That's role reversal, no. I know we think we are liberated, but we're not. Develop self-control and patience. Wait for men to make the first move and atleast you'll be in a position of power. Now, the only move you can make is to sit and take it or leave with nothing.
I think you should leave, but don't blame him, just say you have something important you have to do and actually go off and find something important to do. Be happy without him - work on yourself. This way if he wants to come chase you, he will. If not, atleast you can meet someone else in the new life you are making for yourself.
Good luck. AND READ THAT BOOK :)
2007-10-12 14:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by oh really 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know that it is hard to let go of a long relationship, but if it is not going anywhere than it's the best thing to do. He is apparently on a different page than you are and as long as you are wasting your time trying to change things and MAKE it work....than you could be missing out on meeting someone who can make you truly happy. Good luck and take care....I know this is hard.
2007-10-12 14:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my husband for over 10 years now. 6-8 of those I have been the "chaser". It has caused huge problems in our realtionship. You would be best to let him go now.
2007-10-12 14:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by justagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only one person is doing everything to make it work, and the other person is doing nothing, it is not going to work.
2007-10-12 14:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 Years and you're not married yet? Do nothing and still get laid? Damn, you're like every lazy slob's dream girl.
2007-10-12 14:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by 1/6,833,020,409 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you happy, life is to short to settle....... for nothing.
2007-10-12 14:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you intiate sex at least 6 times/week...I'll take you as my mistress.
2007-10-12 14:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by CooLit4less 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes two.
2007-10-12 14:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a good idea. let him go because he is wasting your time.
2007-10-12 14:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by rodriguez m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋