What's going on??!!!?

Question

I am a 13 year old girl and my mother is always causing controversie with me and my best friend. Every time my bff invites me over my mom will either say yes or no. Usaually no. Then 10 minutes later she will change her mind, and a lot of times, she does it again. I have no idea why, because she has no reason whatsoever not to trust me. Here is an example: Last night my friend called and asked if I could come over. My mom said yes so that was the plan. Then she found out she had to go to her Grammy's house. So I asked my mom if I could go with er there instead. She said no and I asked her why and she said it was because she didn't know her grandparents well enough. Note: I have gone camping with them 2 hours away for 4 days before, and have spent the night at thier house twice in the past 6 months.) So I told my friend I couldn;t come. I got off the phon with her and 15 minutes later my mom said yes. So I called my friend back and told her. Now, this morning, I woke up in a great moodready to get my schooling done, chores done, laundry done and get ready to go with my bff. But my mother informed me that i had t do quite a few extra chores before I could go, and that I had to put 6 full hours or work into school as apposed to the usual about 3 and a half hours i usually do; which gets the job done. I got very upset at this, as I wouldn't ever have eenough time to complete all those tasks in time to be picked up at a decent hour. So I started to cry. Note also: I had JUST woken up and got out of bed, expecting a normal day. I realize my mother was in a bad mood because she had to work all day, which only happens on a rare occasion, but I was just sooo upset that she felt she needed to "take it out" on me! She told me I couldn't go, 10 minutes later, I could. Then couldn't again. (Literal times, here folks.) So when my friend arrived home from school she called excited about having me over and when I told her AGAIN that I coudn't go, she was FURIOUS! I told her maybe
19 minutes ago

she could come over to my house tomorrow, and she was all mad and was like: OMG HANNAH NO! NO! I AM SO SICK OF THIS. And so now I don't know what to do. :( She's mad at m and I am realllyyy upset. What do you think...?

Answer 1

wow!! i was reading and i just got flash backs..my mom was and still is the same way as your mom and that im 18 and she still does it....
the only thing i can tell is you this...your friend shouldn't get mad just be understanding. Plus there be other times that you can go. I know it seems like the end of the world but its not you'll look back and laugh on how your mom treated you...
But since you already know how your mom is and i think your friend knows too then just make it as a possibility that you could go whether she says yes or no, and you can also talk to your mom about this problem...( what i told my mom few months ago is that is she expects me to keep my word on things than she should too...as fast she can brake her word so can I)(since then she thinks before she gives the decision)....
I hope i make sence...plus your lucky at 13 sleeping over friends house....wow!! i couldnt even go down the block untill i was 15.
Just be patient with your mom too...and talk to your friend and if she really has it with you then thats not a friend...friend should be there in the good and bad...
Well i think this answer came out long, hope any of my words helped you..
Love and Best wishes
-Diana

Answer 2

First you should tell your friend that it really isnt your fault. That its your moms.....Next you need to tell your mom to act her age and let you have a life....if she doesnt want to listen maybe someone who your mom willl listen to will hear you out...maybe a grandparent of yours or an aunt or an uncle...get some help from an outside source....good luck.

Answer 3

Well i am just as confused as you are.I am 13 to and my Mom usually says yes and then No afterwards then she sends me stait to my father.If he says yes it is most likely for me to go.If it is a No their is no way for me to go.My problem isn't as big as yours but I still get frustreted.Well My opion is to be a perfect angle to them and do everything they ask.When they calm down ask again she prboley made up her mind by then.

Answer 4

Drop the friend, mothers are forever so you just have to deal with it ! Honer your father and mother, God almighty"s fifth comandment !!!

Answer 5

I think ur mom is really unsure of her decisions and confused?!