to ve sex a few times but he did not get erection...he is a very supportive , dependable and decent person who loves me , takes care of me ...should i stay married to him ?
2007-10-12 07:31:23 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-10-12 07:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no choice...it was an arranged marriage to begin with...atleast he's supportive, dependable, takes care of you and is a decent person who loves you...just curious though, for being married 2 years you only tried a couple of times??? For being married you should have tried atleast 730 times...well maybe not every day but atleast 5x a week in the beginning of a marriage (so close to 480 times for the last two years)...anyhow, I think you two need to take a special sex class or a weekend getaway that teaches you new things...another thing I am curious about, since it is an arranged married what is your background (do you know about kama sutra)...since you are technicially still a virgin you probably don't know what to do to help relax your husband and possibly use your hand or mouth at first to keep him hard...I think you guys just some good sex counseling...
Are you even allowed to get a divorced in an arranged marriage?
2007-10-12 07:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need more info. Sex is a twenty four hour a day event. It takes a lot to do. It is one of the most biggest mind games you will ever play. I have Friend that we email back and forth to about what we would like to do. this helps out a lot. Sex talk is very important. to a good sex life. Stop talking it will not happen. There are some good books out that you can get at the library. Do not give up you two sound like great people that need a little help. Just because it was arranged marriage dose not mean that it will not work out. there are a lot of good marriages out here that have been do that way. Just keep looking for love and you will find it.
2007-10-12 07:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of marriage is that intimate act of lovemaking. This is a serious problem that needs to be addressed. Since you made a commitment to each other, first try to solve this problem before you begin to contemplate divorce.
First, speak to your husband. Is he afraid of having sex? Is he getting nervous? Can he achieve an erection on his own? I know it's an uncomfortable subject, but you both need to be honest with each other.
If there aren't any answers from that conversation, I would suggest that you and your husband seek medical help. There may be a medical issue that is causing this, or your husband may feel safe enough to speak to a doctor about whatever issues are on his mind.
I don't know your religious affiliations, but I would also check with your religious authorities. Often they are very good about supporting young married couples with counseling and support.
2007-10-12 09:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by holzer_marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him about what makes him sexually aroused. Maybe there are some new things you could try to get the heat going in the bedroom. That's my first recommendations.
The other is to talk openly about sex; your likes and dislikes. This relaxes the atmosphere and creates a certain intimacy that would make having sex more natural for the both of you.
Lastly, be calm and supportive and talk to him about whether or not you are sexually attractive to him. Maybe he is homosexual and is afraid to tell you or anyone else for fear of embarassment or dishonor.
You say he loves you...but in a marriage, sex can make the love even greater. It is something great that you should get to experience in your lifetime and in your marriage.
If you are both comfortable with the idea maybe you can see a sex therapist. They are usually very discreet and might be able to help you both create and enjoy a sex life within your marriage.
Good Luck!
2007-10-12 07:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by MelT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a lot extra relaxing in case you love your husband and he loves you returned. i appreciate others judgements for people who choose manage marriages, in spite of the shown fact that your very own happiness could come first. So i advise telling your husband as quickly as extra brazenly approximately your emotions and if he does not exchange then go away. sure it would be complicated, yet happiness might quickly be there to greet you
2016-10-22 04:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by gustavo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him see a Dr. There are many things which can cause ED.... high blood pressure, diabetes, hormone imbalance, to name a few. Some of these conditions are very serious and others are minor. All can be treated.
2007-10-12 08:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you grow to love this man? Does this arrangement allow you to divorce? Would you like a family with your husband? It can be a medical issue that he is either aware of and embarrased to talk about or one he doesn't know about. It doesn't sound like you had a choice to be with a man you were passionate about, one who makes your heart stop when you feel his lips touching yours, and if this is true, it doesn't sound fair to either one of you. Life is so short and it's only you and him that can decide how you truly feel, if he loves you and you don't share the same feeling, I don't think it's fair to either one of you.
2007-10-12 07:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by darlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay married and try to find a solution to the problem. Don't just give up because he couldn't get it up "a few times..."
2007-10-12 07:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should because you will later realize that all those qualities matter more than sex.
Try to help him set the mood, get something sexy to wear, light some candles, get some chamagne and don't be afraid to watch a kinky movie
2007-10-12 07:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by A***n G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's gay. seek treatment for him first. if that doesnt work, i wouldnt stay in a sexless marriage. unless you can bang other guys on the side and he wont care, then hey, why not stay in it.
i need sex. i love sex. i aint stopping until i'm dead in my grave.
2007-10-12 07:49:30 · answer #11 · answered by happypants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋