Me and my gf have been together for 18 months and first had sex 6 months ago, we were both virgins before that. At the moment she's on the pill and I always wear a condom just to be safe, there are no STI issued for either of us. My gf wants to make love without a condom and me to ejaculate inside her because she says she doesn't feel that she's properly lost her virginity until she's had me finish in her. I'm happy to do it, she's never forgotten a pill, but just wondered what other girls thought. Is it better for a girl without a condom?
2007-10-12 07:16:26 · 69 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Get her to wear a diaphragm or something. I hate kids so I am super protective against having one of my own and wouldn't risk it.
2007-10-12 07:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by that_guy 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
If I am in a long term relationship where there is no concern about STDs, I let my boyfriend go without a condom since I am on the pill. I prefer sex that way. It feels different than sex with a condom, and allows for more spontaneity.
2007-10-12 07:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by aqx99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i guess it is better without a condom. i haven't used condoms for years...but i am married and ONLY have sex with my husband, and we both made sure we were STD free and all that before we stopped using condoms. Birth control is pretty effective, but I do know 2 people who got pregnant while on birth control. If you want to be super safe, then keep using condoms. I don't think that she hasn't completely lost her virginity b/c you haven't gone condom free yet. If you've done it, then you aren't virgins anymore. But I can see where she's coming from. You are being very responsible about this, and as long as she continues her birth control, then I think it will be fine without a condom and it will be enjoyable for the both of you. have fun.
2007-10-12 07:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want a family, keep up with the condoms. Anti-biotics, throwing up etc all affect the pill. Do you want a child yet? Without a condom for a girl is good,(can't speak for the male sex) but be very sure you know what could happen......
2007-10-12 08:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by lightfootfourteenth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course I would have to say it is better for a girl and a guy without a condom.....however you say your girlfriend in on the pill...just know that this could not be a fool proof way. She could still get prego even on the pill. This is a decision that both of you need to make, could both of you handle the "what if" factor should the pill fail. Granted my husband and I have been together for 4 years and no prego on the pill...so it can protect against pregnancy. Just have the talk and have everything sqared away before and if this is what the two of you want...have some fun! lol...
2007-10-12 07:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by Riverbrat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How very sensitive of you to be concerned enough to ask. yes, it is different, feels different-warmer, more real . but you can also get pregnant a lot easier. which could lead to something VERY REAL like a child --just be careful. I dont quite get her idea about her not losing her virginity because a condom was used but I could understand her wanting to FEEL you. It sounds like you guys have waited, are in LOVE and are just getting comfortable w/each other that way. She lost her cherry, right ? that is the only change to her body when no longer a virgin. I dont think you should *** in her until you are ready to have a child together and should be married. i know that sounds old fashioned but there are a lot of children out ther w/out parents because they werent ready-dont be one of them---good luck oh and you do release some sperm even b4 you get off so pulling out at the last minute doesnt always work. Look into Natural Family Planning and you can know when she is fertile and when shes not just keep very good records of menstral cycles and be sure shes regular b4 relying on NFP.
2007-10-12 07:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by been there 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other responders. Its not 100% that you won't get pregnant, oral contraceptives are 99% effective. But there is still that 1 %. It would be best to continue the pill and condoms to ensure your best chances of avoiding pregnancy. WIthout a condom you are potentially exposing yourself to STD or STIs, including HIV that can lead to AIDS. Try a latex free condom, they may be a bit more expensive but less expensive than a child or a lifetime treatment of herpes. Good luck with your decision!
2016-04-08 05:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all condoms are not as fool proof as the pill. People tell you other wise. I had friends who wore two condoms t o make sure and she got pregnant.
Secondly go for it. I will never wear a condom again. You feel nothing. She likely is ok and your chances are 96%.
If she gets pregnant talk about that as what will we do issue.
2007-10-12 07:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah sex without a condom is so much better.. and if shes on the pill and has never missed one then she is fine.. n if u guys have never been wit ne one else then u should b fine with the whole STD issue. But sex without a condom feels amazing.. but ur problem is ganna b that u have berv done it wit out a condom before so it will b really hard for u to hold it in.. but u guys r fine and if its what u both want then go for it.. but just think about consequences just in case she did forget a pill or somthing liek that u kno?
*hope this helps*
2007-10-12 07:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by shortii47 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes its def better but there is always that risk of getting pregnant on the pill or not.
My bf and i use to do the 'pull out' technique but i had a pregnancy scare and decided condoms are the only way until we want babies.
Also remember you can still pass thrush and Clamidya (cant spell) to each other also urine infections. And u can get these without catching an STI
Hope that helps ............... have fun :-)
2007-10-12 10:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by beckyminime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it's better without a condom. However... that whole thing about not feeling like she's 'properly' lost her virginity is stupid.
Be careful - make SURE you know she's taking the pill the way she's supposed to before you do this. Not that she would try to get pregnant on purpose, but it happens all the time.
2007-10-12 07:20:27 · answer #11 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋