It gets so frustrating. I am so tired of being rejected just cause she isnt in the mood. When we do have sex it is amazing. The next day after sex she is still happy from the night before. So I know she is being satisfied. Can anyone tell me what I can do to get her in the mood? Nothing to direct she gets upset if I come out and ask for it says its a turn off and then I get upset if I wait all night and dont get none when we go to bed. I have been thinking about just going down on her at night when she is relaxed but I dont know if she would get upset she has been working alot and I dont want to push her to far. What can I do please help me?
2007-10-12 06:56:09 · 12 answers · asked by Tim H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get permission to tap it when she's sleep. It will be just like when she's wide awake.
Otherwise start licking around it's almost a certainty she will awake right up and rock with you.
2007-10-12 06:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Buy her a vibrator, and use it together. If you don't like the vibrator get a cock ring, whipped cream, blind fold or something to help spice things up. Rent a suite somewhere and spend the night. Get candles, give her a massage. Try to be creative. We sometimes forget that sex is supposed to be fun, and when someone asks all the time or is rejected all of the time, sex becomes more of a chore. Have fun, make love, and enjoy, introduce something new and see how far it will take you! Good Luck
2007-10-12 14:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Live*~*Laugh*~*Love*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you know what the problem is, she does not like it when you ask. So when you both are home, just keep touching her, kissing her, feeling her, telling her how beautiful she is, how much you love her, how sexy you think she is, what you would love doing with that sexy body of here..... Things like that. You have to light the fire, before you throw you your wood into it.....lol get her involved in a romantic and sexual conversation. Just dont make it all about sex and yourself, the more you tell her you love her and the more you compliment her about her look, her work, little things she does around the house the more you will benefit.
2007-10-12 14:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This issue NEEDS to be discussed because it is not right for a person in a committed relationship to think its okay to just say no, im not in the mood or make excuses all the time. If they have a problem they should address it..rather if the problem is with you or themselves. She could be tired and stressed, she could be depressed..BUT these issues can be solved. She should start with a drs appointment. I wouldnt tolerate just hearing NO without communication and addressing the issue.
2007-10-12 14:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to not expect it. If you kiss or hug or cuddle, do it without the expectation that it'll lead to sex. If you hound her all the time, it'll turn her off. If she's working a lot, is she also the only person cleaning? Help out with cleaning the house, even hire someone to come and do it for you once in a while.
2007-10-12 14:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Bridget S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exhaustion is going to stop you no matter what you try. Help out more around the house, let her relax and have some quiet time without interruptions or having something to do. Also be more sweet and work your charms even when you are not asking for it. Then she can see you aren't just trying to get some.
2007-10-12 14:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Dazy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem as your wife, mine is due to the fact i am on anti-depressents, is she on them? or on Birth control? that can affect it. I hate being this way my husband and i have only been married a year. What i do to get in the mood is watch the playboy channel, that helps sometimes! I know what yall are going through and it sucks..i feel really bad for my husband but i have to be on my meds because of chemical depression. Seriously, see if she will watch porn with you, even for someone who has no libido that helps me get in the mood!
2007-10-12 14:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm on her end here & my fiance in always ready I just aint so he does things that I really like (includind what ur thibking about doing) Sometimes it takes awhile but, ask her what she want you to do let her lead the way &tell you how to get her in the mood.
2007-10-12 14:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey u go down...thats a vry smart man...If she gets upset w/ u then she has serious issues. Another good way is go down while she's sleeping let me tell u thats the best way to wake up and it totally gets u unbelieveably horny... Try it no lie its GREAT!!
2007-10-12 14:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by NONAME 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the night going down thing sounds like a good idea.try giving her a massage when your relaxing watching t.v that almost always gets me in tha mood.how does she feel about porn or even soft porn?most couples enjoy watching and renacting,it's just a thought.good luck gettin some!
2007-10-12 14:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by catlover30 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start with a massage. If shes been working a lot then she could use a good massage any way. Then just make it lead to other things.
2007-10-12 14:00:51 · answer #11 · answered by just me 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋