Wife hurt my feelings while 'role playing'?

Question

my wife and i recently started playing domination and submissive role playing games. She is the dom.

while teasing and humiliating me, she began to mock and ridicule the size of my small peni3.

she was BRUTAL!!!! I know it was in role and part of the game, but it really hurt my feelings and self-esteem. Especially if maybe she thinks it's true.

Should I say something to her about it?

Thanks!

Answer 1

Yes. And LMFAO! You get a star.

Answer 2

Do you think or know as a fact that your penis is actually smaller than average?

I’m pretty sure she was as you said playing around.

The problem with those games is that whoever is involved must set some rules and a very important one that is when to call it off. Each of you must pre-set a phrase that calls off the game. If you are into domination, then the word “stop” won’t make it, but something different like “airplane”, or “ocean”, or anything that has nothing to do with the game and that signals that the game must stop for whatever reason.

But it is also important in this case to set some limits or boundaries. Like not to make fun of each other. You now have a scar on you and your sexual performance is going to be affected by it. You have no other option but to either accept what happened and move on, or talk to your wife and let her clarify what happened.

Don’t forget, the average size is from 5” to just over 6” (contrary to most people belief) when erect. Still, medically, a 4” erect penis is not a problem. Pretty much only when you are like under 2” is when is consider a medical problem and might be solved with surgery. And anything bigger than 6 can become a problem if the girl is tight down there as she might feel pain when penetrated depending on the diameter as well. I know of many cases like that. Don’t think having a very big thing hanging down there is actually always good.

Talk to your wife, and set things straight before is too late.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You love her? Stay. You are the man. Work it out. If life gives you lemons, you what? Squeeze your lips together and says it's sour? No. You make it better. When I was in martial arts, and I couldn't perform a technique properly, I would argue that it's too hard. My sensei would simply reply with, " Well, get good at it. Don't whine and have a pity party." So from then on I decided that if something's hard, I will make it easier. So you do the same. Too many people are taking marriage for granted and divorcing like their dating. This is a partnership. Maybe you two forgot about what it was like to be best friends again. Find that. Out of everything, she's still your best friend. :-)

Answer 4

"while teasing and humiliating me, she began to mock and ridicule the size of my small peni3." At the risk of sounding rude, if you have a small member then she is only speaking the truth. If this bothers you then thats your insecurities speaking. Fact is she knew you had a small member when she married you and obviously it doesnt bother her or affect the love she has for you. Maybe you shouldnt role play if you cant handle what may be said. The word Self esteem is always put off on other people. SELF, meaning you are responsible for how you feel about you.

Answer 5

but that's the whole point of being dominated. to humilate another into submission.
so you can't handle it. then stop doing it.
or you can draw lines that shouldn't be crossed. in "rape" senarios (yes, some sickos do do this) there is a code word, like "red" that calls stop to all activity. usually used when one person is being hurt or gets freaked out.
establish a code word and some guildlines. make sure she has a list too so you don't feel uncomfortable

Answer 6

Yeah, let her know that's a subject you are ultra sensitive about, and thus it shouldn't be made light of even in sex play. Might as well consider anything else she might say that could hurt your feelings and make those topics "off limits" also.

OR find a different role play game because humiliation is often part of what subs go through, and you don't appear to be cut out for it.

Answer 7

You should tell her there needs to be some rules for this role playing game. Somethings should be off limits. Anything that is said that makes you feel bad about yourself is off limits. Yeap you are going to have to ask her if she really feels this way about your privates or it's going to drive you crazy.

Answer 8

Tell her that you want to reverse the roles & you be dominator & say some nasty things to her, & then say look that is how you make me feel when you say things like that. Who wanted to play domination & submissive games you or her?
Or you could go buy her a 12 in toy & say here you go I hope this is big enough for you.....

Answer 9

I think you should talk to her... if shes the dominating partner, she could have been saying things like that to make you feel more submissive, but she may not really mean ANY of it... but at least talk to her about it... If she does really mean what she said, it obviously doesnt matter much to her if you still have a stimulating sex-life.

Answer 10

They style of role playing is meant to break you down completely. To bring all your emotions to the surface. Its a personal journey, to make you stronger and shows you what is needed to improve you. What hurts your feelings is your own way you think about you. If you need to feel better about something certain, find a way to make that thing better or in your case...bigger. If you no longer feel weak about that one item, you mentally will be more confident in yourself.

Answer 11

Communication is the key to the success of any relationship. If you are the submissive, you need to realize what that means. It sounds to me like you weren't really "role playing" you were playing along....