Like let you borrow lots of money, give you jobs, give you compliments, and really look after you.
Kind of like a door mat but because he loves you :)
2007-10-12 06:35:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I don't like it. If a girl is using you how could you like it? Give compliments, looking after, not so sure about the job thing then that is one thing....Not a relationship if they are always borrowing money and using you....
2007-10-12 06:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
After being with very selfish men all my life..yes I find myself more attracted to givers. I've always been married to a taker and quite frankly I have very little left to give because they've always taken so much. So the thought of a guy who would be so kind would be a refreshing change.
I have a guy now who seems like he is that way, but I'm so scared he's going to turn on me and hold it all against me one day that I'm afraid to take anything from him, even if I deserve it for our child that we have together.
But I don't want a guy who would let me or anyone else take advantage of him.
2007-10-12 13:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in my experience, i've been the doormat for girls a few times, and ya know what? they always end up losing respect for you. so what i do is :
-when i pay a compliment...i mean it. and only twice a day
-i don't use the "i love you" like something you say when you don't know what to say...use it for special moments.
-i never loan a girl money. i'll give her money if i want to help her with something. a woman you are with should never "owe" you anything.
good luck, and have a backbone...tell her "no" once in a while when you really mean it....let her do something for you once in a while without having to do something in return.....be yourself and don't try to be a sugar daddy...
and don't try to buy love...it's either there or it isn't....you never buy love, you can only rent it for a while with that stuff man
2007-10-12 13:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by ELEcTrIc_HeD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My hubby would do anything for me or our daughter. But he won't be a door mat. There's no respect for a person if they let themselves be taken advantage of. It doesn't make a relationship one that will last.
2007-10-12 13:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bridget S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want him to do nice things b/c he wants to not b/c I think he's a door mat.
2007-10-12 13:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by bluegirl5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's a point where "doing anything for you" becomes pathetic. i don't want a doormat. i want a man, a strong man who can think and act for himself, not just do whatever i want him to do. if my husband disagrees with me, i want him to say so. if he doesn't want to do something, i want him to be honest. should he treat me well? of course. do i like to receive compliments and gifts? absolutely. but that's not a one-way street. i have to be just as complimentary and just as generous with him as he is with me. i want an individual who will stand up to me when i'm wrong. i do not want a pushover who will let me do anything i want. that would eventually (perhaps quickly) destroy the relationship. it could even give way to abuse.
2007-10-12 14:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by hh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when my husband gives me money i am not borrowing it, he is giving it to me, but in real life nobody wants someone to be a doormat.
2007-10-12 13:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the kind of woman who appreciates being able to do things for myself. I would never accept money or a job from my partner. However, I like it when a guy will do everything for himself and not ask me to! :)
2007-10-12 13:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by vaughnc5920 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't like door mats, all I ask for is respect and consideration.
2007-10-12 13:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girls don't like it when guys will do everything for them. They get to the point where we will take advantage of it and not respect the guy.
2007-10-12 13:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by Babylesley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋