Is my boyfriend being cheap?

Question

I'm a college graduate with a good job (I make more than my boyfriend). My boyfriend wants to split the cost of everything (dinner, movies, all dates, etc.). I feel like he should pay for more because he is the man.

Answer 1

No, he is not being cheap. You earn more, and he's willing to split the cost. I would say he's being fair.

Personally, I would think somebody is behind the times (not him). Why should gender dictate who pays more?

Answer 2

If you want a healthy working relationship in your life you both have to share your finances equally. When you end of living both together it should be the same. If you have a problem over money now it's better to end your relationship because this will create and cause fights between the two of you. My partner and I share all wages together to give ourselves a good standard of living. I might get more in my wages than my partner but as a couple it's "our money" I bank the extra money I make each week to be equal with my partner. By living on a shared budget we have ready cash on hand for an emergency and save together both towards our mortgage deposit. While we were both in college we did it rough working two jobs each to pay for our living expenses while studying. Whenever I got overtime I'd pay for a night out at the movies or called in pizzas wine and a few DVDs. I know how you feel about one should pay more, but think in a years time if you want to have children or if you become ill. He will be working to support both of you and a new baby. You never know if he's doing this to save to buy you a ring or a wedding dress. For now your enjoying being with him and still going out. As I said if this is a real problem for you end this now and in a few years down the track you will end up in the also in the same situation you might have grown up to learn no matter how much more you earn you always need to pay your own way

Answer 3

Your statement is so sexist it's difficult for me to believe you even have a boyfriend. However, my belief is that the contribution made by each of you should be based on the percentage of your incomes. If you make 1/4 more then you should pay 1/4 more to the common expense account. I think your boyfriend is correct. If I were your boyfriend, that is what I would expect from you. If he wants to treat you to something, then he should pay for the entire amount. But it has to be his invitation to you. By the way, just saying "lets go out to eat tonite", or,"lets go to a movie" is not an invitation. It's a suggestion. But if he would say, "I'd like to take you to this special place for dinner tonite, or I'd like to take you to this movie", then I feel because he is inviting you, it's his tab to pay all the way.

Answer 4

If you don't live together, then splitting the cost of everything is fine; who makes more shouldn't matter. If you're living together, though, there's a lot more to consider - do you split the cost of rent, too? If you're going to be fair, you have to split all of the expenses, not just when you do fun things together.

Answer 5

Yes your boyfriend is definitely being cheap. Has our society lost all of the old fashion sensibility that it used to have. I try, without exception, to pay for women no matter if we are romantically involved, platonic friends, family, etc. And the price does not matter at all. If it is something as small as a soft drink or a night out on the town. I was raised that way and honestly I think if things went back to that, our society would be so much better.

Answer 6

I don't think it should be split 50/50 every time. It is dependent on the situation.
If you live together, I assume your paying a majority of (if not all)household expenses to include groceries. In that case, yes he should pay for his meals and yours occasionally. Just because he makes less does not mean he should not treat you to a meal once in a while and vise versa. Afterall he is going out with someone he has a relationship with and not a co-worker, where tickets have to be split.

Answer 7

he is not being cheap if you earn more than him and he is struggling to cover all costs on his own, all he is asking for is a split of the costs, but i would put my foot down if he expected me to pay for half the cost of a bunch of flowers, now that is cheap, i had an ex that did that, plus i had to pay for the cab rides and he was the one earning twice as much as me so really, some times it's only fair to go halfzies but other times like with flowers, gifts, romantic dinners that are a suprise then he should pay for those. it's all about balance. i once had a really cheap boyfriend who would ask me to pay for the cost of the petrel he used getting to my place on top of that he expected me to spend my money buying steak, and cook it for him too, any time i did manage to get him to go out with me i had to pay for my own ticket plus both of our drinks and pop corn because he drove us there, and petrels expensive he would say, plus did i mention he was earning twice what i was earning, now that's cheap..... one of the reasons I'm no longer with him.

Answer 8

He is being cheap, and you're right we men should pay. I didn't even always ask my platonic female friends to split the bill with me when we went out.

EDIT: Guess your boyfriend ain't the only tightwad, eh? :)

Answer 9

No. You're just being greedy. LOL. Have you tried just marrying money? You know, the kind that comes without a pesky man?

Answer 10

Aren't you being sexist, why don't you pay for the date since you make more.