in my opinion, :love, trust ,respect, and always solve arguments before going to bed.. anything else?
2007-10-12 05:12:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
communication, honesty, love, respect, being there for each other, best friends, trust, putting each other first. Understanding
2007-10-12 05:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of things that come into play... I agree with all of the previous comments about honesty, trust, communication, etc; However what I have found to be the best key in a healthy marriage is when you spend the rest of your lives together getting USED TO one another instead of trying to CHANGE one another. There are obviously always going to be differences between the two of you. If you were both the same person there would be no need for one of you. :) Nothing can tear a marriage apart quicker than mean angry words toward each other. Stop looking for the negative things. Focus on the positive things and get used to the rest!
2007-10-12 13:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before marriage, mutual attraction is strong and both the boy and the girl feel hey can make all adjustments.
But the problem comes here only. Every person has some peculiarities depending upon his/her date of birth, i.e. based on their SUN SIGNs.
So it is more a healthy marriage if there is astrological compatibility between the couple. In such case even if arguments and differences crop up, the binding forces between them cause to keep them together.
If there is no compatibility, individual ego functions for both. Depending upon the nature of the Sun sign, the wife or husband act with their own way of behavior and do not hesitate to hurt others with words and other manners too. If there is no good relationship between Venus and Mars, there will be no attraction between them and thus they go away and away.
Specially, the egoism of one of he partner causes a lot of damage and stretches up to break up also.
so if such imbalances are known to exist, if we counsel the couple to behave themselves not to blame or assault other partner and not to loose tongue at any instance, the relationship doesn't get damaged.
So the best key I suggest is, be cool and be an observer and not a boss. Don't rub on wrong side ever. Imagine yourself in the other partner's place and act in a fitting manner.
2007-10-12 12:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by kbk_murthi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To quote a comedian I heard, We never go to bed angry; we'd rather stay up and argue. But seriously, I don't have a healthy marriage so I have no clue. Trust, love honesty, yadayadayada. Whatever...It really involves keeping the chemistry between you alive, being best friends, and prefering each other's company to anyone elses. Now, wouldn't that be nice???
2007-10-12 12:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Saia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember that fights are going to happen, you cant live with someone all the time and not argue at some point. the trick is to learn how to fight, what i mean by that is you need to learn not to bring up some things in the heat of the moment, you will definately regret it later. make sure that you both understand the boundaries of arguing and it will help immensely.
make sure you tell each other that you love each other as often as you can, and make sure that you both know its meant and not just words being thrown out there.
remember that you are each others best friend and no matter what there is nothing you cant talk about with your spouse.
thats my advice take it for what its worth. (just celebrated 10 yr anniversary, yay us!)
2007-10-12 12:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Terry W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do things that make the other person feel special. Never bring up past mistakes. Make them laugh. Have play time together. Never talk about past relationships. Before you do anything always consider them first. Try to see their side when all you can see is your side. Romance. Both men and women need ROMANCE. Have candle lit dinners etc.
2007-10-12 12:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you say is true. To answer your question I think during the tough moments you have to avoid the four dark horsemen. They are: defensiveness, criticism, stonewalling, and the worst one,....contempt. Keep those four away by talking about it, like you said and you have a chance.
2007-10-12 12:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by Wisdom Seeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely trust and love without those relationships are doomed from the start
2007-10-12 12:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all thos plus marring your besy friend is definelty the key to a great marriage
2007-10-12 12:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by Jen S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key. You have to be comfortable telling your spouse what you are thinking and feeling.
2007-10-12 12:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by Emily B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋