My GF has a shady past and cheated on her ex husband. Now I found out, not from her, that this guy who is the brother of one of her best friends who she grew up with asked her out tonight for dinner and drinks and she had declined saying she was busy. Now another guy, who she cheated on her husband with, and recently came into her job, where he use to work and lives only 2 miles from her work, came in and told her he was moving to California. Now today is Friday, the same day that one guy asked her out, and she told me twice yesterday that she was going to a 3pm outing at a casual fine dining with her boss and some co workers to go over an upcoming event. Now she said they were gonna be drinking and some like finger food, and that she would have a light dinner later on with me. Is it possible that she could be seeing one of these 2 guys instead...
2007-10-12 05:09:42 · 32 answers · asked by hero 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leaving work early, and saying that she is going to be drinking to cover up for any booze that may be on her breath later on when I see her…?....could I just be a paranoid guy? ...and she told me the name of the place she was going to this afternoon but would be home when i get there tonight around 7:30ish...and that she would have a light dinner then...I am NOT a paranoid person whatsoever and very happy, but given her past, should I just trust her and continue like nothing is wrong or should I go with my gut and check to see if she is telling the truth?..please don’t think I sound crazy, I really care and want to know for my own sake if I am wrong or not…HELP!!!
2007-10-12 05:10:26 · update #1
Yes indeedy! You know she's cheated before and acting shady now? Oil up your pistol boss and dump her now!
2007-10-12 05:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say probably something is going on. But I don't know, you need proof.
I always went to my casual Friday drinks with my boss and work mates but husbands and boyfriends were allowed to join us. Unless it was paid by the work social club that meant that they would meet us just few minutes before the social club meetings ended. And yes there was a time limit.
2007-10-12 05:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by Island Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 ways this could go.
1) she knows you will have doubts about her becasue of her past and wants you to know all about where she is and what she's doing so you can trust her
2) she's setting herself up an alibi.
I'd go for number 1 personally as she's told you so much detail but if you want to know if she's been naughty, just ask the original source next time you see them. But you have to ask yourself, why are they so nosey and want to stick it into your business?
Additional thought: After giving you all that detail and reassurance if its an alibi she's a cunning serial cheat and you should defininately leave her. BUT FIND OUT FOR SURE for your own peace of mind.
2007-10-12 05:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have someone she doesn't know go and check up on here. If she is telling the truth then drop it. If you find she is not (or isn't there) then ask her how her dinner with the boss went and wait for her to lie about it. If you catch her, don't even give her the satisfaction, just go away and refuse to have anything else to do with her.
2007-10-12 05:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by blueman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are really the only that can answer this question. You have a lot of suspicions here.
You cannot be in a healthy relationship if there is no trust. I would not be with someone that has no moral character.
If you do not believe what she is telling, then you do not trust her. You need to move on.
2007-10-12 05:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh dear..there is just no trust between you..sorry but as long as you stay in this relationship you will get worse and end up arguing or worse...If all her exes are jealous and insecure perhaps it's her and not you but I'd recommend you split up and get some councelling. Trust me..it won't get better and nothing will satisfy your mind. the doubt is there and the trust is gone. Just split with my bf and i constantly worried he cheated..he did things to make me think that way to keep me insecure and i never felt like that with anyone else. We were not compatible and sounds like you need someone more loving and secure. Sorry it will hurt but you'll be better in the long run.
2007-10-12 05:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by minerva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life sucks man, people only care about themselves. Tell her exactly what you said on here. Tell her that your concerned. Communication is pretty important man, shes not a mind reader. She'll either quell your fears or get defensive. If she gets defensive that might not be a good sign. You never know though. I hope everything turns out alright for you man. Someone screwing around on you is the worst hurt someone can do to you..... Its happened to all of us unfortunately. Time heals all.
2007-10-12 05:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by KyserTheHun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to put yourself in such a misery.
She doesn't sound trustworthy to me, whichever way you put it.
This is not a fullfilling relationship. It will drag you down, and besides making you paranoid, it will also make you unsecure and low your self esteem. So, why put yourself through such a thing.
You shouldn't have to fight with someone to make them love you, respect you and make you feel safe.
There are some nice and trustworthy good women out there.
You're bound to find the one for you if you give yourself a chance.
Best of luck.xxx
2007-10-12 05:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
History repeats itself dude. She is probably having one last fling before the other dude moves away. Next time she does it you should follow her. Also check her cell phone when she is in the shower or something for shady text messages.
2007-10-12 05:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by yeawut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude ask her and if she gets defensive you have your answer.
If she is hurt apologize and admit you have problems at times trusting her
FOLLOW HER! find out for yourself then don't approach the table if she is just stand in her view and when she sees you just shake your head and walk away.... NO RUN! and remember food for thought you went into this relationship thinking HHmm can I trust her....
2007-10-12 05:17:11 · answer #10 · answered by Uncle Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I think you need to check on her and see for yourself. You have the right to do that. I know I would if I had a BF and was thinking that he might be cheating on me. I hope this helps you.
Amy
2007-10-12 05:20:25 · answer #11 · answered by Amy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋