2007-10-12 05:00:57 · 28 answers · asked by Bella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I prayed about the decision and received a strong confirmation that he was the right person to marry.
2007-10-12 05:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by bo bunnis 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bella, I met my wife on line 4 years ago and we walked down the aisle almost 5 months ago. When we met we hit it off right from the get go. At that time however we both we of the mind that neither of us ever wanted to remarry. But fate has a way of dealing the cards differently and we did fall very much in love with each other and each other's families. I realized that my mate was "The One" probably about 2 years ago. We lived 2.5 hours from each other and so would only see one and other on weekends. Well one weekend I went to her place and looked very much like a bum as I had just worked all day and then drove there. As it was a very hot day I had removed my shirt and something happened and I had to go down on my knee and ask her for her hand in marriage. We laugh about it today as the most unromantic proposition of all time probably, but she did say yes and we ended up laughing and crying together that night. Having had other failed relationships I knew for a fact that this woman was my soul mate almost immediately as we had many interests the same, but we also had very different backgrounds and interests also. She is an artist and I cannot draw a straight line. I am a counsellor and she says that she couldn't work with the troubled youth I work with. Regardless having this person in my live has made my live truly complete and I am grateful each and every day for having found "The One!"
2007-10-12 05:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a chum who had 4 babies and became married very almost 28 years he left his spouse for his secretary and that they are actually married he seems happier. so it may take place. does not advise he will cheat on her he became basically unhappy in his marraige. yet now adays not something final for ever. you pay attention of action picture stars with the ideal face and physique and that they chop up too. not something is concrete. those days are long previous. then you definately pay attention of alternative couples interior the information from the disney guy in his 70's divorcing to the al gore marraige of 40 years. so theres no definitely answer on your question. a pair can final an afternoon or 80 years then chop up. basically take exhilaration in the circumstances your mutually reason it may end at any time. perhaps basically stay mutually even then y9ou can nonetheless bypass your seperate techniques. what you want now could be not what you'll be able to choose flash forward 2o years from now.
2016-10-22 03:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your self this, how do you know you are the one? As you have already figured out, there is no such thing as "the one". You are compatible with many people at different levels.
Does this person love you and respect you? Do those things even matter to you? Trust me the answer is always YES but people often settle for much less. When you go out to eat, how does this person treat the people that serve you like waiters and maids? If that person is sincerely kind and thoughtful towards them chances are you've got a good person on your hands. That train of thought should carry through towards important decision making in the future,
like your feelings.
I hope I'm wrong but if you have to ask then chances are counseling may be in order.
2007-10-12 05:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by Dante 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well along time ago I asked a Friend the very same questions and he said to me " you just know" I was like what do you mean? He says that when it happens you will know and understand. I pondered it ling and hard and still didn't understand . Well I met someone one day and let me tell you this, you do just know they are the one. It's a euphoric feeling that really is indescribable but to say that whatever is going on in your life at that moment is completely forgotten.. 11 years later I feel the same.. I know that this may not help.. but some advice don't look for it because you will fail to find it.. It will find you...
2007-10-12 07:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most married people knew that the spouse is "the one" when they have this feeling or emotion that they can't live without the other.
So, to put it more simply, it's more of a feeling than a logical outweighing of sorts.
2007-10-12 05:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by indy450 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew he was the one because of the way he made me feel about myself. When I was with him I felt beautiful, sexy and loved. When we were apart I found myself thinking about him constantly and trying to think of ways to make him happy. He filled my life with light and love and I felt there was no problem that we could not conquer together. .
It was a feeling I had never had before with my first marriage. He made me feel young again and I was over 40 when I met him. I could day dream and actually envision us sitting in rocking chairs as old folks on a porch holding hands. I could never imagine myself old with my first husband.
You might wonder why I married my first husband, well, he was in the right place at the right time. I was 21 and desperately wanted a husband and a family - he was there and I settled. It was a miserable 20 years marriage and no children.
I am happy now. Good luck to you.
2007-10-12 05:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by mn lady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no "THE ONE"...there are "the many" who have great potential to be good partners for us. I've been married twice, and have dated a few other guys. Sometimes things work out for a while, sometimes not.
How depressing it would be to think there was only 1 really good match for us on this earth filled with nearly 7 billion people. Our chances of winning the lottery and getting struck by lightening in the same day are greater.
2007-10-12 05:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Other than being madly in love with him?? :P My spouse was my best friend. There's no one that I laugh and talk with like him. However, we are also committed to the same things in life, though we are very different. We have the same idea of what a marriage should be (that's trickier than you think). We have the same type of parenting or similar enough. So, beyond the cliched stuff, we want a similar life, and both are willing to work hard towards it.
2007-10-12 05:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by SS109 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never wanted to get married Did not believe in the institution of marriage, but I knew I wanted to marry this man. I did Right from when I met him.
I just knew
2007-10-12 05:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were together every day after work and on ever weekend. Most of the time he was at my place. Little by little his things started moving in. So, we thought.... let's do the right thing here. Time to get married.
2007-10-12 05:05:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋