My coworker states his wife does not like to go to social gatherings with him but he likes going out and always has. They do family things together, but he likes to go hang out with his friends on the weekends. They are argue about it all the time. He does stay out a little late, but has never given her a reason not to trust him. She tells him to go out but gets upset about it when he does, but when he doesn't go, she says you can go out. Is it fair that she doesn't let him go out just because she says she's grown up and doesn't feel the need to go out any more?
2007-10-12 04:46:35 · 12 answers · asked by Mona25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is definitely a communication issue between him and his wife. I would give him the advice that he needs to tell his wife how he's getting mixed signals from her and that they need to find a better way to communicate with each other. She needs to be honest with her feelings and there has to be some reason she feels she can't be open with him. Give him the advice and then stay as far out of it as possible. It's fine that he talks to you about his problems as you're friends but you don't want her to get the wild conclusion that there's something else going on between you.
2007-10-12 04:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Working with this man and living with him are two different things.You do not know what goes on behind closed doors at his home and the way he treats his wife.......only what he tells you about her. He is a married and commited man and should be home with his family and not out running around on the weekends with his friends.Also he stays out late to....giving her probably every indication that eventually he will put himself into temptation to possibly cheat ..and he probably will especially if he can get a womans sympathy that his poor wife will not let him run around like he is single.It sounds like this guy really does need to grow up and focus more on what commitment is when you are married. I guarantee you if he keeps this thinking and talking up you will will see (if he continues telling you what a bore his wife is) him justifying his own reasons to do her wrong. Some women are close enough to their husbands and with their at home behavior get a gut feeling before the man sets himself up to act on it.
2007-10-12 12:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people are really social, and other people are home-bodies. This couple seems mis-matched in this regard, or maybe the wife figures that married people just don't need to go out like they did when they were young and single. They need to compromise- she needs to go out sometimes even if she doesn't really feel like it, and he needs to respect her too, and limit his evenings out with the guys. If they meet in the middle they will both be happier. She may even discover she enjoys going out, and it could become a fun new routine again.
2007-10-12 11:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
The wife is always right.
I wouldn't allow my husband to have any friends or a social life. It's a dangerous world out there and it's always the woman's fault if the husband strays so I don't want to get that blame on my head.
2007-10-12 12:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by floozy_niki 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i'm grown up. i like going out with friends. being social doesn't make you immature. however...i don't feel the drive ot go out as often as before. i'd rather have sex and go to sleep.
my only issue is....who's he going to bed with at night? i'd rather be concerned with that person then what his friends want. maybe he should try hanging out with her on some of those weekends exclusively. it would be nice if husbands thought to look to have fun with their spouse instead of always outside the marriage.
2007-10-12 12:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
why are you worried about what this man wife approves of they are married and she has every right not liking her husband going out..maybe the question you should ask your is your not liking cause you don't get to see him???
2007-10-12 13:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not comfortable with him going out because he is hanging around with girls like you. He is a married man now, this should not be of any concern whatsoever to you. She views you as a homewrecker, and by coming on here asking this question and hoping to find an answer that will support your view, you are essentially a homewrecker. You are what is causing issues with their relationship - no her. You need to respect the marriage and step out.
2007-10-12 11:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by Betty 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
well I think that it is ok for an adult to go out without their significant other if it is just casual.... but staying out late at night is not responsible of him esp. if he has children at home
2007-10-12 13:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay out of that man's business. That is for him and his wife to hash out, not you.
2007-10-12 11:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by sfcgijill 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
A co-worker's marital issues are your business ... HOW?
Do NOT involve yourself in someone else's marriage.
2007-10-12 13:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋