2007-10-12 03:52:44 · 41 answers · asked by Janice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Certain things should be off limits. Everybody should be allowed a bit of privacy. Wallets (and purses), cell phones and non shared computers should not be searched, or even touched!
I would no more go into my wife's purse than I would walk into the ladies room at the mall! That is her area. I know not what exactly is in there, and have no desire to find out!! She does not go into my wallet!
We do not usually use each others cell phones, and do not know what numbers are in the phone books of each others phone! There is no need to do so!
The only time that I go on one of her computers (desktop or laptop) is if there is a problem or update that I need to work on!
Marriage is based on trust. If you feel the need to snoop on your spouse, there is a problem somewhere. Either you are insecure, controlling, or the marriage is having problems!
2007-10-12 04:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by fire4511 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I dont imagine its incorrect in any respect!! I believe my hubby yet I purely get curious often times as to how he has issues in his wallet...I dont go by using his wallet though until eventually Im doing laundry notwithstanding the wallet i look by using like once each and each month or so purely out of curiousity....
2016-10-09 02:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think there is something going on, yeah, go ahead. But be careful. A friend of mine started out this way, then became obsessed with having to know every detail and move her husband made. The wild part about it was he wasn't cheating, yet she ended up acting like a crazy woman for no good reason. She finally realized how pathetic she was being and backed off her snooping. Just remember, if your hubby wants to view your purse, you can't get mad about it.
2007-10-12 04:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by Really now 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Why would you want to go through his personal things? If you suspect that he is cheating on you just ask him. His personal things are off limits to you just as your personal things are off limits to him. Obviously you suspect something if you are already doing it and that is a much deeper situation that this answer can give you. I suggest that you both sit down and talk to each other and figure out why you feel that you need to do such a thing. Maybe some marriage conseling would help. Good Luck!!
2007-10-12 04:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by Toni O 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you're overly paranoid, and have checked and checked and come up empty-handed EVERY time, then no. It's not okay.
BUT...if you have a gut feeling about something and it won't go away, and he's had habits of lying before, and you've asked him and don't get solid answers, I do not know a SINGLE soul INCLUDING men that wouldn't do a little investigating to see what the HECK is going on. I have listened to my instinct and been right EVERY time. Use your better judgement.
2007-10-12 04:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Why would you do that? How would you feel if you caught him going through your purse? Snooping on YOUR cell phone? On your personal computer looking at all your emails? Sniffing your panties? Maybe following to the store to make sure that's REALLY where you're going? I can never understand wives that think that this kind of behavior is going to get their husbands to pay more attention to them. You're more or less accusing your husband of doing something sneaky and dishonest. So why not just confront him and tell him face to face that you don't trust him?
2007-10-12 03:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Sure there is nothing wrong with it.Wait till he is home onenight and ask to him hand that stuff over for you to check while you give him your email passwords,your purse and allow him to rummage through your drawers and closets.
2007-10-12 05:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
When your hubby starts being nasty, disappearing for long unexplained periods of time, being secretive like mine did YES YOU NEED TO CHECK EVERYTHING, because he will not be honest and tell you he is seeing someone. Mine lied to me when I finally had enough I waited until he went to sleep one night, at about 3am I took his cell into another room and checked. GUESS WHAT I FOUND? SOME LITTLE ***** HE WAS SEEING. So if you are feeling something is going on and our women's intuition never fails us. When I wanted to know how long this had been going on I checked his old cell bills and it had been taking place for a few months. Expect him to be defensive and tell lies though.....
2007-10-12 04:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by blackpearl 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My husband and I BOTH agreed that either one has permission to check out the others phonebook, cell phone or wallet...or my purse....neither one anything to hide...but neither one feels the need to look....
2007-10-12 04:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
it is an invasion of privacy no matter how you try to justify it, but it seems like a lot of people do it, so why not follow the rest of the sheep?
2007-10-12 05:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋