Is it right for a mother to choose her husband over her children?

Question

Her husband is not the father of her children and he cannot stand her children. He makes it known to their mother that he does not care for them. Yet, she still loves him and wants to be with him. Is it right? Would it be right for her kids to do away with their mother if she stays with him? Why would they want to accept their mother if she wants to be with someone that cannot accept her own flesh and blood? SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLEASE!!!

Her kids are young adults that still need her in their lives without the stress her husband.

Answer 1

The mother sounds like she has some SERIOUS issues. My friend dated a woman who had a young son. For over a year he slowly tried to convince her that she should give full custody to the father, which she ALMOST did if it meant keeping him as a boyfriend & maybe more. I honestly couldn't believe it and lost ALL respect for this woman, as did he eventually. And to this day I can't believe what mothers will put their kids through to hang on to a man that obviously doesn't care about them anyway. I TRULY feel sorry for these kids who ended up with a mother that puts the needs of a man over the needs of her own children.

Answer 2

No, I do not think that it is right for a mother to chose a man over her children. Now with saying this I do not mean that she shouldn't agree with him and disagree with her kids or not go on dates with the man and have time with him away from her kids. But I do not think that a woman should give up her kids for a man. Nor bring a man into their lives that do not like and respect the kids. I do not know what you mean by "do away with their mother" if you just mean grown child that do not want anything else to do with their mother while he is around, that I can agree with. If you mean for the kids to bump the mom and boyfriend off, than I guess I can't agree with that.

Answer 3

I will never understand this. Love me, love my children. What kind of woman would even allow a man into her life that would openly say that he does not like her children. It might be different if the children were adults, but this happens when the children are still little. I just don't get it. No, it's not right.

Answer 4

yes, its wrong.

first of all the guy married the woman AND the mother. he knew that he wasant going to have one without the other. now, the thing is, if this was a fight of who should get sent to their room, i would just figure out what was going on, and then see what could be done to fix the matter. BUT I WOULD NEVER TAKE MY KIDS SIDE ONLY BECAUSE THEY ARE MY KIDS. but this ONLY if this was just a cat fight.

now the husband has admitted to not liking the kids, thats just PLAIN WRONG!!! if he dosent like the responsibility, theres nothing the wife/ mother can do, but let him find someone that has no responsibility of such kind.

this relationship is set for disaster.

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Answer 5

As someone's who's gone through the same thing, there is little hope I have of my mother ever choosing my siblings and I over my father, who happens to be my biological father.

Even when my parents lost custody of us to CPS, she STILL remained with him. He is in rehab right now and she STILL receives his phone calls even though she's technically not supposed to if she wants to get us back.

I wish that I could answer in the positive, but women who often tend to choose their husbands over there children are weak and may not really know what they want.

But, it is to be concluded that they are not worth the headache so do yourself a favor and don't dwell on it too much, and take it for what it is.

If your mother makes an effort to talk to you, return it, but don't expect much else to come of it.

Answer 6

Absolutely wrong!

She must be really desperate to accept someone who does not care for her own children. She is wrong, and their is a lot of woman like her out there. I think the children should stay with their father if that is an option. Let her find out on her own the guy is a creep who obviously doesn't love her either.....

Answer 7

No a real mother would wanter her children above all. Thats the point of becoming a parent once that happens your not your own person ever again you are accountable to the lives you brought into this world until the day you die. It is your job to love and look after them above all others

Answer 8

In most cases, no she shouldn't, but there are some cases where she can. If her kids are old enough to know their mother is entitled to happiness and they are jealous of her man. If they are being big butt heads to him to the point he says he can't stand them, then yes she should pick her man. How much of this messy situation is on them??? Why make your mother choose? just a few things that can justify a mothers chose.

Answer 9

Never a man over my children. Not even their father, my husband. I choose my kids every time. I helped bring them into this world, they can't fend for themselves and they NEED to be taken care of.

Now, I try to make my husband very happy, but their needs come first.

If I had a man and he didn't like my children/couldn't stand them, then there is the door buddy! I am a packaged deal, and what a beautiful package they make!

Answer 10

I do not feel that is right simply because you only have so many children that are your flesh and blood and no one can ever replace that....however husbands can and do get replaced all the time. Just look at the divorce rate, you can always find another man you can never find another child of your own.