Black Women: Do you ever feel hurt?

Question

Do you ever feel hurt by the negative way we are portrayed? I do, because it's the opposite of who I am and as a black woman I have to constantly combat that. So I was wondering black women do you ever feel hurt by things ppl say about us or the stereotypes that are out there of us?

What do you do about it? How do you deal w/ it?

Answer 1

Yes, it is hurtful because of the constant negative and repetitious image that is portrayed over and over again. Especially, in the media and people themselves. It seems that someone is always shocked that you don't live up to those so called "stereotypes". But don't let it bother you because you are more than your skin and race. Usually people who buy into stereotypes in the first place are narrow minded, ignorant and have no clue about black women anyway only from what they may experience with a few or seen in movies and music videos. Don't let others define you, tell you who you are or should be. Use the negativity as a stepping stone to prove them wrong. Don't live your life on other people attitudes or preconceived notions because somebody is always going to have something negative to say or think just don't let it influence you.

Answer 2

stay away from youtube. Nothing but trash on that thing. I wont even watch it unless its people doing death defying stunts. As in double backflips on grass, tricking (a sport), basketball, baseball. Something i can't do, besides talking. Or if they are giving advice on how to fix or do something. Don't watch the hate videos. And im a little passionate about the things i believe in so i can't watch that stuff. With that said, people need to give up. Seriously! There is always an undertone personally feeling a lot of women have with black men. A short leash so speak of non sense. I wouldn't pay attention to that idiot. Men like anybody who looks good. I don't want to hear about black or white or whatever. Never seen a good looking woman who had a hard time finding black or white guys. I don't care if she was purple. I mean some women rather "work for it" so they find themselves dating jerks. But seriously this black girl vs white girl is getting out of hand. As soon as a black guy mentions a white girl, he automatically is grouped in with the idiots who simply just bash black women and love white women. Everybody needs to chill on all that. White women and black women are all the same. I never had a hard time dating either one. Maybe those guys are just ugly or have no game or no friends. Kids need to actually get out the house. They wouldn't be taking these youtube videos for anything more than entertainment.

Answer 3

More than hurtful, I find it embarrassing because it isn't always the people on the outside who make up such negative portrayals and stereotypes, it's us! It's the way many black women go about life living up to those negative stereotypes that reflects poorly on the rest of us. I wish people would realize this because we are creating trouble for our own selves.

Answer 4

Well, I've reached to the point where I don't care what anyone thinks of me. I get stares from every race including my own because I'm not the typical "Black girl." I have more respect for myself than to be always shouting and acting obnoxious. To those who feel hurt don't be just ignore the negative stereotypes. I know it's hard but we can't sit back and let it affect us this way. Imagine if every single black woman did this.. we wouldn't be getting anywhere. Have a good day!! God bless

Answer 5

i honestly do at times feel hurt by the way we are portrayed. it's sad, because other women do the same thing, but it's us who are always the bad ones. i feel that it is only in america that does this. america thinks that we are the least desirable due to our skin and our features. but when i was stationed in italy for two years, they LOVED black women. they didnt look at us like we were ugly or rude or any of the matter. they said that we were beautiful. then i get back to the states and it's the garbage all over again. we get ostrasized (sp) for everything we do. if we wear a weave or wear our hair straightened, we are accused of self hate, we date out of our race, we're considered sellouts, those bw that are not the stereotype are considered oreos so either way we dont win. i just have to keep my head up. we have two strikes against us.

we're black and we're a woman in america, at least.

Answer 6

No, I don't feel anything. I'm not stereotyped as a woman, but as a BLACK woman (notice the BLACK part) meaning the stereotypes on here I've never faced, It's just racial discrimination, most of the people where I'm from don't know any stereotype about black women, all they know is
"If you're black"="they hate you"

Answer 7

First, be prayerful. Envy and jealousy are spiritual and when you are attacked constantly from many different sides, you need to know that God exists. Two, you need to start associating with older Black women who have lived in often hostile racial and gender environments. Ladies, this is not new, and those who have been around for fifty+ years have a certain level of wisdom that would lend itself to you learning how to successfully manuever the terrain. Keep your heads up.

Answer 8

I am neither a black nor a woman, but i can understand your feeling. Not any black woman, but also man and woman in other races have this dilemma.I can give you a example. I am a Asian man, one day i logged in interracialmatch.com and said HI to all in the forum, then I began my self-introduction. When someone heard my nationality, they asked me some annoy questions which hindered my original intention to make friends with them.

Answer 9

I'm not hurt because they're not portraying me. Nothing abouth that culture says who and what i am. I'm the polar opposite. I'm a girl who loves rock and hates rap with a passion. I fell for a very loving white man who treats me like a princess and i'm not waiting for a black man to come along and be my "black knight" (even though i know that would make my family much happier) I don't talk ghetto or loud. I don't represent any of those negative sterotypes that most people think of when they hear the words "black woman". It's very sad to think about but people tend tho look at a few rap videos and think all black women walk around half naked and are just sex objects. We're stronger than that. The ones who don't know that and think they need a man, a man of any color, and he will make everything better no matter what he makes her do. Or the ones who think the only way they can support themselves is shaking around in a rap video. They are the lost cause and the ones who promote the negative sterotypes that have come the be synonymous with black women.

Answer 10

Sometimes, I do. However I dont let such things get me down. People who have overgeneralized, negative, stereotypical opinions/views of black women are TOTAL LOSERS anyway. I am not the person they think they see and I dont fit those stupid stereotypes, so they can hate all they want.