I have a 16-yr old son who is soon to be 17 years old. School just started last month, but has managed to get suspended for the third time yesterday. He is even beginning to act out at home by smart mouthing me. I have never allowed any of my children to just say what they want to say to me, not have it ever neen acceptable to continue to get suspended. I am ready to put him in a military school, but I dont know if this is the Christian thing to do. Can someone WHO IS A CHRISTIAN please help me with this. I need some good parenting advice.
2007-10-12 02:39:01 · 12 answers · asked by notablewoman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
everyone think military school is the answer when a teenager is having problems, but the true is that you have the answer at home. by simply making adjustments like taking away the video games, cutting the TV time, doing chores around the house, cutting the allowance and having them earn what they want, they'll learned to be responsible. really the only responsibility he has is school and if he mess it that up than he doesn't get what he wants he should only gets what he needs until he understand he's wrong and you won't put up with that.
2007-10-12 03:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by pao 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have spanked her from an early age instead of rubbish like grounding her etc. I don't know if she's a bit too old for a spanking now - but I would prescribe a course of treatment with the belt or the rattan on the bare buttocks. In fact, reading over your case again, i would say it is the only option. You have 2 young children to worry about - there is no cause or justification for her being violent towards them. It sounds like you've been more than fair with her over the years. It sounds like she has no reason to feel agrieved about anything - you have let her away with everything going by the sounds of it. She cannot justify being violent and I would suggest that the next time she is in any way violent in the home, drag her to her room, tie her down on her bed and cane the living daylights out of her. She seems to act like an impetualant child - treat her thus. Perform this method of correction repeatedly until the desired behaviour starts to be observed. the vane and the belt are the way forward here.
2016-05-22 01:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by jewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God has placed children in our lives only for a season and part of the responsibility that we have as parents is to raise them in the admonition of the Lord and raise them to be productive citizens in society. Your son sounds as if he's testing the waters but you can't give in. Military schools sounds like the kind of medicine he could use. He has to learn that life is not centered around him. Teenagers do think that way and some have to learn the hard way that it doesn't. You may feel that this is a drastic step but think of it this way. Military school now so that strong boundaries can be established or law enforcement issues later. Sometimes that handwriting can be on the wall but we are so entangled in the situation that we can't see or hear clearly.
2007-10-12 02:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by Lady D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this but you have to do what you must do before things really get out of hand,so far he is only sassing you but if you don't do anything who know what he might do next.
I know that you have christian morals and you go to church every Sunday I would suggest that you have a talk with your pastor or priest and ask him if it is the christian thing to put your son in military school, or boot camp (it's not a school) it' an actual camp where they whip (figure of speech) troubled teens into shape and turn their lives around.
Or you could have your priest have a talk with him to see what is troubling him. Please do this before things get out of hand and may god be with you
2007-10-12 02:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by doubleg2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK this is what I would do and maybe it will help you. Punish him to the fulest extent take away all priviledges phone, tv, frineds et c whatever he enjoys the most take it. Only allow him to do stuff with you or sit in his room. If this does not work then I would go to the extreme like military school.
2007-10-12 02:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by luckyarborlane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down! Let him know who's boss now or he wont finish school.Maybe military school will make him think.Something is going on with him that hes acting out like this.Try taking him to counsiling 1 on 1.
2007-10-12 02:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by Gemini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my step-son(whom I love), he got kicked out 5 times in 1 sesmester, I spent more time @ the school, than he did!! His mother(my wife) inabled his behavior, and it took years to get it straightened out!! He till @ 27, acts like a lil teenage boy!! I refuse to let him live with us!! I really wish I'd had help, and sent him to M-School!! Do what you have to do, and pray withou seesing about this But you must be tough to save him from destruction!!
2007-10-12 04:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband put his son in military school for breaking house rules after he had 2 DUIs. It didn't help. He ended up dropping out of school and going to jail for drugs. After spending several months in jail, he seems like he is going to straighten up. We won't know until he proves it. Do what you think is best for your son.
2007-10-12 03:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by Ellen H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent, but I agreed you with military school, see if he act like that, keep send him to military school, if he stop act like that, trying keep send him to military school unitl he's apologizing to you fror being smart mouthing you, and hurt you or something like that...
oh! Btw i'm a christian....May God Bless You....I will pray for you.
2007-10-12 03:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by bunnielover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK , he would probably hate you for along time if you sent him to military school. try to let him loose a bit and give him restrictions
but if that does not work try to get some help. but if it has really gotten out of control send him to military school.
2007-10-12 02:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by ghettoboy57 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋