What an awful situation this is. I can't imagine what I'd do. When my children were 10 months old, there's no way I could have given them up, it would have broken my heart. However, i know that I'd also want my biological child back. Impossible situation.
I'm also a stepmother, with two step kids living just down the road. We see them every other day after school until the evening, and they stay with us every other weekend. This works well, they have two sets of loving parents, and are well adjusted kids. Could this sort of routine be the answer?
What would you do?
2007-10-12 01:12:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in News & Events ➔ Other - News & Events
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2007-10-12 01:12:47 · update #1
What an awful horrible situation to be in, thinking back to when my son was 10 months old there would be no way that I could hand him over if it was discovered there had been a mix up, but then saying that, if you refuse to switch the babies over, in a way you are denying your own biological child of growing up without his or her natural family, and is that fair? I really can't see anyway of them getting out of the situation without someone getting hurt. The only thing I am certain about, is if and when they do swap the babies over, that they make sure they maintain a relationship with each other, so they can all be in each others lives.
2007-10-12 01:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by MissEssex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an absolutely heartbreaking situation and there is really no answer. To raise a child, maybe breastfeed it, love it for 10 months - it's yours. No matter what anyone says. But then to know that another child is yours biologically. You gotta want both. I just hope those 2 sets of parents get on really well, because the only solution is to raise those two girls together as much as possible. What a nightmare!
2007-10-12 01:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by threepenny53 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very very sad for both sets of parents. I think they're doing the right thing though. This happened before in America, a long time ago. The children weren't swapped, one became very ill and the parent wanted their biological child back. (watched as a true film on TV).
For the Czech families, although a difficult choice, the correct one. Hopefully in time their hearts will heal.
I wish both families well.
2007-10-12 01:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an horrific situation to be in!
I couldn't begin to imagine what the parents are going through.
On one hand you would want your child to be your biological child, especially once you knew they were out there somewhere. But you have raised and loved that child during the most bonding times.
But in a lifetime, 10 months is nothing but right now that is those girls lifetime.
I just don't know!
2007-10-12 10:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened many years ago in South Africa, too. It was a horrible case, with both black families demanding the lighter skinned child, while the darker boy was rejected. I think that if there is cause to sue, this is it.
I take my hats off to the mothers in this situation, and both families say they will work together, as an extended family. It must be really hard.
We have a joke in our family that my daughter isn't biologically mine. She is blonde and blue eyed and I was unconscious, following an emergency caesarean when she was born. She talks about her other "wealthy, famous family with the mansion". But I know in my heart of hearts she is really mine, and even if she wasn't I don't care. I'd take on another child, but nothing on earth would make me give this one up.
2007-10-12 01:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand their reasons for not giving the kids back to biological parents.
they and the children will have bonded and grown together. they have each brought the child up to believe they are theirs and so i think it should stay that way despite knowing that the other child is really yours.
how they go forward is the difficult thing. yet how they decide to continue is their business. they believe they have their own child and want to keep it like that. as long as they dont regret and wonder continually about the other child and know how they are going to explain all this to the child when its older
2007-10-12 01:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by Mossy Jan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know, it's an awful situation. After 10 months of bonding with these children, it must be heartbreaking to give them away.
You hear about things like this in the movies, I always said that if anybody turned up claiming one of mine had been swapped there's no way I could give them back.
2007-10-12 01:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by Dellyxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Snaffles. After nursing a baby for 10months theres no way i would give that baby up.
However, i'd then want both babies...so i guess we'd have to live as one family which i guess is what has happened. Babies Nicole & Veronica have 2 families...which will be related for life now...& i hope closer & dearer than most families.
2007-10-12 01:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by Faith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they have made the right decision, albeit a terrible one to have to make. They have bonded with the babies they have cared for these last ten months and consider them their own. It would be terribly traumatic for themselves, and the children, to have to swap babies. At least they are happy to raise the children as one big family. Hopefully if they do stick with this decision it can be done without trauma or repercussions later on.
2007-10-12 01:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by Chipmunk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hopefully, none of us will be able to answer this, as there is no way any of us can tell what we would do unless we were in that situation! yes we all know it would be torture to give away, however 'close' we could remain, but to not have the baby we caried and delivered ....no idea how i'd feel
2007-10-13 10:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋