If I should either just let this go until he brings it up or bring up.
First off I want to say I love my husband more than anything. And I have trust issue, he knows this and knows I'm insecure, especially since I"m pregnant.
Anyway. The other day, out of sheer intution, plus nosyness he was on the computer on myapce and looking at this girls page, asked who she was, he was like noone some girl. Okay whatever I get stupid friend invites all the time to. Well a few days pass and he keeps going to her page. So yes and I shouldn't have done this this was wrong of me. But I felt like he was lieing so I wanted to see for myself. Well the whore lives like 15 minutes away and he was leaving comments sexual ones on her page and sending her sexual messages. So I earse her from his list and block her from contacting him.
Yesterday he wasn't on the computer at all but was on it till like 3 AM the night before, so yes I checked it again this morning (continued)
2007-10-12 00:25:40 · 16 answers · asked by his wife 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
saying he was sorry if he offended her, that he knows she is his boss (so he lied about knowing her) but they weren't at work.
Now I don't know weather to let things go ro admit I snopped and jump his *** for lying and talking sexual to some other woman. I don't want to fight with him, I love him, but honestly he would have a fit if I had said the things he was saying to another man so I have a right to be mad.
Or see if I should just wait and see if he mentions it.
I'm considering just having the net, disconnected.
2007-10-12 00:27:48 · update #1
What he did was inappropriate given that not only is he married with a child on the way but this woman is also his boss. I don't recommend jumping his a** and freaking out. You should sit him down and talk to him and let him know that you know he has been lying and give him the opportunity to fess up. Should he still deny knowing her and the messages that he left her, then by all means rip him a new one.
2007-10-12 00:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by bluemysti 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Having the internet disconnected won't change a thing. If he's going to cheat on you it ain't gonna be over the net. When men start lying it means that they are usually doing something to make them have to lie. Confront him and her. Put it all out on the table. Once you do that there isn't anything for him to hide. Men like the mystique of doing something dangerous like having to work around you to have an affair. Once the challenge is gone maybe the interest will, also. And most women don't want to mess with a man once they know he has a pregnant wife. It's the maternal instinct not to break up a happy home, because they can see that it could easily happen to them. But like I said most women!! Confronting them, in my opinion, is the best way to put a halt to a situation that could go to the next level. Best to you!!
2007-10-12 07:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh no =(... this is just horrible... =(... there are so many men out there who think this sort of stuff is ok, but, it's not ok! I feel so bad for you, especially since you are pregnant... If I were you, you could make him quit his job, because even if you get the internet disconnected, he still has contact w/ her at work. Ya, you could make him get rid of his my space, but, if it's not this lady, it will be another lady somehow, somewhere... so here is the deal, you have to give him an ultimatum... you, or these other women... I say women because there will always be another, somewhere, lurking... so you have to put a stop to it now... you... or these others... forsaking all others was the marital vow, and he is breaking it... stand up for you and the child, girl! you don't want your son or daughter to have a father who does not know how to treat his wife, do you? this, is cheating... good luck... don't put up w/ it... a confrontation is needed, he's a liar and a cheat...
2007-10-12 07:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me girl if he is doing this on the computer he might be doing worse stuff with woman. I have been there done that and it sucks. I understand you love him. I loved my husband to death. Married people do not do this stuff. I really feel for you because you are pregnant and my husband was doing this kind of stuff to me when I was pregnant with our second daughter. You have to confront him and let him know this is not right. If he doesn't change you have to leave him because it is not fair to you. You deserve better. Good Luck!
2007-10-12 07:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by lvbrdy4vr 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him about it instead of letting it simmer to the point you really blow up... I would be worried that he said she is the boss? I am just the bad woman that if I thought hubby was messing up I would find out how bad... I let my hubby smut talk online but 15 min is a little to close for comfort. I would be signed in under him and tell her that I must have gotten crabs from the other day.... I would fix his (_!_) good.
2007-10-12 08:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Roland B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest with him. And what does not at work have to do with anything? Is he flirting with her at work as well? He needs to know you know and that if he has a desire to be single again you can help him with that.
He needs to work on his marriage with you and maybe disconnecting the net is a good idea...Though he will know something is up if you don't tell him why.....
2007-10-12 07:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
online cheating is just as bad as in person... the fact that they work together is VERY dangerous! You should tell him that you are going to leave if he doesn't stop immediately! My ex husband did this very same thing.... and that is why he is an X. good luck and stand up for yourself... you deserve better!
2007-10-12 08:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by daniegirl917 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a bit harsh, but the reality is that "pregnancy breeds infidelity".
Tell him to give her a rest or get out.
Make sure you have not cut him off as well, what with all the pregnancy stuff going on.
2007-10-12 07:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
leave him. next guy you get, don't act like you're in the gestapo an you never know, he might stick around. unfortunately your current fella probably resents you and your little trust issue so much that he'd rather spend his time with people who don't give him bullshit. if he loved you before and you were giving him crap over nothin but your unfounded jealousy, he was bound to get sick of it and your issues fast. happened to me and i never cheated on nobody. yeah there are arseholes out there but innocent until proven guilty ok. sorry if i was blunt, but nothing worse than coming home to the inquisition
2007-10-12 07:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by mark9582003 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe she isn't his boss at work,maybe she is his boss in the bedroom.You know maybe she is his Domme.Be sure you are ready to hear what he tells you and maybe end your marriage with what he tells you.Good luck.
2007-10-12 07:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by notagain49 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋