For just under a year been chatting to this guy online, already knew him just not very well, only met briefly at uni.... got in contact via MSN around last xmas and we got talking regularly. He lives about 3 hrs away so not met up yet as he has a job thats quite full on and works all hours but he did say he wanted to and looked forward to it tho didnt say when.....our chat was quite flirtatious, and it got to where we were phoning a few times a week and lots of texts, started to see him as a genuine friend who really cared about, as we seem to get on really well and since about an even split who called or texted first would assume he felts same. Also found him v attractive frm pics etc and meant most of my flirtatious comments as he had said he did... Then on mon night he sent a txt saying he needed space for a bit and was saying this to all his friends, as hes changing jobs, buying a house etc and needed to get his head straight, hes def still single so am confused wht it means
2007-10-09 22:04:59 · 8 answers · asked by claire007 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Not sure whether as he went to pains to state when he rang to explain, that its just about getting his life settled right now due to him being v independent and not able to be this close to sumone for the next few weeks, or whether he lieing and pushing me away.... If hes pushing me away dont understand why as, as recently as sunday we were having long conversations and txting.... Anyway have an opinion
2007-10-09 22:07:40 · update #1
Yeah its not that have any reason from anything in the past to assume dishonesty im just not sure how to take v friendly and close for months and then all of a sudden i need space, hard to understand since he was normal up until the day before he said anything, I do know that the thngs he mentioned are happening in hislife tho, he does have to find a new job, somewhere to live etc.... he just said its the way he is when stressed and likes to be left alne for a bit and that most ppl have understood.... he has also said that he finds closesness hard.... so am just hoping it is what he says and not that he its me he doesnt like being close to or was just using, since weve spoken soo much offline and about all sorts thats why i find it hard to believe its not true and that he was just wasting time with me, but i dont have any prior experince of anyone saying I need space.... and have heard it can be a cliche to let sumone down gently maybe is all tht was bothering me
2007-10-09 22:32:06 · update #2
It is simple, he was doing time pass with you . And now he is not interested in any freindship.
Freinds never ignore each other in whatever situation they are. So just leave him alone and cheer up with other freinds.
2007-10-09 22:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Shirley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I guess that you should be glad that he said what he did. a lot of guy's would just leave you guessing.. The question should be do you think he is being honest with you? Or is he just trying to find a way out? Some time's you really don't know the person the way you thought you did.. Have you dealt with dis honest guy's in the past? More than likely he has been flirting with just because that's what guy's do..But moving in to a relationship is all about timing. Maybe you should just step back and see what happens. You could even take a gamble on not calling or texting. Maybe he will miss the wonderful girl in you in no time... I wish the best of luck!
2007-10-09 22:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by DANNY M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's nervous having gone so far... maybe he just really does need a break. I know I can act in a similar way! My pals now just accept that when I'm under stress I go quiet and leave the answerphone on! The ones I get back to (eventually!) are the ones who have said "Ok mate, no problem, catch up when you have more time"... not the ones who keep leaving me messages and getting stroppy about my self-imposed absence. Thats what friends are for, isn't it, understanding each others quirks and needs? My advice would be to send a polite, cheerful message saying it's no problem and suggest you call him in say, a months time. That way you haven't sounded clingy or hostile, you have been light hearted and friendly and you have left the door open for a phone call in a few weeks when hopefully he has more time and opportunity to dedicate to the nice things in liife. Good luck!
2007-10-09 22:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by miranda6382 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's being friendly...yet i do no longer think of that his spouse might like it. in case you want him to offer up, you will possibly desire to assert issues like, "do you have any p.c.. of your toddler? How is your loved ones doing? you may desire to be so delighted with your new little alarm clock!" The naughty stuff is merely him being a guy. don't recover from excited with the teasing yet convey it lower back to his family individuals. If that doesn't artwork, merely pop by utilising his residing house with a recent for the toddler and function coffee together with his spouse. make confident that he unearths out which you paid a bypass to.
2016-11-07 21:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure, but my son does that too sometimes. It seems that he goes through goals setting, then shuts everyone out until he feels that he is on the track to achieving his goal. I just think that it is too hard for him to juggle too many thoughts at one time, and still get to where he wants to be.
2007-10-09 22:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes just being polite,he told me that he thinks you`re a bit of a pig,but thats life,so get a new computer as he said he`s gonna send you a virus.have you got anti-virus software?
hope this helps.
2007-10-09 22:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a week or 2 let him cool off then phone him and sort it out..good luck
2007-10-09 22:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him at his word
2007-10-09 22:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by toon l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋