...I've been in a relationship with a guy for almost three months...however a lot of things weren't in a way the supposed to be....he was very distant, he didn't had the need to kiss me or hug me, he was very strict guy....and yet loving of course....
However I told him I can't go on like that...and borke up...still I do love him, despite everything....
How to overcome this feeling...? I feel like I'm crying every single moment....
Thank you in advance!
2007-10-09 21:01:18 · 11 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thank you carlito...means a lot to me....
2007-10-09 21:14:36 · update #1
There were more things in him that bothered you than things that fulfilled your needs. Your upset because youre lonely now and have to start over with someone. But the good thing is you recognize what you want. I see questions in here all the time from women who put up with the mans crap for years and whine and complain they arent getting what they want. You at least have the guts and wisdom to see it early on he isnt for you and youre not gonna waste years of your life on him. So sit up and be proud that you have wisdom and intelligence. Meanwhile focus on other things in life that bring you little moments of contentment or happiness.
2007-10-09 21:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were right.
You will get over it. Breaking up a relationship is always an emotionally trying experience and your best approach is to accept it and accept your feelings as normal.
Some years ago I divorced a woman I had been married to for 15 years. It was not an easy decision but it was fully justified. I got through it because I understood what had caused it and I accepted the fact it was the only reasonable choice I could have made.
You will get over it. Time heals. Buy a new dress, or get a makeover and move on with your life.
2007-10-10 04:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no man is perfect mama. if u feel he was right for you, then maybe you should talk it out with him and see what he has to say about things... its only been three months you guys been dating! girl, your taking the relationship waaaaay too seriously at this point. right now y'all should be going at it like jackrabbits and u already picking at his flaws. give him time to get used to you first, be as open and honest as possible, and don't worry him with your troubles if he cant do anything about it. men always seem to fold under the pressure us ladies put on them unconsciously because we want that "perfect relationship".
i think u should reevaluate this and maybe give him a call. deep down inside u know this was a harsh, rushed decision because u panicked. nobody likes a bullhead, but I'll take that over an untrustworthy, unreliable guy any day. it sounds like your a smart girl, just stop jumping to conclusions before you know for sure this is what you want...... good luck to ya !!!!!
2007-10-10 04:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ebony da *Dimepiece* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can he be loving if he is distant? I think you are feeling the wondering stage of what if? How can you love someone if its not reciprocated? It's always a two way street in a relationship. I don't think i'm helping but maybe it would make you think deeper and ask yourself more questions. Why do you need to convince yourself? I think you know the answer to your question and just looking for validation.
2007-10-10 04:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by jingsilvermorning 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It obviously bothered you enough not having the closeness you need. why are you second guessing your decision? did you first talk to him and tell him how you feel and your needs? if so then he knows what his choices were. you cant expect to change someone. it doesn't work. you would make your life and the inevitable brake up worse by staying and hoping things will work out and he will be the man you want and need.
Try to get your mind off the situation. Go do something you use to love to do before him. and go out or stay in with friends. but do something that involves your attention. so you cant sit there feeling bad. good luck! smile :-) !!!!!
2007-10-10 04:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by leeann 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take it one day at a time. You obviously were'nt been fullfilled in this relationship, and therefore we all deserve to be happy, so you did the right thing. Just try and not mope about it too much. Easier said than done i know, but you will find peace, then you can move on to better things. x
2007-10-10 04:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now.... your head and your heart are in two different places on this. Give yourself some time and you'll realize that common sense helped you make the right decision that was best for you. Not to mention your future with the right person.
2007-10-10 08:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by jbolt5491 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way things are supposed to be is entirely in your head. So if things were not the way they were supposed to be then you're obviously not meant for each other. Move on. You will find someone that meets you're requirements, and I'm sure he will find someone compatible with himself.
2007-10-10 04:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by Crypt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You love someone after 3 months? Probably not... there was a reason you broke up and no girl (I am assuming you are young by this question) deserves anything less than her prince charming!
2007-10-10 04:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy to 1+triplets 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon! Are you cute...sexy....an image of perfection ? Then you are much like myself .....please, although in your heart you may still feel for him ....he's obviously not....what you need (not able to perform) hence you need to find you someone that can ! Its very difficult being a lady we need affection like men need food....and when you deprive us of that you are barking up the wrong tree...he needs to work on him there is nothing....nothing wrong with you and there is no need for you to feel tied to the past ...let it gooo I think it was for the best...CHIN UP!
2007-10-10 08:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by GUMCHEWER 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋