when I went to picture info that the pictures were taken 20 minutes apart. Should that make me more mad? Because it did! That means he spent some time talking to her--not just a quick picture. Makes me wonder if he spent the whole day or night with her. Yes, he was out of town in Sturgis for the biker rally--it was "work" related. Guess I'll never know, but is that a silly thing to make me even more mad that the pictures were taken that far apart?
2007-10-09 20:06:32 · 17 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
KI557, I'm from the USA & I KNOW it's NOT OK! My previous question would have told you that. Goodness no, I'm not saying it's okay at all! I'm trying to decide what to do! We've been married 7 yrs & I've only CAUGHT him lying (at strip club when I was out of town) 1 other time! We have 2 kids together & I don't know how far I should take this, but I JUST found out, like I said, that the pictures were taken over 20 min. apart!!!
2007-10-09 20:25:17 · update #1
The woman wasn't wearing much clothes, but my husband was fully dressed. I just don't understand why he stopped her & had someone take their picture. Apparently she hung out with them for a while as well! What the he!l!!!!
2007-10-09 20:27:22 · update #2
I need to tell you, Big mamma, that I just moved from that area. I lived there for 20 years. Pictures are a common thing there. Several times that I attended the rally I was asked if someone could take their picture with me(when some go to Sturgis they dress like Sturgis, not bad just less than the norm). We talked about where they were from and then they were on their way. There are many people that just go to look at the way people are dressed. Others go for the bikes. Most go for the party and the concerts. It is a very small town of about 7000 people that turns into a half a million people overnight literally. It sounds like your husband appreciates looking at the opposite sex. You may never know if he actually cheated unless he owns up to it. Sturgis is a huge party that lasts for 7 days. A lot goes on there. There is also a lot that doesn't go on. As far as his roaming eyes go I can't help you there but I hope some of what I said helps a little.
2007-10-09 22:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look your going to be mad all night long aren't you. You've asked this question (phrased differently) many times already. I'm sorry your feelings are hurt, truly I am. I've been cheated on before, but given what you typed throughout all of your questions I seriously do NOT think he cheated on you. I think he showed some poor judgment. Without a doubt! But I don't think he cheated.
I think your making a mountain out of this. Has he ever given you any other reason to mistrust him? Seriously? If not, try to find it in yourself to calm down and talk with him about your disappointment in him. Don't be like you were when you confronted him initially. (behavior like that will get you nowhere) Take a deep breath, take a step back, and take a long hard look at the situation.
2007-10-09 20:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
BigM,
I have a friend who is a Police Officer in that area, he normally gets overtime because of the event in Sturgis. All I can say is that it sounds to me like it was innocent fun (he didn't get arrested for any illegal activity did he?); however, after seeing you so upset I would hope he had the common decency to be more sensitive to you and your feelings in the future.
2007-10-10 16:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to just ask him what the deal is with those photos. Was it someone who was looking at him or just some photo of a girl in the distance sitting on a beach or something?? I've never heard of Stugis so I don't know where you're talking about but I would DEFINATELY ask hubby why he is taking pictures of another woman!
2007-10-09 20:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ya know, guys need some attention if they're not getting it at home. I'm sure this girl was just flattered by him wanting her picture as much as he was getting his picture taken with "another woman". It doesn't mean he's going to leave you.
It might mean that he's not getting enough attention from his spouse. Only you and him can answer that.
Stop killing yourself over suspicion. And you shouldn't have been in his phone anyway so let it go. If you have issues regarding trust, you need to talk to each others like adults.
2007-10-09 20:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ace 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sturgis - the place where anything goes and nobody tells about it - - drunks, drugs, tattoo artists, motorcycles, barely dressed females and gullible men who stare at them.... I have friends that go every year (for business too). I was invited along but I have NO desire to hang around drunks with no self control.
HOPEFULLY, he just took the pictures to make the girl think he cared - - and who knows, maybe he tried to get away from her and she kept following him.... I SERIOUSLY doubt he would leave such incriminating evidence on his phone if he were really guilty of something!!!!
Next year, make plans to join your hubby to Sturgis - get a bike for yourself if need be.... you might enjoy it - have a few beers, strip down to your undies, and do your OWN photo shoot!!
2007-10-09 20:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'd be even more livid than you are. I would completely just let into his a s s. Even if he spent "only" twenty minutes with her and he was fully dressed, he has no business talking to bar skanks and he ESPECIALLY doesn't have any business taking pictures with her. And I'd be really really suspicious that that's not all he's done with her.
2007-10-09 20:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yeah it would make me more mad too. A quick picture is bad enough but knowing that he spent at least like half an hour with a scaresly clad other women is horrible. Are you going to stay with him? Because I wouldn't recommend it.. Goodluck :)
2007-10-09 20:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sturgis...isn't it usual for most of the women to have little clothing on??? As to why your husband had little clothing on, well that is another question. You mentioned work...perhaps he was working<<<>>>
2007-10-09 20:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by missyj 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
so i didn't quite understand - were they in bed together or it happened just in the street? so maybe he was sitting and drinking beer and some slut was walking by and say "hey, why don't u buy me a beer, i would let u to hold my boob". so he bought her a beer cos he is a decent polite man and because she was insisting for him to hold her boob he said "why don't we take a piture instead" again, cos he is a polite man and didn't want to tell that beatch to go and molest herself in nearest bushes. dear, would that explanation make u feel better? i wouldn't jump to any conclusion if i were u. wait for him and talk with him. anyway, i wouldn't suggest u dump him over a stupid pictrure with some whore
2007-10-09 20:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋