is it normal for my 10-week old to scream in terror during car rides? she has been on many car rides (you would think she would be used to it by now) and she is only ok when someone is sitting in the back with her, and even then not always. i have tried mirrors, toys, music, everything you could think of to try to calm her down, but she just screams in terror mostly. normally i just reach my hand in the back and try to stroak her cheek so she knows i am there, but i know it's unsafe as i am driving and need both hands. when should she grow out of this? i feel abusive every time i take her anywhere. :(
2007-10-09 18:27:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It is really scary that we are asking basically the same question at the same time!
And, hey, you held out an a week longer than I did! Good for you!
I can't reach my daughter in our car but I have a 10 year daughter that will help with the pacifier or even just putting her hand on her leg to let her know she isn't alone.
Some one on my question mentioned having my husband drive. If I would I could but we rarely go the same place at the same time but it is something I will try when we get the chance!
**HUG** Maybe we need a support group for the next couple of weeks for all of us who use car seats to abuse our children!?
2007-10-09 18:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by toonew2two 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe give your daughter something of that smells like you--like an old shirt..that you cut a piece off of to make like a blankie...smells comfort kids...and talk to her alot in the car.
Also i suggest putting her in the carseat (if it is like a carrier) when she is not in the car, and play some peekaboo with her...she should soon be starting to learn cause and effect..like she can still hear you, but not see you...this will help with longer car rides especially.
My son was the same way for awhile...but he eventually grew out of it.
Good luck
2007-10-09 18:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by mommy2dw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agreed, probably temper rather than fear. Don't drive one-handed. And don't take the screaming personally. You aren't abusive. Keep her in the back seat in the car seat. Talk to her, but don't reach back as it isn't safe. Eventually you will get where you are going and pick her up again.
I have experience with cats who hate to ride, and one who loves it, and you have to just let them cry.
2007-10-09 18:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by Howard H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
play classical music, don't give snacks choking hazard, sing to the music you enjoy and that usually does it talk about where you are going, just knowing that you didn't leave her/him is usually enough to (after a couple weeks) make the child calm down. My little girl was smart if I said no now thats enough (not mean just firm) she actually stopped (I didn't think she understood me but she did very young so try to be firm, if you are easily swayed by tears than it's a test)
2007-10-09 19:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by sweetmommy101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Screaming is usually not terror, but being mad. She probably doesn't like being strapped down.
2007-10-09 18:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal she will grow out of it soon enough!!
2007-10-09 18:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by bec 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋