I've been with him for four years now and nothing.When i ask him if he'll ever marry me he gets frustrated and says he dosen't believe in it.Or he says maybe he dosen't know.If i ask him if he'll leave me for another he says he can't say.Hes the kind of guy that can't promise anything cause he just dosen't know so he says. PLEASE HELP WHAT DOES IT SOUND LIKE TO YOU????
2007-10-09 18:02:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe he don't make promises he might not be able to keep!
2007-10-09 18:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by pinkixavrulz 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
At least he's being honest with you, instead of leading you on, so give him credit for that.
The answer may be, as he's said, that he honestly doesn't know if he'll ever marry. So, if marriage is important to you, then you’re taking a chance here. Only you can decide if the chance is worth it.
Many years ago, I was in a relationship with a man who made it clear that he never intended to marry or have kids. Eventually I ended the relationship because of that, and I moved on and found a great guy who I fell completely in love with. That was over 20 years ago, and to the best of my knowledge my ex still hasn’t ever married.
2007-10-09 18:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOUR YEARS?! Hon, move on. This guy isn't going to marry you. Stop wasting time and find a real man and not just a male. Go look up some stuff by Dr. Laura she gives really good advise on these type of things.
2007-10-09 18:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie why would you want to be with a man who cant make a decision, or who doesnt know anything about anything. you need to leave him alone and let him figure out what in life that he wants. you have already wasted four yrs and are at a stand still. its not going to go any further because he is scared to make a decision about his life. so roll and let him think about his life. you deserve better than this. you need a man that can answer your questions with a sound mind and confidence that this or that is what he want and this is how it is going to happen. he has no drive. move on. GodBless
2007-10-09 18:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to get married and he is just the person wouldnt like to get married i think you need to give him ultimatum. Dont waste another four years, there is so many man out there that willing to get married with the woman they love and if he insist he wouldnt get married well then leave the bastard. I dont believe in getting married so fast but i do want to get married to and if my man wouldnt marry me for sure there will be a better man who would love to get marry and commit fully with me.
2007-10-09 18:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by chill25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is not ready to make any kind of commitment to you and is not wanting to marry anyone. I know you don't want to hear this, but he said it plain and clear.
I think you wasted your time with him thinking that he will change and ask you to marry him. Now it is time for you to move on. Plus, it sounds like he doesn't know what he really wants. He is not 'husband' material.
I would consider you reading "10 Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives."
2007-10-09 18:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont press him. it sounds like he's at a point in his life where he's really trying to figure what life means to him. marriage is something u grow into. not do it just because u've been together for 'x' amount of years. both of you have to be on the same page. marriage is a choice. respect him for that. he's at a growing point. let him be ffree to do that. dont force anything, cuz all it'll do is push him farther away from u.
it'll be a good thing to go to him and apologize for pressing him on the issue, cuz obviously it offended him. no one likes to be pressed. let him know that you hold marriage as very important in your life and that when he's ready to talk about it he can. plus there may be something going on with him that is holding him back from talking to you. right now he just doesn't feel comfortable.
2007-10-09 18:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Kina B. 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's a smart man who realizes what he wants in life.
After talking to my friends - I realize that men succumb to marriage. They either get too lonely or get pressured into it.
Rarely will a happy, healthy man decide on his own to get married...it's really not the way it works for men.
So, you might just have to find someone else if you are looking to get hitched.
2007-10-09 20:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by KI557 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
four years is a long time you have vested in this man
..tell him what you want.. marriage
..give him a time limit.. let say he has to purpose to you by the end of the year
..if it doesnt happen.. it never will... you must leave
..if he really loves you.. he will not let you leave
..if he is crazy about you.. marriage
..make it his choice
..then leave and never look back
..the right man who wants marriage is out there find HIM
2007-10-09 18:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by pastels c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stacy I have no idea what is going on in his mind, but one thing for sure he is not the only person alive that wants to marry you:)
If he wants to be friends then your still available..get the drift.
2007-10-09 18:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn´t want to commit, he´s not fully in love and he doesn´t care about things that you care...The question is: What are you doing with him?---You don´t have same goals, there is no reciprocity, he´s no interested in building something with you...And that is no good.
Good luck!
2007-10-09 18:09:54 · answer #11 · answered by jackielafemme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋