I cant seem to go a week with out fighting with my wife.
My wife sleeps works and spends time with our kids and thats about it throw in some chores and call it a day.Why cant she still do some stuff with me make an effort to spice up our life.
2007-10-09 17:43:25 · 22 answers · asked by Timothy M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sweetie she cant fix the issues if she doesnt know that something is wrong. you cant expect her to know your issues if you are screaming and yelling at each other. you need to say look on Saturday i made plans for us to go to a movie than a dinner, or something in that area. arrange for the kids to leave on Friday night or early Saturday so that you two can have the whole day. the things that you are asking of her ask of yourself. you need to spice up your life with her. stop expecting for her to do everything. do your part. than while on the date talk to her, communicate your feelings on everything WITHOUT the screaming and yelling. TALK. if you want something different you have to do something different. change your approach. dont make her get of the defensive side or feel guilty about spending time with the kids. TALK and LISTEN and you will be amazed at what you learn about and you didnt even have a clue. GodBless
2007-10-09 17:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your daughter just became a teenager has alot to do with it and your wife should already know that. Your wife seems like she's very immature. This is a teenager! They will begin to disagree with alot at that age, but that's too bad. She should be respecting you and your wife. They are like a child in the "terrible two's". If you tried to stop it by communicating, that's wonderful, but because that is not working you have to have alot more power. You have to say (to your wife only), you will not live like this, that something better change now, because now this is even affecting you sexually, that your fighting over ridiculous reasons and she is suppose to discuss things and teach her daughter. She's not suppose to "stoop to her level" and fight with her. That's what making her seem so immature. Then you also have to confront your daughter and tell her, this will stop right now, as we speak. That she will respect what your wife says, whether she disagrees or not, or you will take it to the next level. You know what the next could be. Take her cell phone away, stop her from going out, etc. Get some control here. You will find out how much your wife loves you if you do. Don't let this nonsense ruin the atmosphere at home and your marriage! That makes no sense to me. Take the reigns. Get going!
2016-03-19 09:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So she sleeps, works, spends time with the kids, does a bunch of chores around the house, and then collapses on the bed ready to wake up and do it all again.
What exactly are you doing, other that complaining about it?
Having multiple kids puts an enormous strain on a marriage. It creates an unspeakable amount of work and financial pressure. If you wanted a blissful marriage with lots of couple time, maybe you should have put off having kids, or maybe not had them at all.
2007-10-09 17:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by ZCT 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Once a week, you should have a communication session with your wife. Set rules and guidelines for this weekly talk. (no fighting, arguing, name-calling, or sarcasm.) Then sit down together and talk. Tell her how you feel neglected sometimes. Let her know that you love her and don't want her to neglect the kids or anything like that. Tell her that you feel neglected because of the lack of intimacy in your marraige. Let her know that you love her and just want to spend some time with her. This exercise is great for people who fight often. It will help you and her to stop doing the things that set each other off. You can't meet each others' needs if you can't honestly communicate them to each other. Good luck.
2007-10-09 17:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by B. Nowlin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Work....kids and house work.....Your wife has a full plate!!
Do you help with the kids and house chores?? If not try giving her a hand. House work and raising kids is not just women's work.
Unless you give her a hand she is always going to be to tired for anything else. Talk with her and share in the at home work.
You have to make an effort too. If you want your wife to change you must change to.
2007-10-09 17:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by patwhite101 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you help out with the kids? If not, start. If so, then it seems like you both need a "date night." One night a week that's just for the two of you. Send the kids to grandma. Splurge the $50 for a babysitter. Whatever it takes to get you some lovin' and your wife to start looking at you like you're a man.
2007-10-09 17:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by Blade_III 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what YOU do all day. Sounds to me that your WIFE, not "you" has her hands full and on top of everything else you want her to be in the MOOD?? Take a hard look at what YOU might be able to help her with to lighten HER load, after all you are the man and MEN have more stamina than women. It's what "I" do here at home on top of working, and I get my jollies satisfied. Try it, you may find out she'll have that energy you're yearning for.........
2007-10-09 18:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by Theban 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have a sit down with her. reassure her that you're not lashing out at her but are trying to figure out whats up. let her know how u feel without yelling. even hold hands while talking. let her knnow that u want to spend more personal time with her. even work it out with her as far as putting aside that time for just u too. let her know how important it is to u to make it work and how much u hate to argue. let her know how much u love her and the kids but just want more time. things will work out. i went to thru something similar with my bf. i was always working and sleeping and not spending enough time with him and we had a sit down about it.
oh yeah.. tell her some lil ideas that u thought of that u would like to do to spice things up and also how u miss the spice. also do lil things to let her know u're thinking about her. u guys should really talk about working together on spicing it up and not just one or the other too :)
2007-10-09 17:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by Kina B. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a counselor with her. If the two of you can't find time to do things together the marriage will eventually fall apart. that may be how she was raised though and you may have to be content to do things as a family and not just the two of you anymore, or that is what she wants and when you give her that, she will decide that she wants some time with just the two of you. counseling, or even just talking to each other about this , may help
2007-10-09 17:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop fighting. All your doing is adding fire to the problem when you argue. It makes you both insensitive towards each other.
try saying nice things to one another and try to compromise on indifferences.
Practice kindness and work on your relationship to enhance it not destroy it.
My wife and I argued all the time and one day she was diagnosed with breast cancer. The arguing stopped.
Don't wait for something tragic to occur to wake up and smell the coffee that she loves you and she is the one in your life that deserves all of you. Give it o her now don;t wait for something to happened and then feel sorry for what you always did.
2007-10-09 18:13:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋