I have this friend who is on the heavier side and a boy said she was fat when she was sitting right next to me. She totally heard, because he was practically speaking to her. I was so shocked he said that when she was right there and she looked fine, like it happened a lot. She's shy and she didn't say anything so I blurted out "Shut up. You're fat!"
It wasn't exactly the best comeback, but it was all I could think of. She looked a little more relieved. I was shocked he just said that to her face. (The boy is an idiot by the way...and I mean like, a straight F student by the way.) It's amazing how he could just say that!! I swear if I was her I would have slapped him so hard! I was almost ready to. I'm pretty thin so I felt so bad and awkard!
What would you have said?
Was what I said right?
2007-10-09 17:34:08 · 14 answers · asked by poprollrock 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It wasn't right but you were caught off gaurd. Straight F student, you say? I would have told him to learn how to multiply before he goes around making judgement on others.
2007-10-09 18:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by h1u4sxda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was nice of you to stand up for your friend like that, and I would probably said something along the same lines as that. Since your friend is, as you say, "on the heavier side" , then all you can do as a good friend is to help her not focus on that. Just treat her normally and no different than any of your other friends. Make sure she knows that you don't care about weight issues with your friends, and tell her to forget all those haters!!
2007-10-09 17:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by f.o.b<3(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a great friend. It would have been hard to come up with something on the spot like that. I think just because you stood up for your friend when she needed you is all you needed to do. I would have done the same thing. She is lucky to have you as a friend. And your friend is probably hurting every time she is insulted, but is holding it in. Let her know that everyone is a different size shape and color and that it doesn't matter what that f student said because she has friends like you who care about her. GREAT JOB
2007-10-09 17:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with calmly saying something. Your pissed off and she is your friend. You have right to be angry and spat something back. Some people are not designed to say something witty and others, like myself, think of something only after the fact. The idea is that he should have said what he said and you let him know that. Now you friend knows two things, that you are her friend and that you will stand by her side. You are good friend, don't lose sight of that!
2007-10-09 17:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mystic Twilight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is fat, so she must hear it a lot. Really, the best solution to avoid ridicule is if she tried to lose some weight. As a friend, you could try motivating her to do that.
2007-10-09 17:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by damlovash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell that scumbag to grow up...and you have no reason to feel bad just b/c u r skinny....u cant help it and she cant help that she is "fat" sometimes u r just born that way, people have different metabolizim.....its good that you stuck up for your friend, but your friend is probably used to it, and just doesn't let it phase her anymore.
Like I always say....It doesn't matter what other people think or say about you, only thing that does matter is that you are happy with yourself.
2007-10-09 17:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by stuckinyourheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have told him " excuse me ..but I think you dropped your manners on the floor over there. why don't you run along and get them!"
However considering the shock factor and your probable age...you did just fine. Good job!
2007-10-09 17:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by kissy_karissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah some people just don't know when to shut up. I hate being around people like that.
2007-10-09 17:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you said wasn't right, but I think it's nice that you wanted to defend your friend. Maybe you could say something like, "That's not appropriate. I'd really rather not hear things like that about my friend."
2007-10-09 17:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what u said was fine and you shouldnt feel bad aslong as you dont talk bad about your friend it will be alright and if your friend ignores it maybe you should try to also and just be cool
2007-10-09 17:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by Quala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋