okay. my friend is closer to my older sister's age, but still in my grade. recently i took this friend to the beach and my older sister wasnt happy because she "hated" her. my sister knows VERY WELL that i HATE it when my friends become friends with her because i am afraid that they will like her more. but anyways, my sister is acting like im a little baby when me, her, and my friend are together and she makes me feel bad about myself. i cant talk to my sister because she will call my a cry baby and my parents think im over reacting. and now that my sister is telling my friend secrets that she wont even tell me, im getting afraid of my friend liking my sister more. what should i do???
my sister like texts her and stuff. i dont text her a lot because i dont really like calling or texting.
2007-10-09 16:43:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
what yall dont understand, is that me and that friend have been kinda moving appart lately but we both wanted to spend more time together because we have been bff for four years. but the biggest fight we EVERRR got in was over my sister.
2007-10-09 16:54:59 · update #1
get over yourself... if people are going to be friends they will.
2007-10-09 16:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by This is harder than it looks? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A quick story: My middle sister and I are 18 months apart. Growing up we fought over everything. And I do mean EVERYTHING. I became friends with someone once and we were inseperable. Well one night I had to do homework and couldn't go outside to play with her so my sister played with her instead and they became friends. My sister and I fought over this friend for years. There came a time when my sister and I couldn't play with this friend together. But now years later, I'm 25, the friend is 26, and my sister is 27, we are all the best of friends. And have been for years. Yes, my friend knew before I did that my sister was pregnant but so what. I consider that friend to be family. So what if you share friends. Big deal. It's nothing to fight over. And if your sister is getting on your nerves it's b/c she knows that what she is doing is bothering you. That's why she is doing it. Think of it as a twisted way of sister bonding. Don't sweat it. And dont' hate your sister for it. Family first, not friends first. Family. Love your sister, dont' hate her. And grow up and be happy.
2007-10-09 16:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by Linds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple thing to do here is the most difficult and that's to be patient and just be yourself. Try not to worry about what your sister is doing or why. Just be a good friend and a good sister and you cant go wrong. That will lead you to great friendships that will last forever. When people do things than are hateful it always comes back on them 10 fold just remember that. We call it car-ma !!!
2007-10-09 16:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by "Enforcer" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some friendships aren't meant to be madi
sounds to me like your sister is jealous of your friendships.
if your friend is acting more like a friend to your sister than to you, i suggest you go find another friend.
it takes times to build a friendship, it takes trust and understanding. I don't think you made a good choice.
the good thing is there will be a lot of people you will call friend in your life, but only a few will make the grade of a trusted friend.
good luck hon, and don't sweat it.
there will actually come a day when you call your sister a friend.
trust me, I'm old and wise.
2007-10-09 16:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big sisters always like making fun of their little sisters, they see thaem as annoying or stupid. Giver her a taste of her own medicine. Make fun of her too not when she does it to you but at other times in front of other people. Maybe your friend will give you the secret info about your sis. If this is not your style remove yourself from that situation and find yourself some new freind. Dont put your eggs all in one basket.
2007-10-09 16:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, one day you and your sister will both grow up. And Suzie what's her name will be something that you laugh hysterically about on those rare holiday occasions when you fly to Arizona to see her. Point being: Who cares? This too shall pass. So enjoy the volatile emotional roller coaster while it lasts. Because soon your concerns will be less along the lines of highshool friendships and more along the lines of getting a good G.P.A. ....and then paying the mortgage , and if you go that route, changing diapers. Enjoy those dramatic teenage years kiddo!
2007-10-09 16:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by Sister Lourdes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop competing with your sister.
Don't force the world to choose between you and her.
Realize that you can have more than one friend, which means your friends can have more than one friend, which means one of the other friends can be your sister.
Your sister can be your friend.
Your sister will be your sister long after your friends are not your friends.
2007-10-09 16:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by open4one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though you are afraid of what will happen if you talk to your sister, i think you should go to her anyway. try to keep a calm face and just go for it. ask your sister why she - all of a sudden - enjoys talking with your friend and why she can't tell you these things. a sister bond is important you know [;
2007-10-09 16:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by muzicggirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you shouldn't let it bother you 2 much if they really are your friends they won't chose your sister over you. if this really worries you and your sister won't listen to you then talk to your friends and tell them how you feel about the situation .
2007-10-09 16:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. my sugession is, just b as u are, meet your friends the way you r. You cannot force sombody to like you more than anyone other. So.. chill & meet your friend as you. Try to share their feelings, jst b a true friend irrespective of what your sis does or behaves.. i'm sure your friend will like you too.
2007-10-09 16:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by i_will 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 20:46:34 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋