7. want attention when the football game is on
6. get upset that he didn't get you anything for your birthday, Christmas, or valentines day
5. tell him that you want him to do something romantic like a moonlight picnic and not have sex afterwards but just hold each other under the stars all night
4. get in the bed and cuddle up to him but don't have sex with him
3. Don't boost his ego all day everyday even though he rarely tries to boost yours as he lets you know you should be lucky to have him
2. Don't ever talk to him about a something that is bothering you they hate listening if sex isn't the end result
1.Don't ever get upset that he won't marry after you having been living with him and acting like his wife for 7 years.
If you can think of anything else feel free to add to the list.
2007-10-09 15:50:41 · 30 answers · asked by hanna 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
you basically described marriage. so why would you want to marry him now, its not going to get any better just because you make it legal with a piece of paper? i say be glad you aren't married to him, that way when you have finally had enough you don't have to go through all the legal crap and you can just cut your losses and walk.
2007-10-09 16:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by frigginhilarious 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I must admit 7 shows you are kind of inconsiderate. Now 6 is understandable that you would get angry if he didnt think of you.
5 shouldnt be an issue for a man eithier, IF sex is regular and often usually he can do without that one night.
4 isnt an issue if it doesnt happen too often.
Usually with 3 men get angrily if the gender roles are reversed. I think most men dont demand exagerate ego boosting.
2 Dont think thats true.
1 People feel different about marriage. Depending whats more important to you, marriage or the guy you should decide your next steps.
I think things like infidelity beeing mouthy and obnoxious or a feminist are reasons that are far more likely to make him leave you than you beeing cuddly.
2007-10-09 23:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
First off, I have learned that giving up your job for a guy is NOT a good idea (I did this and within months he broke up with me and kicked me out--even though he said that he would take care of me, etc). Second, if you have been putting up with this crap for this long, it is way too long. NO one should put up with anything like that. Sex is not a given or right in a relationship--it is a privelege and a perk to add to the relationship. I know relationships that don't have sex in them and they are great!
You deserve someone that will like you for you, treat you right and decent, will talk with you about anything and everything, think that you hold the world in your hands, and will fully take care of you. Someone that will treat you as an equal, not as a piece of meat to have sex with at every chance he gets--or at his every thought of it! Have self-respect and get rid of the loser. Then, when you are ready, find someone that will treat you as you deserve to be treated. It is ok to live together the rest of your lives (if that works for both of you) as it is only a piece of paper telling the world that you are a couple, but only do it IF it is someone that treats you right, not with someone like you have described.
2007-10-09 17:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, real men don't leave... they promise 'till death do us part' and they keep their word.
The above list of retaliations could prove annoying, but with some dialogue (or counselling) it can all be worked out - just needs a bilateral attitude of "let's work this out".
Two wrongs don't make a right.
2007-10-09 16:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by David F 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think I have more than seven. All from a long line of bad long term relationships.
Nagging and B*tching.
Trying to make me commit by dating another guy.
Being a scary-good liar.
Cheating.
Biting.
Acting like I'm holding you back because you are turning down BS offers from pick-up artists at your waitress job.
Being a total neurotic psycho B*tch.
Being a multiple personality psycho B*tch.
Dealing at your waitress job, snorting up all the profits, bringing ahole druggies into my house.
When I find out that although you played hard to get with me, but have laid nearly every male who asked.
Always being an adversary and never a teammate.
Saying the F-word in front of my parents.
Being imposable to satisfy.
Always bringing up the degree your daddy bought you when you are obviously a twit.
Endlessly talking and never having a point.
Forgetting your looks once you have bagged your guy.
Becoming disinterested in sex once you have bagged your guy.
Acting like you should be given a ticker-tape parade that one time a year that you actually offer to pay for dinner.
Just getting more pissed off when your drama doesn't hold up to logic.
When it starts to dawn on me that when 100% of my friends and family hate you, they might have a point.
2007-10-09 17:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 3⤊ 4⤋
None of the things on that list would scare me away... except for the "no sex" stuff.. but in moderation its ok.
My list:
1. Bad hygiene
2. Selfish or self-centered
3. Uncaring or cold
4. Too clingy or too detached.. both are bad
5. Not physically attractive
2007-10-09 17:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Um most of those are little things and if anything like that makes him leave you then honestly he wasn't worth keeping around. Hell if I was in a relationship and living with a girl for even 5 years then I'm pretty sure I'd know it's time to put a ring on her finger. And any guy that leaves you just because he doesn't get sex every time he wants is a worthless pig.
2007-10-09 15:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by djk_dragon 2 · 7⤊ 3⤋
FIGHT DIRTY:
1) Pick fights at inconvenient times, like just before he's off to work.
2) Blame him for every fight, even if you started it.
3) Never stay on topic in a fight; dodge and weave, taking every opportunity for emotional provocation.
4) When your half of an argument is weak, accuse him of being obsessed with winning.
5) Fight to empower yourself, fight to take out your victim issues on him, fight to get revenge for whatever, but NEVER engage in explicit negotiations to actually solve a problem. Mope around with a "hurt" demeanor until he gives in.
5) Never apologize or take responsibility for bad outcomes, no matter how badly you've behaved.
7) If you don't get your way immediately, accuse him bad faith. Ignore evidence to the contrary.
8) Find girlfriends prone to vicarious vindictiveness, who will always take your side when you gossip about a dispute.
2007-10-09 21:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by G-zilla 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Wear a ratty old robe and curlers in your hair and chaw down on some tobacco, and or smoke a pipe.
Smell like a hog and nitpick nitpick nitpick.
Never take a shower and attempt to seduce him
Gain a whole bunch of weight and do a sensual dance just for him and to make it real effective forget to shave.
2007-10-09 16:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
I think your list is specific to a man who doesn't really have strong feelings about the relationship (or the woman). Not all men are like that.
2007-10-09 15:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by ecogeek4ever 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You have been hanging around a wrong kind of a man... Not actually a man, but a perpetual boy... If I were you, I would not be wasting 7 best years of my life on the likes of him, but suggest to him to collect his stuff and get out of your life as soon as it is physically possible. You deserve a better man!
2007-10-09 16:42:50 · answer #11 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋