Are women in love with the Man they marry or,Women are in love with Marriage?

Question

so the man is an exchangeable role player?personality,soul,secondary.

I've known a few women devastated by loss though,or the thought of it.They termed their partner,irreplaceble.

Answer 1

Hopefully, most of the time, women genuinely want the man they're marrying and aren't just going through with it for the sake of getting married.

Answer 2

In marriages where there are contests of more, less, better, worse, the end result is a tie. In most sports, at least fatal ones like marriage, a tie is like kissing your mother in law. You get wet lips but you are never satisfied! Marriage isn't a measure of who is best at what. It is a measure of how two people learn to bring the best of each of them to a permanent relationship that is a better design than anything anyone has come up with in the past 10,000 years. Don't believe what you see in movies. They are written bu deluded space cadets for the sole purpose of being remembered as a writer. They are never presented as written but the combined egos of the actors, director and most of all, the producer who is playing with a whole lot of other people's money to get it done. They usually settle for the lowest common denominator of "what will bring the dollars to the box office?" When marriages settle for the same cliches as the movies, they end up, not with the happy ending that the film had, but the disaster that most actors make of relationships because it is a profession where your first and only love is often yourself. Been there, done that and left ... stage left, laughing.

Answer 3

As a woman I would have to say that so many women feel that they need a man to be complete. I think that they are in love with the fact that someone wanted to marry them and that they can have the big wedding etc. The problem is after all is said and done, they are stuck with this guy and all of his baggage, but a lot of women will not get a divorce unless they have a replacement lined up. I have seen this soooo many times.

I waited a long time before I got married and in my opinion I married for the right reason, I would have been fine on my own and was complete on my own, my husband just added more to my life but we are still 2 individuals. I do not believe in the whole "and the 2 shall become 1" thing.

Answer 4

Very nicely put! Nonetheless, a difficult question to answer properly! I would like to think that over 95% of women marry the man they truly love, however, I'm afraid the percentage I attach is just a bit too high. I say this because, being a woman, I know a number of other women who did not marry for love. They married for a variety of ther reasons such as money, security, status and simply because they were in love with the illusion of love and marriage! None grew to love their husbands and only one is still married to the same partner! Those who married for love and that I've kept track of have had a fairly good run and are happy but a few did divorce eventually.

My take on it is this. While most women do marry the men they love, many are not at all ready for marriage itself and all it entails. Many couples simply don't know how to handle the "Honeymoon" being over and slow buzz of everyday life taking its place! It simply hadn't occured to them that a relationship involves work in order to keep it alive and fresh. That phenomenon involves both parties and each should own their share!

I can only hope for you and everyone else that they find their true heart & soul's mate in life and realize how irreplacable they really are. If, by some quirk of fate or misjudgement, you have chosen foolishly or unwisely, that you correct that mistake by leaving each other the way you met; With love and hope for the future...say good-bye and good luck!

Answer 5

I was in love with my husband, not with marriage. If a girl is more in love with the thought of being married than the actual man, something is wrong with her. That's just wrong. You would have the most unhappy life!! But that's probably why the divorce rate is much higher now days. It's so easy to get married and then change your mind month later. If I lost my husband, I don't know what I would do. He is my man, my only man, I could never find one better than him!!

Answer 6

I love the man I married but I'd also love weddings. I'm very strong and independent but I'm honestly not sure if I could emotionally survive without him. When we aren't together it's like a part of me is gone. Don't get me wrong he makes me INSANE sometimes and we aren't all butterflies and roses and it's work to live with him and have a relationship but there's no other man that could ever replace him for me.

Answer 7

I think, you are referring to a certain group of females that suffer ( and they do suffer a lot ) complete self absorption. They do not care how many people they hurt in a process. These are the very worst partners in life you can ever have. However, they do not represent the rest of us. Because we did marry for love. And my own husband of 17 years is still and forever be irreplaceable person in my life.

Answer 8

Many women often are atracted to a man because of one characteristic that they like about him and then spend the rest of their marriage trying to change the things they don't like about him. They are the ones who are in love with marriage as you put it. I like to call it playing house because this sort of behavior tells me the women are very immature, just little girls who never grew up.

I have been very fortunate in that I married a man who is wonderfully gentle, patient and kind beyond words. If anything ever happened to him, I would be lost because I love him, not marriage. I would rather he divorced me than for him to die. At least the world wouldn't have one good man less.

Answer 9

Women are in love with the concept of being in 'Love'. The difficulty for Women, as I see it, is that They have to choose which one of 'Us' They are going to spend the rest of Their life with. And let's face it, the recent crop of decent, open minded Men has been a little lean over the past few years. Wouldn't it make far more sense for 'Us' to lift Our game, rather than expect the 'Girls' to lower Their standards?

Answer 10

I like to think that when a couple marry they see and know one another for their greatest attributes and fault,and the big word LOVE, most of all and have all the foundations established prior to an ongoing marriage. Sometimes I think that there is aperiod of time-generally in young teens and early twenties some women are in love with the idea of marriage itself-with a belief that they may not find another due to lower self esteem....but as maturity sets in, i think this takes a turn.

Answer 11

I would never marry someone for the sake of marriage. First of all, marriage doesn´t sound extremely appealing. It would have to be someone I really loved to be prepared to tie the knot. But there are all sorts of women out there, and a lot are under a lot of pressure (some of it subliminal) to get married, so a lot make the leap before they´ve found the right guy or are ready.