Since then my parents have separated, and my dad lives 3000 miles away, because my mum found out he was physically abusing us.
I'm a 14 year old girl.
2007-10-09 15:29:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The police got involved but they just put a restraining order on him.
2007-10-09 16:04:25 · update #1
You mean your mother knows he was physically abusing you and she just separated instead of calling the POLICE? Your father should have been formally charged for his offenses.
Your mother let you down just as your father did. She should have protected you better.
She should have brought him before the law. As it is now, he could go on to hurt other women and children. Ask your mother to press charges, and tack on to that a charge of child rape!
When the baby is born, DNA testing will establish paternity and help prove your dad raped you and fathered the child. It will be very difficult to raise a child at age 14 - you need to be in school - so adoption is your best option.
2007-10-09 15:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way for you to tell your mom. You can start by saying you have something serious you want to tell her and then just come out and say it. Or you can write her a letter. Or you can have another trusted adult help you tell your mom. Either way, once your mom knows...she won't blame you or hate you or anything like that. You are her daughter, let her help and protect you. She wants to do that. That is why she separated from your father and moved away. You & your family need support. Be brave. You can get through this. Don't be ashamed. You have no control over what your father has done to you & the rest of your family. As soon as you tell your mom, you all can start the healing process.
2007-10-10 05:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by MoonPie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a horrible thing to have to go through. Especially at a young age. I had a similar incident happen to me as a child. I think that your mother would really not know how to react but remember, she gave birth to you. You are her child. That already says alot separating from your dad since he physically abused you. She clearly loves you. Definatley tell her. It wasn't your fault. She will help you decide what it is that you are going to do as far as him and the baby. He deserves to be punished for destroying your trust/innocence though.
2007-10-09 15:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by rachel r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is anything like me you should hide the knives because I would kill the ******. I'm sorry you have been abused... I know soooo many girls who have been molested and all of them have been molested by their own family members.
I don't know, but you need to tell her.
A lot of those girls that I know have grown up to be pretty bad... drugs, sex, and other things... please know that you can be a great person. I think most girls who have been in this kind of situation never have anything but low self esteem. Your dad was a moron and disgusting, you are not. Please don't ever forget that you are someone very special. If you keep your child, good for you. If you don't I can definately understand. But whatever you do, don't feel like you are a bad person because of what your dad did.
2007-10-09 16:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by ϑennaß 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you want to inform her only that: he raped you, and now you're pregnant. She already is known with of there replaced into abuse happening, and he or she needs to carry close ASAP about this so as that a) criminal expenses might want to be filed, and b) she might want to truly help you're taking care of your self (with the being pregnant, probable some counseling as well). If communique which include your mom is hard, come across a depended on adult (a pal, relative, instructor, counselor) and ask them that would want to truly help you tell her. sturdy success to you. be at liberty to digital mail me in case you want someone to confer with. i visit in worry-free words imagine what you're dealing with.
2016-10-20 06:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope this is not a joke, because it's not a funny one. If this is true, you are just going to have to get the strength to tell your mother, she needs to know. I know it will be something very hard for her to hear, but, you need to talk to her, because you both need to know how you are going to handle this awful thing that happened to you.
Also, if this is true, you need to send his sorry a** to jail, he does not deserve to be walking this earth with any type of freedom.
I wish you the best of luck, and hope you are able to go pass this. Always hold your head up high.
God bless you!
2007-10-09 15:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by Butterflies 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her..shes gonna be upset probably...but not at you shes only mad because thats a horrible thing to do to your child. Also she is worried about you and your baby. just tell her get it over with so you can move on and hopefully raise your child w/ your mum right by your side!!!!!
2007-10-09 15:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by ipod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's already found out that he was physically abusing her children, i do not see it a problem to tell her what happend, it WAS NOT your fault ! dont ever think that!!
If you feel more comfortable, talking to a clergy, or guidannce counselor, go to them. then they may can intervien for you.
but you do need to let this out, or it will haunt you 4ever dear.
2007-10-09 15:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by AnnaMaria 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. I would go to the police and put him in jail as well. If he got you pregnant, DNA tests will prove he's the father and he is pretty much toast.
2007-10-09 15:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jason 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell your mum straight away. I'm so sorry that you've been through something like that. Goodluck
2007-10-09 19:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by Nic Jane B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋