2007-10-09 13:00:55 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Use a condom next time.
2007-10-09 13:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Buffy 4 · 7⤊ 5⤋
Your life is NOT over! Disregard some to the previous statements! Your life is going to be harder but still a wonderful life! You will feel at times that your youth was stolen from you, well in reality it was but you still can be just a 17 year old and enjoy life!
It is important to have support/help and what ever you do
CONTINUE SCHOOL! GRADUATE AND GO ON TO HIGHER EDUCATION! There are no excuses, it is better for you and your baby!
I hope you have a mom or parents that will help out as you will need it! Just remember that you're not the first 17 year old to become a parent! It has been done several times before and successfully I might add!
I wish you the support of the father and his family, in a real world it's not too common but it does exist. It would be best for the baby to know it's dad/ grandparents!
But back to you, take each day as it comes, you may feel overwhelmed with a baby, school, work, etc. You are still young and not necessarily ready for all of your new responsibilities, but it will all work out if you take it slowly, one day at a time, and an open mind!
Trust me, you are truly blessed and one day you will be thankful for your baby and you will be able to pat yourself on the back at the great job you have done!
Good luck and congratulations! It's not the end of your life but a new beginning!
2007-10-09 13:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you have guaranteed support from all the people around you.
There's a lot to learn and its a big learning curve from your past life.
Less freedom and there'll be another life in your hands that only you are responsible for. Its a big job bringing up a child because its a lifetime commitment.
Make sure you have everything you need well beforehand.
Don't be affraid to ask even simple questions.
Always go to the doctor if you feel something is wrong and don't wait.
Go to your local health centre as they can be your best source of information on a regular basis.
Always use common sense and never leave a child high up on something alone even for seconds.
If you're on any form of regular medication it doesn't usually pay to breastfeed then.
2007-10-09 13:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably have heard too much advice already. I hope you have a support system, husband, parents, etc. Your life is not over only different. If you are an unmarried mom to be, are you keeping the baby or having it adopted? Either way, a very adult decision to make.
Take some time to reflect on you and this new life and new person you will meet. Talk with people who love you---call them--make plans--and when the baby comes---continue to talk with people who love you!
I wish you every success...you are not the first 17 year old to be pregnant and you will not be the last! Best wishes.
2007-10-09 13:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Bev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to finish school which I suggest you do, you can get someone to look after your child while your at school and studying. End of school isn't too far off, make sure you get as much help as possible. If it's possible and fitting to get the father involved, I think it would be important to do so. If I were a father, I would like to know and be involved in the life of my own flesh and blood walking around. But... it's not my bussiness but to clear up what I'm saying, you don't need to commit to a relationship with this person if you dont want to. You might find someone else, you're only very young.
Don't forget to spend some time bonding with your child out of school.
Whoever says your life is over is ignorant. Your life has just begun.
2007-10-09 13:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my sister got into the same situation. She is 39 now though. When she got pregnant she married the guy, that got her pregnant, and they moved in with my parents. They are still married, but they have argued for years. I think most of their arguments stem from the fact that they never really enjoyed their teenage years and when they got older they wanted to go wild and experience freedom.
I guess my advice to you would be to find joy from your little one that is on the way. Pray a lot (I will pray for you too!) Just don't forget that eventhough you are going to have a baby that doesn't mean that you have to rush into marriage. Just remember that you are still a special person. Just give your baby a lot of love, and don't forget to put the baby's needs first. ** Also, don't go wild a few years down the road like my sister and her husband did.
When you baby gets older teach him or her to practice abstinece. My sister started giving her son condoms when he was a teenager instead of telling him not to have sex before marriage. Now his girlfriend is pregnant....and the cycle continues. (Don't get me wrong I LOVE my nephew and I am glad that he has a little girl on the way. I just wish that he would have waited until marriage before having sex and getting pregnant.)
I read some of the other suggestions and I am so angry that they said to get an abortion--Dont get an abortion because people that get abortions are murderers!!!!!
2007-10-09 13:13:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids are expensive so get a job. i would suggest not dropping out of highschool. a part time job is fine. especially if your parents are supportive. because a highschool diploma goes a long way for teen parent.
if your parents are supportive and they will take care of the baby while your at school. kids are a great thing and when your done being sick of the smelly diapers and crying baby youll be glad you have it.
the most advice i can really give you that may be helpful is learn to allot time well. make time for homework and make sure you get it done and can still take care of the baby. because again you want to do fine at school youll need it later and then you also want to be there for the baby. so practice your scedualing. and get that job too. your life will be hectic but thats what a kid will do to you. and next time i can suggest protection because 2 kids will kill you.
2007-10-09 13:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by night wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
frist things first you need money which requires getting a job.
And instead of apending your going to have to save alot more than your used to doing, so the money can really add up.
And college is just around the corner so you need to go so you can get a job that will secure your family financially.
also you need to decide where the baby is gonna stay at your house or your girlfriend's house.
Basically just get your money situation good and you can live happily ever after, and dont forget your parents are always there for you.
***this is if you are a man, if you are a girl tell your boyfreind to do so.
2007-10-09 13:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have MESSED UP! You need to finish high school and then persue grants and loans for college and get a education or you 'll have a life of "hell" trying to pay for the upkeep and support of a "kid(s)"You need to start wearing a condom when you have sex or you'll have more "unwanted" babies and your just a "kid" yourself,I feel sorry for you, I watched alot of my friends start out there lifes in the same situation as you and now that I'm 40++, I look back at the "hell" they went thru with the "friend-of-the-Court and the State when it came to child support and that the "kids"don't have a "Mother and Father in their lifes 24/7 all their lifes. So do as I suggest and make something of yourself so you have a good life and your kid does too.
2007-10-09 13:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember your life is no longer about you. You baby should be your focus and your everything. Make mature decisions, lose the friends who will have a negative impact on you as a parent or your child. Work towards becoming the best parent you can and achieve goals to be able to provide your child with a happy, secure home. It's okay to cry once in awhile when parenthood is too stressful, but remember to suck it up Mom..your baby will need you more than anyone else in this world does.
2007-10-09 13:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by juste m'aimer 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try your hardest to take care of the child. Don't get angry when the child won't go to sleep for the first few days or weeks. Dont shake the child. Don't let anyone tell you that you're a bad mother because you had the child at a young age. Make sure to put the baby first. Don't let anyone hurt your child. Never put the child in a front facing carseat until of age. ETC.
2007-10-10 04:54:11 · answer #11 · answered by --; cookie. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋