Am i gay. . .?

Question

I just recently turned 13. Is it possible to already know. I think i've known since 6th grade (i'm in 8th)

This is a serious question. I hang out with mostly girls, and everyone asks me if i'm gay. Do other gay people know by 13?

Answer 1

That you prefer to hang out and socialize with girls would only mean that you are *heterosocial*.

You should ask yourself:

Who do I think is attractive? (Boys? Girls? Both?)
Who do I have crushes on?
How do I feel when I think of/look at this person I think is attractive?
Is there a boy I like so much that I am afraid to tell anybody?

A few years later, you should be able to answer these questions:

Who do I want to marry?
Who do I want to "see more" of?

It is possible to be attracted to someone that you don't know, or at the very least, not necessarily friends with.

Yes, sexuality is a very complex thing. Some people know, or at least wonder about it, at an earlier age, but it may take a few years to figure this out. But most importantly, you are the person who can most honestly answer this question. You can ask for other people's opinions, but don't let anybody tell you what you are. Only you can do that.

Do you have any friend or family member that you can trust to talk about this?

Answer 2

If you are in the 8th grade you probably know whether you want to date boys or girls. Hanging out with girls doesn't make you gay. You probably like being with your girl friends because they accept you and like you. If you are gay then you should be proud of who you are. If you are Gay, most doctors believe it is because you were born Gay. It is OK to be who you are! High school can be difficult but if you concentrate on getting good grades and being in lots of activities you will survive it. Try hanging around with people who accept you for yourself. You don't have to dwell on being gay and going around announcing to the world if you don't want to. There are alot of gay role models in the entertainment business and the business world who are hard working and successful that you could probably read about. In high school it is better, whether you are gay or not, to make friends and leave serious dating for college. There will always be mean bullies in life who try to be negative but ignore them. People who put other people down and try to make them feel bad are wrong. Some people say that Bullies are scared about what they don't understand.
You are important and can set an example for others! Just enjoy your friends and don't dwell on what others say. There will be time for figuring it all out when you are older.

Answer 3

Yea it's very possible to know whether you gay or not, I knew when I was about 12 yo. But just by hanging out with girls doesn't necessarily mean your gay either there's a lot more to it than that to know whether your gay or not.

Answer 4

Hanging out with girls doesn't mean you're gay. Lots of guys who aren't gay hang out with girls.

What means you're gay is if you are attracted to and/or fall in love with other boys, instead of girls. If this happens enough that it makes you wonder if you're gay, then you may be.

Some people know very solidly from an early age, even 13 years old, that they are gay. There is just no mistaking it for some people.

Others don't really know for sure until later on. They may find themselves attracted to boys instead of girls, or sometimes boys and sometimes girls, or even decide that they have to date girls because that's what's expected.

So unless you know absolutely for sure that you're gay right now (which would actually be very nice to at least KNOW for sure), then you could be one who has to take some more time to find out.

Mostly it takes understanding who you are attracted to, who you fall in love with, and who you could picture yourself with dating, and even for the rest of your life. Aside from this, it takes actual experience to absolutely know for sure. If you have sex with boys (when you're older, I think you're too young for sex at all right now) and it feels right to you, consistently over time, then you're probably gay. If it doesn't feel quite right to you, then you may not be gay - or you may be gay and feeling a bit of guilt, too!

In other words, your own feelings, time, and experience will tell you if you're gay. I wouldn't really worry too much about it, just go with the flow and see what you feel.

Also, as if there weren't enough to think about, people your age sometimes get crushes on someone of their own gender, and this is quite common even among heterosexuals. They grow out of it eventually. So this is another reason why it might take you some time to know for sure -- unless you really do already know, inside yourself that you are.

Hope this helps some.

Answer 5

I've had gay dreams/thoughts since 7th grade. I didn't know or care what they meant till the beginning of my 9th grade year.

Answer 6

Some people know all there life. If you find yourself thinking about boys and liking boys your most likely gay. And thats perfectly ok!

Answer 7

i believe that it is possible to know at a young age. you are still young to be experiencing any sexual appitite yet though.

Answer 8

i think you are not gay.even you like some boys you are still a man .if you engaged to have sex with them.then it is gay acts.

Answer 9

Its possible....

There are some at my school.
You should.

Answer 10

Do you have limp wrist, that is a dead giveaway