How insulted should I be?

Question

I had a stroke about 5 years ago, im 34 now,
to cut a long stry short, I've been living in this boarding house for about 2 weeks, this guy has been showing an extreme amount of interest, and we started making out last night. We had kissed before, but not like that.
So I asked if he had protection.
He didn't.
So I told him to get some.
He said he couldn't get the car right now.
So I told him to walk to the gas staton.
He said he'd take care of it tomorrow.
So I'm not worth walking to the gas station?
How insulted should I be?
Should I be grateful for the attention im getting, considering the condition im in?
Should I make him pay for it through the nose?
Is his Impassionate cold nature due to his English heritage?( Im greek)
For pitys sake, He's been drooling over me for two weeks, I give him a chance and he does'nt jump?
Is he impotent?
or just stupid?

Answer 1

You should not be grateful for the attention "considering the condition you're in". People should give you attention for you, yourself, NOT for your condition. You shouldn't feel that you are less deserving of love and attention because of it. And you should NEVER use it as an excuse to jump into bed with any old boor who comes along because you don't think you can do better.

You can do as well as you expect to do. If you hold out for better men, better men will come along.

Answer 2

If he was worth his salt, he would have ran to the gas station to please you. This to me shows that he considers you convenient, and is not thinking of your feelings or needs. Personally, I would be offended, and he wouldn't get a second chance or second glance.

As for the english nature, I wouldn't attribute his behavior to that. There are lots of cold hearted people out there of every race. A man who passionately wants you will make be happy to get protection, if that's what is necessary to make things "happen". It may be a case that he doesn't like "protection" but if that is the case, that is his loss then. You need to look after yourself, because where will he be if you turn up pregnant if he can't buy a condom now?

Further, don't get hung up on this notion that you should be relegated to accept what you can get based on your medical issues. Just because you feel your body is damaged, it doesn't mean your spirit is or has to be. I was told that once, and I basically told the man to take a long walk off a short pier because I was worth more than just being someone's play toy. I didn't like my body much then (nor do I now) but I believed that everyone, including me, was valuable in God's sight, and if he didn't see that, then he needed to leave me alone. Even if it made for some lonely nights and heartache, I stuck to my guns in that belief and never sold out.

Do yourself a favor and steer clear of this guy. Sounds like he's a trainwreck.

Answer 3

To put it bluntly you dont mean anything to him other than a convenient warm body he doesnt have to go very far out of his way to get. Cut your losses, thank God for providing this situation to show you his TRUE colours and what he is really like.

DONT go down this road ! It could end up very badly for you if and when there comes a time that you show this jerk the door, with him living in the same residence you are.

You are worth much more than that. And no, you should NOT be grateful that some jackass wants to use you for his own gratification and doesnt have the decency to care about you or your feelings - clearly he thinks you should be grateful though. The world is full of users, probably a lot willing to be nicer than he is but that isnt what you need, and it shouldnt be what you want.

Consider this guy NOT worth your attention and love yourself more than that, you are a human being with a heart and a soul, wait for the guy who is going to notice that in you.

Answer 4

When people first start dating, they tend to put their best foot forward to impress their love interest. If this is his best run!
Don't stereotype or make excuses, this has nothing to do with your condition or his background. If this is what he is showing you this early in the relationship how much consideration will he show you down the road? Relationships are complicated and sex will only make things harder. Wait until you find the one before you give so much of yourself. Keep fishing, the right one is on his way up stream. I'll stop now, I sound exactly like my mother!!!
;)

Answer 5

probably more like a little lazy! No you shouldn't feel more grateful than the next person. Just try to be patient if your interested then hang in there all men are aggrivating. Your a smart lady though don't do it without protection.

Get married first!

Answer 6

I say probally just stupid. So make sure he wears a rubber if you decide to go through with this. And yes you should be worth the trip down the gas station, but if his not willing to do that maybe you should rethink everything between you two. good luck.

Answer 7

He is showing what his priorities are; it's certainly not you, he just wants to "dip" his lilly. He might have been making excuses because he figured you might give in without him having to show any initiative to use protection. Deep down he probably thinks you are not worth the effort. If he was really concerned for you and your well being (and possibly being the mother of his child), he wouldn't have even thought twice.

Answer 8

If is is "mature" then he can control himself until he can put a condom on and if he is too lazy to do it because he just wanted instant gratification then tell him don't even approach you that way again unless and UNTIL he can protect himself and you! Because any man that won't go get condoms when it is asked of him is NO gentleman and is just stupid.

Answer 9

Dont let this guy take advantage of you. He js wanted to hv some fun.... I am sorry to say that there are many predators around looking for lonely women. Dont become their prey.
You will find the right man who cares for you. Be blessed.

Answer 10

His behaviour is nothing to do with your stroke. He is a mere man who thought he could get his leg over without taking any responsibility. Move on, he's not worth the angst.