I know some people disagree with going to church. Lets leave that argument to the side. What if you were attending church, and you are a new member, and make friends with one member, then he introduces you to the rest of the kids, you hang out for a few months, then it all falls apart and they all hate you. You go back to the church every once in a while because you have to (mom says, or you go because a younger family member wants to go and can't by themselves), and when you encounter these people in this circle they are extremely rude to you, like, there is no way you can go without some run-in with them no matter how low-profile you try to be. What do you do? What do I do?
2007-10-09 11:28:28 · 19 answers · asked by perfectlybaked 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is a true story. I knew some of the group as well as one individual did, but he came outta nowhere with this rumor about me, and without confronting me to see if it is true, they all arbitrarily believed it and disowned me instantly, even though some of them were my friend before they even met this other person.
2007-10-09 11:36:10 · update #1
I know this is no answer, but these are church kids? Seems they are not there for Bible study or they would not treat you that way. I'd go to one of the elders or the pastor. This behavior shouldn't be tolerated, especially not in church.
2007-10-09 11:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This means that the kids are taking different paths in their learning, and they have their own concepts that your concepts do not match them - so you should just keep to your own doctrines and maybe take a low profile, like listening to the pope from a veranda (most churces have a veranda). You can also join a club - this way you can pursue one more hobby and have an exucse from now and then not to attend the church. You will have less encounters with those kids. You could also borrow money from a bank and build your own sanctuary, in your courtyard, and invite only people you like - they will either perceive you as a father - or as a friend with whom they just want to hang out and have a cool Sunday afternoon. Those kids will grow up eventually and then you can return to the old church and have less conflicts.
2007-10-09 18:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the minister and talk to him about the problem. No one should treat anybody bad, especially in church, no one is appove sin, so no one is better than the other. If the minister can not give you any help in dealing with this problem, then that is not a very good church, and you might want to change.
2007-10-09 18:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to the youth pastor. This really is horrible behaviour and one of the reasons people end up staying away from church. Also, talk to you mom about it. Maybe she would let you visit another church.
2007-10-09 18:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by RLW 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with your Pasteur about what is going on. Ask him if he can preach a sermon on love thy neighbor. Sham on them for going to church and doing this. Keep going to church with family and friends. You are the better person.
2007-10-09 19:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by patches 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats actually a situation I am kind of in. We don't go to church that often, but when we do the kids are really mean to me. I'm not sure what to do, but be as nice as possible to them =)
2007-10-09 18:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore them, or try to tell them the truth even if they don't believe u. if they can't c the truth then it's there problem. i am sorry u have to go through this i went through something similar. my mom tells me i have to go to church too. if i weren't a christian i would be so fricken evil back to the peeps but since i am i wouldn't advise it, plus it would cause more trouble in the long run.
2007-10-09 20:20:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Pastor needs to know this. It's for these kids' and the churches own good.
2007-10-09 18:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a different Church.
2007-10-09 18:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a bummer that they would treat you like that- but, I 'd just ignore them and pretend they aren't there. If they get nasty, let the pastor know so he can deal with the ingrates.
Think about finding a new church if it doesn't get better.
2007-10-09 18:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋