Do people feel the reaction of the others?

Question

Assalmu Alaikom,
Do you always judge on the person you are dealing with with the same aspect at everytime? like do you take into consideration his mood? for example if he doesnt say hello to you in one day because his mother was sick and in another day he is a good person, you will not know that that day he had this situation and hence will think that he is strange, do you give chances for people who did strange situations with you once or twice without knowing why was that?
P.S: Ramadan Kareem

Like today on my way back home on a CTA, the driver said that he will go to the destination from a shorter, non traffic crowd street instead of the normal one (which is my destination), I went to ask him alone why since all of the bus were girls who also go down at this place but they are helpless, he kept on shouting to me and became very rude, he was much older than me so I didnt know what to do except telling him take me to the police station, he got more rude and more ignorant (and i was standing watching him) so he agreed but he got scared and continued his normal route.....
Believe me I didnt do anything by 1% chance to him, he was rude, ignorant, very unpolite but I think I won by making him bring me to my destination as I wanted....
I took the bus number and I am planning on going to the police and sueing him, I have many people who could witness the incident, what is your advice?

My point is that I didnt go till now because I think that he had a bad day or something, but should that be an excuse for anyone doing anything bad? I killed my boss because I had a bad night?

Moonrise and Sahar:
You did not see his reaction, believe me if i killed his parents he wouldnt do that, thats 1
I was very very nice, calm and i didnt say anything, and he got more annoying....
What rush hours? He is never right....
I ride the bus to go to that specific place, believe me he would had saved 3 minutes maximum if he went the other route ( 3 minutes) and he agreed to go to the police (imagine how much time)......
If I would have gotten down in the place that he will not pass in i would have walked about 15 minutes because I will not ride a bus and wait for it to go down and ride a taxi + you know that today was very hot...

Answer 1

I believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt. If you were misunderstood you would want people to give you a break, wouldn't you? Love for others what you love for yourself. So no, I don't judge someone I know well because of just one brief encounter in which he/she may not be in their normal state of mind or mood. You should always look at the bigger picture, not just this one incident in isolation.

Concerning the driver in question, you should take into consideration that driving in the crowded streets of Cairo, especially during rush hour in Ramadan, is sheer hell. It is enough to drive anybody crazy! I'm not saying the guy was right,I'm just saying he was probably in a bad mood due the stress he was under. You got what you wanted, so give the guy a break and leave it at that. No need to make trouble for him, especially that he most probably has a family dependent on him.

Allah akram, and Happy Eid.

Answer 2

Good answer Farah,

1) Its never good to judge a person by the same aspect because then we would begin to take the issues of others onto ourselves or personally.

2) Driving in Ramadan in Cairo, May Allah SWT give so many patience- some people get very angry from fasting

3) Think of mashallah all of the blessing you took in your life and the opportunities that you have compared to this man. As Farah said most likely he has a family to feed

4) If every fight that you take becomes an issue then you will get very tired very young, say alhamdulilah and walk away.

5) Only god knows what is in his heart and if he reflected upon his bad action after...

Eid kareem

Answer 3

wi 3aleikum al salam.
i can read people very well in face to face situations , phone calls , or even just seeing them at a distance.
this is bec i have made studies in this area , and i have the right intuition.
in the case you mention here, you should have asked the driver more calmly , and weighed his answer.
perhaps he was right bec roads are too crowded in ramadan , and avoiding some of them can be wise.
im glad you didnt report him , bec he might have been suffering from something, or was right in his choice to change the route.
most probably a man may be upset bec his wife demanded cash, or a service he cannot afford. his day becomes bleak and he becomes irritated .
so, dont be hard on anyone esp in Ramadan.
God bless you .
alahu akram.

Answer 4

I used to, and I think this is the arrogance of youth. Most people gain deeper understanding with age. This experience advancing discernment must be nurtured with compassion, for it to be considered wisdom. A fear of ones own inadequacy, (self doubt fabrication), will cause a person to focus inwardly, a self loathing negative function condition. 'Self loathing' the key word here being 'SELF', because since every 'being group' is a 'thread to each other thread to bliss' absolute....to truly be happy one needs to look outwardly (at least 85% of the time). The subsequent result of allowing that percentage to fall is directly proportional to the rate they will build up walls of suspicious intolerance, even to the point of blatant and flippant corruption, with their mealy mouths smirking with insolence, emptiness and cynicism will take the blissfull euphoric wonderment from their realization of existence experience, (its actual purpose because wonderment is like 'Blisskeepers' oxygen.)

Answer 5

well of course you take a bus for its route not for the driver's present mood, it's his job to drive from destination a to destination e stopping at b,c,d.
you know how many drivers can be rude, and each has their reasons, imagine having to spend your day in a seat in cairo's heat and traffic, not easy, i don't think it has anything to do with you, his fit..

Answer 6

Wa alaikum salam .....well brother Jazak Allah for doing the right thing to defend your sisters in Islam. As for why what happened, happened, of course i dont know...we must give our brother 70 excuses. Having said that he has to do his normal route...and at the end he did. Alhamdulillah...im sorry he was rude to you, but u did what u did for the sake of Allah(swt) Take comfort in that, and there is your reward...ALLAH KNOWS BEST

Answer 7

some people are just trivial as a way to have an excuse to exclude and continue corruption.