daughter's ballet class teacher called me fascist cause I send her to the classes against her (my daughter's )

Question

will what should I tell the teacher wanna kill her.

Answer 1

I know you're mad enought to spit, but the insult is sort of funny; I mean, parents are the ULTIMATE fascists, aren't we?
Power is centrally located in us, and often the opposition is forcibly suppressed by removal to their rooms! (chuckle)
Parenting is not a democratic activity. It's an authoritarian one that is done with love as it's motivation. Maybe we parents aren't power-hungry, but we certainly are dictators in our own little kingdoms.


Now--what ARE you doing?

Are you showing your daughter what it means to make a commitment? That's an important lesson and can sometimes put us parents in the position of enforcing our kids' decisions. If she signed up for the semester, then she should learn about keeping commitments, not quitting, etc.

How old is your daughter? That's key, really. If she's young enough to just sit and cry for an hour each dance lesson, well, then, you may want to re-think your decision. Maybe find a different way to give her the lesson you're teaching.

The Big Question--why doesn't your little girl want to go? The reason may have nothing to do with dancing. It could be that her best friend is doing something else, that she's not performing as well as the other girls, that she's being bullied by the teacher or classmates, etc. It could also be that she tried something that she thought she'd like but she hates it. If she hates it because it takes practice, then you can try to make it safer for her to fail by keeping her in the class and addressing with the teacher (or owner, whatever) your daughter's fears or limitations.

What should you say to the teacher?
I think you should give her the real answer. And if you don't know the real answer, I think you should think for a while and then make a point to share it with her.
What she said to you is so inappropriate it's silly, but that's no reason for you to respond as though you were also that immature.
Take those 10 deep breaths, cool off, and figure out the answer to her question.
Call her, make an appt w/ her alone and then give her the answer. End the conversation by acknowledging that while she obviously cares about your daughter, she should not begin making accusations (or name-calling) until she knows the whole story. If your daughter is eight and wants to dance but doesn't want to have Ms. X for a teacher, then making her go to class anyway is teaching her about rising above adversity and honoring commitments. That's something that the teacher actually should know so that she can help you teach those lessons.

You can be the teacher here for that other woman and show the class and thoughtfulness that you have.
Try to see past the ridiculous name-calling and focus on the fact that she is so totally looking out for YOUR daughter that she's willing to speak up for her.
This teacher needs some professional lessons in handling conflict and confrontation, but it sounds like her heart is probably in the right place. She just needs to get her foot out of her mouth.

I sure hope this helps!

~Kimber
Dallas, Tx

Answer 2

First off, if your daughter doesn't want to go, why are you wasting your time and money? Second, if the teacher is just that, and not the owner, tell the owner. What you really should do is smack the living h-ell outta the teacher and mop the floor with her. lastly, if a teacher called me that, the child would be gone in a flash. Next, I'd file a report w/the better business bureau and finally, i'd leak a story to the newspaper about a certain dance studio with that allows people to be called all manner of things. Would be interesting wouldn't it

Answer 3

She shouldn't have said that to you since you are a paying customer. I could see where she may be upset because you are making your daughter go (she probably thinks you should let your daughter decided and not for the art of ballet on her) but she had not right to say what she did to you! Don't kill her. Maybe you could find a new dance teacher.

Answer 4

I would wonder what way she is treating your child while you are not there if she is prepared to say this to you. I run a small stage school and when I have a parent who sends their child to me against the child's will I take the time to speak to the parent. Your child might be happier in someone else's class anyway and might actually like ballet with a more understanding teacher.
Don't stand for this, take your child out and demand a refund.

Answer 5

Could it be that the way the teacher behaves is the reason your daughter does not want to be in her class. Attitude has a lot to do with learning. She needs to be reported. You are paying her salary and she still needs to be respectful

Answer 6

what's the question? LOL. Yeah, no rely what her opinion on your strategies, it is not her place to call you that. it extremely is a bad thought, too, to alienate babies against their own mothers and dads. the three of which you need to to talk it over, whether or not it extremely is a sturdy thought to your daughter to proceed. 8 years outdated isn't old sufficient to make judgements, yet certrainly old sufficient to have her possibilities and needs.

Answer 7

Why send your daughter to ballet when she doesnt want to?
It is like someone telling you that you have to do something you dont want to its a good thing to do to your child she wil end growing to resent you for forcing her .


Not good at all.

Answer 8

well, putting my own feelings about pushing a child into an activity aside, it's your choice to take your daughter there, so why not go to a different dance studio?

Answer 9

report her to the better business bureau.