I'm tired of all the selfish people out there. I do everything I can to go out of my way to help others, esp. my friends. But when I need a little help, or a favor, everybody turns and runs away. I think I should just become a jerk, and not bother with other people at all.
2007-10-09 09:50:04 · 38 answers · asked by The Unconventional Desert Rat II 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Ok, R. I'm doing a shot of Canadian Whiskey right now! *GULP* Here's to us!
2007-10-09 10:02:30 · update #1
You seem like a nice guy.... don't you DARE change.... the thing about wanting to be a jerk isn't really true either, I can see it in your eyes all the way from here. But here's the thing: I've looked and finding a truly NICE person is rare... those of us who are, should stick together -- just IGNORE the jerks..
Also, stop doing every little thing for your "friends". If they start to whine and complain, they'll get over it eventually. Once the gravy train ends, they'll get used to the "new" you. You can stay your nice self, just don't give in to every little thing asked of you.
2007-10-09 10:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need some encouragement friend. Believe me the world has enough jerks. Don't give in to the temptation to be one of them. Fight the good fight!
Having said that, there are a few guidelines, and I will remind you just in case.
You shouldn't do for others at your own expense allllll the time. You must make efforts to do things that edify you and keep you strong. There's nothing wrong with this, and people who try to tell you that there is...don't know anything about friendship.
You don't do good deeds to get back, although this is nice. You do the right thing because it is the right thing to do. If not, then you are letting someone else decide your values for you.
You don't really do good deeds exclusively for the benefit of others, either. Blessing someone else with kindness ALWAYS blesses you too. If you become a jerk, you miss all the warm fuzzies and other blessings that go with being nice.
Remember, that in the end, friends come and go. You are the only one you will now and forever have to deal with. What kind of person do you want to be? Who do you want to see in the mirror?
Also, refresh yourself on some differences...they are sometimes hard to tell: The difference between being a friend and a doormat or an enabler. The difference between being assertive and aggressive.
2007-10-09 10:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by musicimprovedme 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am always sick of people. I think people like us expect too much from others, though. I always lend a helping hand and don't really expect anything in return, but sometimes you can't help but wonder why some favors haven't been reciprocated. Either way, don't end up being a jerk, haha =). Just continue being the nice person that you are and that will deal with itself. Good things always come to those who wait. People suck sometimes, but all you gotta do is have some time for yourself away from others at times like that just so you can clear your head and have some alone time. Whatever it comes down to, have a good time with people and let things just flow. Don't expect too much out of them, and you won't get disappointed.
2007-10-09 09:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Shahnee21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world. The more you do, the less you are appreciated and the more is expected. If you haven't yet reached the age to be in employment, then get ready for an extra helping.
Turn this experience to your advantage, and try some self-employed venture before getting bogged down in the rat-race.
You probably already realize that at a fundamental level, if you try to become a jerk, not only will you be going against your generous nature, but that you will never match the heights of jerkdom that the selfish already occupy.
2007-10-09 10:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by netruden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Get into a better position by making new friends, but not by handing out money or things you earned. Only focus on what you must do to get ahead, don't get all involved in the affairs of others. Most of all don't live a bitter life, rather have an outlet like martial arts or just the work your going to do. Decide what kind of friends or environment you want around.
2007-10-09 10:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh yes. Some of those people out there. But I don't think the whole becoming a jerk thing will get you very far. I guess some people don't even realize when they are asking for help and basically take advantage of you. I guess all you can really do is tell them to help themselves instead of relying on you to be their source of knowledge. I suppose it could even be a compliment, they're calling you smart man! Ohh yeah. Think of it like that :).
2007-10-09 09:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by it'sKIRA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think being a jerk is the answer, you are wrong. You need to understand that because now you will have been the exact person that you are complaining about. If you need help and nobody wants to help, maybe your friends aren't your friends. Try to surround yourself with people who have similar values as you. Don't settle for friends who never help but always need your help. Being a jerk is not the answer.
2007-10-09 09:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you do a favor, think of it as a gift.
When you ask someone to do you a favor, look at it as a friendship litmus test.
Sadly, most people don't pass the test.
Please don't change who you are because some others are jerks. I learned a long time ago how to judge real friends, and I found most people are incapable of being real friends. I haven't given up on people, I just look at it realistically.
Keep looking for better people to surround yourself with, if you search you shall find.
Peace
2007-10-09 09:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by Gem 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People are generally selfish and aren't there when you need them most. True friends are there for you and this will usually come down to 1 or 2 people at the most. Other people are just generally rude, ignorant and out for themselves only. It's a horrible fact of life I have had to awaken to and it's not nice. Just love what you have and those around you that matter. Sod the rest of them!
2007-10-09 09:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by helen p 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Basicly I agree with you Shoe. By the way I like your name an know the meaning of it in the country way. Now I hope you don't help others expecting them to help you in return, most the time that don't work out.
I don't mind helping out, but do me wrong 1 time I'm done with the person. LOL, excuse me I ramble. If you truly are a Old Shoe type person being a jerks against your nature.
T.C.
2007-10-09 09:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by hotvw1914cc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋