I run my own business in the evenings and I was coming back from there this evening and on my way to the gym when I stopped into my house to find my boyfriend watching porn and *******. He was really embarrassed and I was really upset. We had a discussion about this lately (that he watches porn) and I told him that even though I have no prob with it and would even watch it myself it hurts when he does it when I am out for a few hours (he swears he loves me so much and also loves my body but now I feel insecure about it)- until then I hadn't caught him in the act... until tonight. We only have sex a couple of times a week and I'm 99% sure it's because he's doing this so often when I'm not around that he doesn't feel the need. I told him we're finished - overreaction maybe, but in my heart maybe it's cause he's just not the one...
What do other people think - esp. men...... why would he be doing this when I've just popped out and what should I do?
2007-10-09 09:42:24 · 22 answers · asked by aine_alainn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its a bloke thing .... they have this thing hanging between there legs and they just cant help but play with it!
Its no reflection on how he feels about you at all, my hubby used to hide his porn from me till I convinced him that its not a problem we even watch them together now!
which would rather he w**nked over that or actually went out and sh*gged sum1 else? its just a stress relief/ fantasy thing for most men. can you honestly say that you have never had a quick fiddle when he's out and your in the mood?!? as long ashe still wants to have s*x with you , you've got nothing to worry about , its more to do with your own insecurity and your hang ups. try and deal with them other wise you could ruin what could be a good relationship.
2007-10-09 10:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by gert 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You say you don't like porn and I take it your boyfriend knows this. He probably felt that he couldn't tell you either because of embarrassment or fear of your response. Watching of porn means different things to many people. Some have no problem with it while others think it is the most disgusting thing ever. Most guys just see it as part of life and in no way would consider it to be a betrayal. If you have a caring loving and faithful partner whose only negative is that he enjoys watching porn then you are very very lucky. If I were you I would tell him that while you are not into it you can accept that he is and simply ask that he not hide it or be sneaky about it because that can make something very innocent appear guilty. You will probably find the openness and honestly will be very good for your relationship. You need to remember while you don't like porn he does. Who is right? you both are. He needs to accept you don't like it and respect that you need to accept that he does and work with that all. If you come down hard and demand he not do it you are probably going to set yourself up to be hurt in the future no matter how hard he tries. Good luck appreciate what you do have there are plenty of girls who wish the worst thing their boyfriend did was watch porn.
2016-04-07 23:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one hand he may have just wanted to relieve some pressure from not having sex that much with you, but on the other hand he might be a sex addict that is really only into porn. My friends boyfriend is like that . They hardly have sex he would rather watch porn and look at porn sites on the Internet. He even calls all those 900 numbers. HE says he cant help himself-- it is an addiction and cant be fixed if they don't want to fix it!!
If you are willing to watch it with him and he does not want that then there really might be a problem
Good luck!!
2007-10-09 09:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by mad_curves_n_tx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hello
Many men do this to get a buzz some even think they are doing things with you it gives them ideas to spice up their own love life But some woman think that they are looking at the woman on the film and in a way a betrayl to their woman at home how would he like it if you watched men so you could try that you could watch together or if you do feel it is a betrayl cut your losses because you could feel that you have to watch him with anyone you meet because he has watched the movies and it has made you insecure the best answer you can get on here would be from the men and not all cheat just because they watch the movies woman could have their clothes on and a man can imagine her with them off or so ive heard just wait for him to ring and give it another chance
2007-10-09 10:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When a man is young and in his prime as yours obviously is, he feels the need to release many times a day, if he is watching porn and masturbating its because he doesnt have you there with him all the time and does it without meaning to offend you in any way... Another thing to consider is if he is doing this when you are not around surely its a whole lot better than going with another woman.. I think you have overreacted, its a normal part of mens younger lives
2007-10-09 09:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by mikerr_uk 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you have answered your own question, if he's not "the one" then you are looking for a way out and this has made it easier for you, you did say that you would be happy to watch it with him. If he is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with then you will sort it out. Why not see if this spices things up a bit?
Personally i wouldn't be happy with it at all if it was my hubby, as I've got my own issues about sex (I won't bore you with them!). That said, I wouldn't leave him for it and I would try to sort it out.
On the other hand a friend of mine doesn'tmind that her bloke watches porn at all. It's up to you what your confortable with.
2007-10-09 09:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its perfectly normal, think you are looking too much into things being honest. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or think that you don't satisfy him, guys do this. Its extremely normal. If anything what you could do is play out fantasies for him, he'd love that!!!! And won't need to watch porn half the time just you!! Hehe
2007-10-09 23:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by Livelovelaugh 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think that people who get so upset about others watching porn should stop and think of the 1,000,s of worse things they could be doing.
How perfect are YOU !!!!!!!!
I don't watch porn, but only 'cos I have seen so much it bores me "stiff"
(Not a joke)
However maybe you are right. Maybe he is masturbating so much he does not feel like real sex, and you may be better NOT together.
2007-10-09 10:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Go back to him. 90% of men do it and admit to doing it. The other 10% tell lies.
2007-10-09 09:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by freelander 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he loves you and you love him. will you let porn that you say you will even watch with him break you relationship? why don't you instead schedule watching porn together.
2007-10-09 15:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by dani l 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋