I broke up with this guy back in June. After we broke up my one friend started getting really really close to him. I have a new boyfriend who I love more then anything else, so I have no feelings at all for my ex boyfriend. Anyway I just found out that their dating now. I dont talk to my ex anymore but I talk to my friend everyday. I'm really pist that she hasn't told me. It kinda makes me mad just that my friend is dating my ex someone who really hurt me. Should I not be mad that she's dating him?
I'm 14 my new boyfriends 16
my ex boyfriend is 14 and my friend whos dating him is 17 lol
2007-10-09 08:05:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I really dont have feelings for him and I'm not mad that their together I'm mad that she hasn't told me, they've been together for a month.
2007-10-09 08:11:36 · update #1
i'd be pissed. no friends dating exes. it's all about loyalty people. lol
2007-10-09 08:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by sunnydaze34509xoxo 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Do you think that you are more hurt than mad? I would definitely be hurt and that's o.k.. I would not trust my friend now or my ex. It's just good etiquette not to date a friends ex for any reason. I think when someone crosses the line like that, meaning your friend. How do you know you could trust her with anything else. As for your ex, good riddance!
2007-10-09 09:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes you should be angry. Friendship is all about trust and your friend obviously forgot about that key thing when she started dating your ex. She should have told you straight away!
But, look at it from her point of view. Maybe she was scared about what you'd say if you found out - its easy to say "i'd totally tell my mate straight away" but it's really hard when it comes to it because you start doubting how your mate will react.
The best advice i can give is to talk to your mate and tell her that she betrayed your trust by not telling you straight away but that you hope they have a happy relationship together. Then walk away and move on. If she ever does anything like this again, then tell her she's outta chances.
hope this helps x.x
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2007-10-09 08:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by MegSTAR 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Wow those ages are really messed up. But, I would be a little bit upset too. If she was interested in him before y'all got together then you shouldn't. I think if she is a good friend and she knows that the guy hurt you so bad that she shouldn't be with him no matter what. I would talk to her about it before it gets too complicated if it really bothers you that bad.
2007-10-09 08:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by Leslie M 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
In her defense, she was probably afraid you'd be mad and didn't want to upset you. Imagine that?! I can understand you being mad but don't let it consume you. Enjoy your new relationship and let theirs go if you can. If you want to discuss it, ask her without making her have to get defensive. This is not something to lose sleep or a friend over.
2007-10-09 08:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He's your X..get over it this will not be the first time nor the last a friend will date an X..It's not worth losing your friendship over it's just a guy
2007-10-09 08:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy cat lady >^ ^< 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
might ask yourself if you are pist that she's dating him despite everything you went through with him, or if its the fact that she hasn't told you about it yet.
If you know what he's like and she's truly your friend, you won't be mad that their dating. You'll be there for her when she goes through the same thing you did.
2007-10-09 08:12:46 · answer #7 · answered by maybe 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you have the right to be mad at her for not telling you the truth. But the real question I see is are you so mad your going to stop being her friend? I think that's what you should be trying to figure out.
2007-10-09 08:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by lovelittlelulu 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You still have feelings for him if you are mad he'd dating your Friend. Otherwise you wouldn't care. If he is really so bad and hurt you I'm sure he'll treat her the same way. Get over it and your feeling for him
2007-10-09 08:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by Ginger1 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
be mad if you want, but i'd just laugh. it's sad if a 17 yr. old has to go to a 14 year old for a relationship,... but no she shouldn't have dated your ex-, that's just wrong, but in this case it's just really pathetic, LMAO!!!
2007-10-09 08:09:48 · answer #10 · answered by Saphire 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if you like your boyfriend so much, you shouldn't be worrying. you have a right to be mad, of course. maybe your friend really likes him, so just tell your friend that you were upset that she didn't tell you. don't make a big deal out of it.
2007-10-09 11:46:32 · answer #11 · answered by ♪one•small•voice♪ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋