I live with her and I'm her age. I'm not having sex until I find someone I truly believe I will spend my life with. She is not going to ask her mom, and her boyfriend has been pressuring her for the past month. I tried to tell her about what could happen, but she wouldn't listen. She is meeting with her boyfriend tonight. I don't wanna tell (she really doesn't like me at all in the first place) but I'm afraid something bad is gonna happen. Also, how old were you when you first had sex?
2007-10-09 08:01:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I was 20 and it was on my wedding night, with the man iam still married to. We now have a son.
She will do what she wants to, regardless of what her mom says if she did ask her.
If you were an adult I would tell you to tell her mother, because she's a child and she needs to be monitored. If you were more comfortable with yourself and your own values, I'd encourage you to tell her mom anyway.
Children are raised to have values, it doesnt just happen, and they HAVE to be watched. If her mom hasnt trained her how to behave, and doesnt keep an eye on her, this obviously will happen.
2007-10-09 08:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are really afraid she will do something foolish, tell her mother. If she already doesn't like you, what do you have to lose? On the other hand, she could be making a rash decision, or she could not be. It depends on how she was raised. Just because she thinks she's ready to lose her viginity and you're not doesn't make her wrong and you right. I lost mine when I was seventeen, I loved the guy, and as far as I know he was a virgin too. Are we still together? No. But people rarely stay with their first boyfriend or girlfriend. The most important thing is to be educated about pregnancy and STD's. Sex is a part of life, it's love, it's fun, but it's not worth getting sick, dying, or getting knocked up.
2007-10-09 08:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha_is_Sparks22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she should answer this question: Are you married? If the answer is no then she shouldn't have sex.
Second of all if she's going to do it anyway, she should at least use protection.
About asking mom, what would her mom say? If her mom would say no then it's your decision whether or not to tell. If she would say yes go ahead then there's no point in telling mom!
I have never had sex. If you hadn't figured that out already.
2007-10-09 08:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 19. Still 19. I waited until I found the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. If shes going to do it, just ask her to use protection. the right time is different for everyone. Her mom wouldn't be able to stop her even if you did tell. She could just discourage her.
2007-10-09 12:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you cant tell someone what to do, the most you can do is just give her advices about it. Im 19 now and I was 17 yrs old when i first lost it to my bf and we've been together ever since. Just let her know all the precautions about stds and unwanted pregnancy and etc. If the bf keeps on pressuring her about it, it seems like he just wants to get inside of her pants.
2007-10-09 08:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by M@caroni 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay most people don't go up and say "Hey mom, can I have sex?" Sorry, it doesn't happen that way! Tell her to use a condom and be safe about it,she's old enough to know the consequences at that age.
2007-10-09 08:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by ☆ღWifey Wifeyღ☆ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She'll do what she wants, it sounds like she'll regret it too but ultimately it's her life. Try to get her to at least bring a condom for him to wear.
Of course she wouldn't ask her mom if she can have sex.
2007-10-09 08:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Manny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's ultimately her decision. you telling on her will not help her. if she wants to do it, she will do it regardless of her mom knowing.
try to tell her to use protection or to not do it if she doesn't want to.
i was 18 years old when i had sex for the first time.
2007-10-09 08:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Loogie's Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should DEFINITELY not do it just because her boyfriend wants her to. That is so stupid. You should do the right thing and tell her mom.
2007-10-09 08:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by xchasingsummerx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe you are going to stop your cousin, she is going to do what she wants. You keep your values, and live your life not hers.
2007-10-09 08:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by cfb193 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋