abortion...a few questions im asking you?

Question

i was just wondering about your thoughts on getting a abortion?

would you ever get one?

if yes why?

do you think the guy should have a say in the girl gettin an abortion yes or no?

is it ok if a girl is raped?

I think a person that gets an abortion is being selfish and only thinking about themselves and not the life they have inside them and are going to bring into this world

i should have answered my own question here

would you ever get one? NOPE

if yes why? ----

do you think the guy should have a say in the girl gettin an abortion yes or no?
i think they guy should have a say i have a friend thats ex had an abortion and didn't tell him till 3 months later and it about killed him to know that he wanted to have a child alot

is it ok if a girl is raped? i think in that case and only in that case she should get to say yes or no...i hope to never be in those shoes

PLEASE READ THIS!!!!

i wasn't expecting to get over 40 answers to this....im not asking this to judge ppl or because im pregnant im just wondering what others think thanks to the ppl who weren't rude and stated what they thought even tho i don't agree w/ it 100% ...i understand ppl do things for different reasons but i think if you are mature enough to take the chance and have sex w/ out a condom or birth control they you need to step up and have the child no child would say i would rather be DEAD knowing my mom didn't care then know she did care enough to put me up for adoption and maybe give me a better life

if you add on to questions after reading others please put edit or send me an email w/ other thoughts please don't be rude i want to hear what you say either if you agree w/ me or not im pretty interested now to hear everything

Answer 1

1st of all, are you asking because you really want to know, or you just want to judge people that you don't know based on their answers. Your last statement tells me the latter. Cause let me tell you, I know PLENTY of people who have the same opinion about abortion and are the MOST selfish people I know. (that's not you, I don't know you, these are people that I actually know and have been around for a long time). You can't say you've never ever done anything for your own purposes..we do it everyday, we are all prone to that basic human trait. Whenever we do things and make decisions that benefits us...someone is always on the other end of that decision. We might try really hard to not be that way, but certain circumstances always bring it out.

I've never had an abortion..probably never will....but it's not my place to tell others what they should or shouldn't do based on my own opinions. I am not in their shoes, I am NOT in their place. I never judge people on their actions or reactions because you just never know where they're at in life that is causing said actions. I think...what is going on in their head that caused that?

If I EVER got an abortion, I'd have to be in a really dark place, and I mean SERIOUSLY dark place.

The men should have an opinion but ultimately it is up to the woman.

I've never gotten pregnant from a rape, or ever been raped for that matter so I really can't give a biased opinion on that. My opinion still stands on it's ultimately up to the individual. I understand those that do have one and I admire those that don't. It truly takes a strong person to have a child out of rape.

and a little commentary on your commentary. You make it sound as if women are running around getting abortions and celebrating it. MOST women think long and hard whether or not they should get one. It is NOT a decision they made on a whim. And MOST of them suffer for years after the fact for with every decision (good or bad) comes a consequence.

Case in point, I have a friend who had an abortion a several years back. She was in college at the time. She didn't take that decision lightly either and she still grieves over it...twice a year..on the anniversary of the abortion and around the month that baby would have been born.

My best friend had an abortion at 15. She actually had to have one because her life was in jeopardy. She was suffering something that would kill her AND the baby. She still thinks and mourns her baby and thinks "my son would have been (insert age here) right now...she'll be 45 in December.

When a woman gets an abortion, yes they might think "I just can't do this right now" but they also think "I just can't give this baby what he or she needs right now." Believe it or not, some women want to give their all when they have a child and not just part of themselves (which is a huge problem in society nowadays). If they're trying to work, go to school, and get their life on track, how much of themselves can they give to that child? That is what they are thinking. this is the majority of women who make the decision to have abortions. Yes, there are women out there who do it just because they don't want to deal with a child, but that is the very low minority. Have you ever really talked to someone who had one? Sit down and listen to their story, you might be surprised. If you get one that waves it off as if it was nothing is probably the one that hurting the most. People deal with pain in different ways.

Some people's level of threshold is higher than others, never judge other's on what yours is lest you want to find yourself being judged on their's. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. What you're strong in, someone else may not be, that doesn't make their value any less. But on the same token, they might have a strength that you do not posses, are you any less because of it? No, of course not, you are a beautiful human being who is living a life day by day just like the rest of us.

Answer 2

I don't know if I would ever get an abortion. I've have never been in the position where I needed to decide.

I might get one if I was raped, or if I get pregnant sometime before I'm out of high school and college (I don't see that happening though).

I don't believe the guy has any say in whether or not the girl gets an abortion. It is the girl's body and she has the right to not have a baby inside of her if she doesn't want it. This goes both ways though. A guy should never force his girlfriend or wife to get an abortion.

If a girl is raped, I think it is definitely ok for her to get an abortion. But it is her choice alone. It's not up to anyone else to decide if this is the right choice for her.

Just to throw this out there, some people who are perfectly emotionally and financially stable get abortions when they know their child is going to born with a serious birth defect. I don't think this is ok. That's treating an unborn fetus a little too carelessly.

Overall, I'm pro-choice. I don't think other people should decide whether or not a woman can get an abortion. It is her choice and her choice alone, and it is nobody else's business either.

EDIT** I just read some other answers and I think all the children on this site saying that they would never get an abortion are ridiculously naive. How would you know? It is pure ignorance to think in black and white...

Answer 3

The most common argument that I've heard in favor of abortion "rights" is that the fetus is completely dependent on the mother and would die if the mother didn't exist, which they see as proof that the fetus is not actually alive but is, instead, a part of the woman's body, and therefor hers to destroy.
This does not make sense, in that even an infant is completely helpless and dependent on its caretakers. This does not mean that it is not alive, nor does it mean that it is its caretaker's right to destroy it.
Pro-abortionists also argue that the fetus is so simple that it can not be considered alive. I think that for obvious reasons this is a cop-out. There are plenty of extremely simple organisms that we readily consider to be alive, and although most of us would not think twice about smashing them (or dismembering them with a razor-sharp vacuum, for that matter), these organisms will never develop into someone who we can interact with on a human level. Notice that I don't say "develop into a human being", because a fetus already is a human being. It is not something that contains all of the potential of a human being. It IS a human being that is simply helpless and developing.
The fact that it is inside of its mother makes no difference. The fact that it can not breathe on its own yet makes no difference. A 3 month old baby cannot feed itself, does this make it not alive?
We, as human beings, are constantly developing and changing. Our cells are splitting and multiplying and growing and dying, etc. This development and adaptation to new environments is exactly what makes us alive, yet somehow some people try to use it to prove that a fetus is not alive - the fact that it is "still developing". These arguments, and, well, every other pro-abortion argument is a cop-out.
If life does not start at conception, then when? Pro-abortionists place arbitrary life starting points at different stages of development, and regular people who are pro-abortion generally when asked this don't know what to say. Is it when the sperm and egg join? Is it when the nervous system has developed, the eyes? Or is it when the tiny little toes have developed that would break your heart to see lifeless on some operating table?
My belief is that it is when the sperm and egg join, two half-cells (of a sort), that combine to form the first cell that is completely unique from both the cells of the father and the cells of the mother. This is the first cell of a new human being. This cell, and all following cells, ARE that new human being.

Answer 4

I think abortion really comes down to the choice of the people involoved. I do not think anyone has the right to tell a women she can or can not have an abortion. It is compeletly legal medical procedure. If they feel it is better choice for them not to have a child at this time then maybe abortion is the answer for them.

That said I would probably not get an abortion, but I am also getting close to 30 with a stable career and a 2 year old. If I was in younger, in school, and with out a stable source of income I may think differently.

Yes I do think the guy should have a say in the abortion, since he helped create the situation, he needs to have a say in what happens next.

I complelty support it if the girl was rapped. If they do go foward and have the child it is a constant reminder of a tragic situation. I could not ask someone to live with that.

Answer 5

As I've answered this questions many times before, I would never myself get an abortion. I don't think that the guy should be able to make that decision, but I do feel that his opinion should be considered.

I do definitely believe that a woman who conceives from a rape should not be judged for having an abortion. A friend of mine was raped when she was quite young and thankfully did not get pregnant. She is still dealing with that trauma today and I honestly don't know if she would have survived to this day if she had become pregnant. Had she become pregnant and kept it, she would then have to basically be raped again and again every day of that pregnancy knowing that her rapist's child was growing inside her. Then she would have had to make the decision to either raise her rapist's baby or give away her own flesh and blood.

I also know a girl who's mother and grandmother both died in childbirth, meaning that should she ever get pregnant, there would be a strong liklihood that she wouldn't survive delivery. Should she ever become pregnant, I certainly wouldn't look down on her if she chose to abort it.

I think that there are times when people have to look out for themselves. I think it's horrifying that people might use abortion as a form of birth control, simply because they were lazy. I do however think that it's necessary for certain situations.

Answer 6

1. I think it should remain a choice for the woman to make.

2. I do not want to ever get one but I'm not about to say I never will.

3. If I did it would because of rape, because of something serious being wrong with the baby, because of it being unhealthy for me to bring it to term, because I felt I was unable to properly care for it.

4. I think he should be able to voice his opinion but the choice should ultimately be the womans.

5. It is perfectly fine, I think carrying a child for nine months that was conceived via rape would very likely cause more emotional and psychological trauma than have an abortion because of rape will.

I think there are many reasons behind people having abortions, yes some are selfish and ignorant others are very valid or at least the woman feels they are valid at the time. I hope I am never ever ever in a position where I even feel I have to make that decision but I will be willing to hold the hand of any of my friends if they have to.

Answer 7

I was raped, and still have my child. I love my child though. My child didn't ask for what happened to me. It's not my child's fault.
However, for others, they probably feel differently. I would never have an abortion. Adoption would be a better (extremely better) choice to pick. Put the child up for adoption so the child could have a fair chance to have a kind, loving parent.
I think to some extent the guy should have a say, but it should be a joint decision. But in the end, it's the girl's decision. Think before you act

Answer 8

Alot of time we have a tendancy to be selfish. I can understand why you might think a person who has an abortion is being selfish, only thinking of themselves. But did you ever consider that if the person who is pregnant is unable physically, mentally, financially or emotionally support that child but they really WANT a little baby to care for, what will happen to that child. I'm not saying it's right, I'm not saying it's wrong. I am saying that the decision is a very personal one and all options should be considered when making it. There is also adoption.

Answer 9

I would NEVER get an abortion, even in all the cases you mentioned. it's not okay for anyone. why? it's still murder. if you weren't married and were pregnant, that's your fault and there is no reason that you should commit that sin and then go ahead and do another one. even if you were raped, it's still being selfish and it's still murder. you cannot change that fact. in one case it is murder, and in all cases it is murder.
I agree, the woman getting the abortion is selfish and isn't thinking about her child. doesn't she ever want her child to experience life and all it's joys? sure there are hard times and sadness but why not give them the chance to live their life to the fullest?
also what if your child was someone meant to be important and famous in history? what if they ended poverty in many countries, found the cure for cancer, or was the greatest president our country ever had. but you murdered them.

also, women that have abortions live their lives depressed when they see other kids that would have been the same age as their child, if only they had't killed him or her. also instead of their child's birthday, it would be marked as their death day. that's pretty depressing. it's like, "oh, five years ago today I had an abortion. yay! I'm free of children because I "got ride of" my own child. I'm so happy." yeah right.
I like was "Lizzy" wrote

Answer 10

i think abortion should not be allowed the baby inside you is already a baby it has a heartbeat and is alive and if a person gets an abortion its like murder baby's are baby's they just cant hold them yet. i dont think it is right for a guy to have an oppinion if the guy doesnt want to be the father or have anything to do with it then dont sign the papers. i understand that if a girl gets raped she should have the right to abort or not that i agree with cause then that will remind you and that person that raped that girl will always be in her life even if the guy is not there he will always be there and if the girl does not want that she should have the right to abort but other than that no it is not right