I am not saying that littlegirls that are pregnant dont deserve that baby i am just saying that god works in very odd ways. considering that their are girls as young as 12 years old and having a baby. i mean how in the hell is a 12 year old going to support a baby when she is still a baby herself?! however some people dont deserve to have childern such as this little girl that is friends with my sister in law. she has 5 childern and her youbgest is 15 months old, and what is her age you ask she is only 18 as of june. now you tell me why i should not be a little bit angry at the situation.
2007-10-09 07:21:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Don't be angry at the situation,you will spend too much negative energy being angry about something you can't control, this young girl's situation is most difficult for her, i'm sure, she made some adult decisions too soon. i think it is beautiful for someone who really wants a baby, and can afford to make a comfortable place for a baby, and has planned everything all out to include a baby...yes, this is a most beautiful dream...but, in the real world, things don't always happen that way, the perfect way. i was raised in a comfortable home, with parents who were well established and well into their late forties, and five older brothers, the one closest in age to me 10yrs my senior...i remember overhearing people say, "Change of Life Baby", and"Oops" baby in reference to them having me all last and all late in life. My parents loved me, i know i was a surprise, some people they knew thought it wasn't proper or smart, or financially wise for them to "start all over", glad they decided to keep me even when doctors said i might be retarted,("developmentally disabled") because her eggs were all old and curled up,dried up,decrepit, whatever, told them their insurance covered "elective options" for a high risk pregnancy, encouraged them to annihilate me...(hey, i'm still here!)You will be so happy when you have your baby, cause your baby is wanted, don't stay mad at the little mommi who didn't think ahead, and now needs all the help she can get, i bet she loves her babies, everybody probably talks mean about her, not you, though, so don't be bitter, I know it seems unfair, but you never know what happened in another person's life, maybe she doesn't have a mom, or one that doesn't care, please try to have compassion for another person, you can't keep all that anger, let it go so you can stay positive, people make decisions before they are ready, i'm sure the little mother you referred to is going through alot in her situation that nobody knows about. Try to be patient, but don' be angry, it won't make you feel better, please relax,keep loving life...You said yourself, God works in mysterious ways, stay hopeful, please don't be mad, okay
2007-10-10 06:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LaVitaLoca! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 in my opinion is far too young.. not to mention that whoever the father is should be locked up! That is rape. It is illegal for her to be having sex, and the parents if they were aware an are not taking legalaction should also be held accountable.
Now, as far as allowing them to or not to give birth is a whole other deal. My opinion here... but no person has the right to tell someone else they can or cannot have a baby. It is up to the person and their beliefs. Now raising a child.... I do not believe a 12 year old has the ability of the knowledge to properly care for a child.
2007-10-09 14:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by A A 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anyone in their teen years are not emotionally mature enough to handle sex and the consequences of what can happen. It doesn't matter if you are 12, 16, 17, 18 years old, still there is a lot of changes a person has to make when they have a child. I do not understand why anyone would want to lose out on their adolescence. Teenagers need to quit having sex. (yah I know right, only in a perfect world would that happen)
2007-10-10 12:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Soda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl should be more responsible. I'm sure she has a hard time supporting these children.I am sure she loves them just as much as if she were rich and could easily support them.God has a purpose for everything he does but man does not. She is the one that chose to get pregnant.God will watch and see how others react to her situation and how many offer to help her or offer to condemn her.Everything has a reason,we may never know why but God does.I know it hurts when you want a child and can't have one and others seem to just pop them out without concern for how they will be raised or supported.Please don't be angry because, you are only hurting yourself. She could care less if you are so you definitely aren't hurting her.
2007-10-09 14:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Ava 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would be very upset if my daughter was 18 well not even 18 and had 5 kids then you gotta ask herself what was her parents doing while she was supposed be taken care of her first baby? they were still watching the baby and the next baby and the next baby while she was running wild...i don't think its all her fault...and same for the girls that are 12ish that have babies they weren't being watch and taken care of like they should have been that is why things like this happen and some times it changes ppl for the best and some times for the worse...i know ppl who are in their 30's that shouldn't have kids cuz they can't take care of themselves so its not just the younger ppl and teens
my best friend and her bf were kinda like that...and now they have a 3 month out they are great parents both cleaned up their lives got better jobs etc and alot of ppl thought they would never do it but a baby changed them for the better
2007-10-09 14:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can be angry but that doesn't change anything. I think she is doing a HUGE injustice to her kids. It is a selfish thing to do when you aren't able to fully support and care for the baby yourself.
I think of it this way, if I could choose, would I want a 15 year old mother or a 20+ mother?... I think anyone would choose an older more experienced mother for obvious reasons.
2007-10-09 14:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by katiebug 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can be upset at this situation but, that wont make things better. My sister had her first at 13. My mom took care of them. Then my sisters daughter followed in her footsteps and had one a month ago at age 15. Yes my sister takes care of both of them just like my mom took care of her. Things are so different now then when i was younger and I'm only 24. Its hard knowing that my niece has a baby. It seems like yesterday i was helping her with her homework and now im helping take care of her baby because emotionally, she can not handle it. God does work in mystereious ways but, that baby was born for a reason.
2007-10-09 14:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Umm ok well for one life is not fair. Kids should stop having unprotected sex or sex period! God does not punish. Not in that way, he gives us obstacles and helps us through it. And nobody gets to have a baby. Its not like there is some over powering force that decides this kid and that kid are gonna have babies before they turn 15. It happens because children are irresponsible and have sex too early. There fault, not God.
2007-10-10 16:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by bella_babe_86 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know excatly what your talking about and i didnt know it was that bad until i started reading question in this area. I dont think it is fair because their is kids having kids all the time and dont even want them and then there are married couples that want kids but cant have them. I think kids should wait til marriage to do anything and should be able to support a kid before they go off and make them. Im only 17 myself but i am mature for my age.
2007-10-09 14:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very dangerous for 12-year-old to be pregnant, I honestly don't think their bodies are fully capable of carrying a child to term despite the fact that they are able to conceive. I'm more worried about what is making it so that children are having sex and getting pregnant. Makes me think we should start giving them more thorough sex ed. classes when they are younger and go more in depth regarding the difficulty of everything from the various abortion options to vaginal birth and c-section.
2007-10-09 16:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by Manny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋